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There is a difference between grief and DISAPPOINTMENT. I don't believe anyone can be "prepared" for grief. I'll give you an example in a minute. As for disappointment, only children or those with personality defects like mr. bush, can not deal with it and get on with their lives. Sure it hurts, and when we hurt we need a support system. That's one of the reasons that DU is here for us, is it not? No two people grieve alike, this I KNOW. let's just all BE THERE FOR EACH OTHER, for whatever reason. Getting back to my example of preparing for grief; My dear Mother had Alzheimers. She started developing symptoms right after she retired at 65. She was able to function at home with my Dad for about 4 or 5 years. When Dad got sick, we put her in a nursing home for "respite care",and she ended up staying there for 11 yrs. before she died of pneumonia. The last 5 yrs, of her life in the N.H. she was like a vegetable. No longer recognizing anyone, or communicating at all. At the point she no longer knew if I were there or not, for all intents and purposes, I had lost my Mother, and went through a long grieving process. I thought "Lord why are you allowing her to live so long like this"? and prayed that He would take her home to Himself to be with my Dad, who had passed a year before she did. I thought I was totally "insulated" and had done all my grieving. I thought it would be "easier" to take when the Lord finally took her home. WRONG!!! When I got the call that she was gone, it hit me just as hard, and it was like losing her twice!! So no, I don't think anyone can prepare for grief, but love never dies, and our lives go on, but ,......never without HOPE!!:grouphug:
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