It's Been Almost Three Weeks Since My Wife Died

[Joeve]

It hardly seems like it's been so short a time, even beng busy as I have been, but it feels like months have passed. I hope to have a new radio show up very soon, I will do one dedicated to my wife and her life (and using her experience as an example of what's wrong with America today) and then I will get on with the business at hand, showing how the entire political culture is making life miserable for working people.

With the funeral business overwith, the loneliness is beginning to hit me again: I miss having someone to talk to and come home to, those of you who have ever lost a loved one will know how I feel. I have yet to have a big emotional moment, I'm not sure I ever will; my grief is coming in small amounts and will continue probably for the rest of my life. Thankfully there is no sense of regret or anger; there's no "if only I had done this" moment thaty will haunt me, just a sense of sadness for the things we wanted to do together but now never will.

I have received some very generous donations from people. These have helped me out a lot, and I want to thank everyone who wrote to express their condolences and who donated. I am, as always, strapped for cash and I'm still unemployed, so donations will still be gladly accepted if any of you would like to throw a few coins in the tin. Hopefully I will be back employed soon, and if MasterBen's plans reach fruition wou will see the Cup O' Joe Show alongside Bob Kincaid and others on a new liberal radio network.

Again, my thanks to everyone for their kind words and generous donations. I hope not to be so out of touch in the future.

-Joe Vecchio

Cup O' Joe - Blog Of The Working Man!

[Sanity Claws]

1. My condolences

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Caoimhe]

13. I'm so sorry

She sounds like a wonderful person. It isn't easy to share information so personal. I wish you the best in your future and know that she will always be in your heart and the eyes of her children.

[Vinnie From Indy]

2. My condolences

It always seems that the most difficult time is right after the funeral services etc. I wish you sunnier days and happy memories in the future!

[Maccagirl]

3. Cyber chat rooms are a very poor substitute for a partner

so please reach out to your loved ones and let them help you through this difficult period.

:grouphug:

[titoresque]

4. Im so sorry

My step father died unexpectedly a few years ago. He and my Mom had been together for 22 years. They had 5 children together. Anyhow, of course my entire family grieved but to see what my mom went thru and all the stages really broke my heart. My only advice is to listen to yourself and not much of what anyone else says. It seems people come out of the woodwork with good intentions but I really don't think anyone has the answers for how someone else should grieve and for how long.
Sending you a big warm hug! :hug:

[rox63]

5. I am so sorry for your loss

Please accept my sincere sympathies. :grouphug:

[sdfernando]

6. I'm so sorry for your loss

I'm so sorry for your loss. I remember when my mother passed and how devastating that was. Its been almost 10 months now, and I still think of her often and shed tears. Stay strong and reach out to family and friends, they will be invaluable to you at this time.

[Cleita]

7. So sorry to hear about your loss Joe.

:hug: I know how lonely it is. I lost my husband last December. Having no one to talk to all of a sudden and someone to care for is very hard. Although keeping busy and doing something positive helps. Best of luck in your new endeavors. The pain is still there, but I feel doing what I can to leave this world a better place when my time comes is what my job is now. I know you will find your way as well.

[rockymountaindem]

8. My condolences.

[LunaC]

9. This brought me peace when I was grieving

I hope it does the same for you.


OLD SOULS

by Paul Williams


Our love is an old love.
It’s older than all our years.
I have seen in strange young eyes
familiar tears.

We’re old souls in a new life.
They gave us a new life to live and learn.
Some time to touch old friends
and still return.

Our paths have crossed and parted.
This love was started
long, long ago.
In its story lives are pages.
Fill them up.
May ours turn slow.

Our love is a strong love.
We give it all and still receive.
So with empty arms
we must still believe.

All souls last forever
So we need never fear goodbye.
A kiss when you must go.
No tears....
In time we kiss hello.

[OmmmSweetOmmm]

10. My deepest condolences to you Joe & your family. The love of my life

passed over a little more than 5 years ago, and I have been there. I got through most days, one minute at a time, with one foot in front of the other. It appears from your words that your love for each other was unconditional and that is the greatest blessing one can have, and Cathy, although no longer with you physically, will always be with you. I'm sure she has already made that known to you.

Blessings,
Ommm

[FreedomAngel82]

11. I'm sorry for your loss

:hug: My grandmother just lost my grandfather not long ago. It'll take a while to get used to the loneliness. My grandmother is doing pretty good for her. She just stays busy and does things with friends and family. Hopefully your radio show will do well. :hug: Stay strong! Hope to see you around DU some more.

[Zynx]

12. I am very sorry to hear about this.

Losing family, particularly family that close to you is an enormous blow. I hope you continue to find the strength to move through this moment of grieving to the future.

[jackster]

14. Joe, my deepest sympathies to you....

I am unable to give you anything but my best wishes and prayers of peace and prosperity. You will find a loving supportive community here. Please use it anytime you need it!

[papau]

15. I am sorry for your loss - and wish you and her only good things

and good luck getting the new gig.

The pain of death doesn't go away - but it does dim.

I wish you well.

[Writer]

16. We are all here for you.

My prayers are with you in your time of loss. I am glad to read that you are concentrating on a radio show. Having contact with listeners will help - in fact, the more contact you have with others, a greater sense of community you will feel, and will help ebb the loneliness.

Take care.

[applegrove]

17. Yes - very sorry. n/t

[Beaverhausen]

18. I'm very sorry

:hug:

[Bunny]

19. I'm so sorry.

Take care of yourself. :hug:

[myrna minx]

20. I am so sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[Joeve]

21. Thank You Everyone...

for your kind words.

-Joe

[sepia_steel]

22. I don't know how it feels to lose a partner

but i do know how it feels to lose and miss a loved one. best wishes to you! :hug:

[bklyncowgirl]

23. I'm sorry for your loss, Joe. My mother died in February.

I'm still not over it.

[area51]

24. I'm sorry for your loss, Joe.

I hope you will get a job soon. :hug:

[peekaloo]

25. Bless your heart.

:hug:

hang in there friend.


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