I Asked Someone To Marry Me Tonight

[Don_G]

And she said "yes."

:scared:

[Rowdyboy]

1. Let me be the first to offer Congratulations!

To you both :toast:

I've been in a committed partnership for over fifteen years and its great!

[historian]

2. well as someone who has been married

for 26 years its not that terrible

[afraid_of_the_dark]

41. Now that sounds like a ringing endorsement.

"well as someone who has been married for 26 years its not that terrible"

The marriage part (for me) has been pretty good. We've had our ups and downs, but mostly ups. The wedding on the other hand is what you really need to watch out for! Just keep telling yourself (and your fiancee') - "A wedding is only a day... a marriage is a lifetime." The wedding planning was probably the most stressful time in our relationship, so if you can get through that you've got a good shot. :)

[sandnsea]

42. Okay guys, chime in here

My daughter is planning a wedding and her fiance is planning on buying a truck. He is absolutely wonderful, NO complaints at all. I know he really wants to get married, they're financially in pretty good shape and all of that. So what is this sudden obsession with the truck over the wedding planning???

And Congratulations AOTD, 23 years here and it works out okay.

[fudge stripe cookays]

73. Men HATE wedding planning.

It's probably his way of coping.

The wedding is the BRIDE'S DAY. It's what she's been planning for her whole life. She wants every detail to be perfect, and will drive everyone around her to distraction with planning.

Guys, on the other hand, just want to get through the wedding to the "marriage" part.

I can remember reprehensor and I having maybe 3 or 4 minor quarrels during the entire course of our relationship-- but one of the most incredibly stupid was over the wedding invitations. Since he hadn't been interested in any of the process, I went ahead and picked a font to do them (we printed our own), and he got pissed. How was I supposed to know?

Cut the poor guy some slack. I'm sure it's not easy. Brides are a difficult bunch to deal with.

[PROGRESSIVE1]

3. Congratulations!!!

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

[boobooday]

4. Congratulations!

I think marriage is great. Sunday is my 17th anniversary! Here's to many years of laughter and joy and hot sex.

:toast:

http://www.wgoeshome.com

[Renew Deal]

5. Congrats!!! You know what that means....

Bachelor Party

:party: :yourock: :headbang: :beer: :) :party: :yourock: :headbang: :beer: :) :party: :yourock: :headbang: :beer: :) :party: :yourock: :headbang: :beer: :) :party: :yourock: :headbang: :beer: :)

[Don_G]

13. Bachelor Party?

During the Kentucky Derby festivites here?

[Renew Deal]

14. huh?

I don't get it. But the Derby only lasts 2 minutes.

[Don_G]

21. The Festivites Last One Month

And ends the first Saturday of May which happens to span the time we are spending together.

The Derby may set a 2-and-a-half minute record, but I intend on lasting 20 years and more with the partner in my life.

[MrSlayer]

6. My Condolences.

Good luck. :P

[Don_G]

24. I Know

Kinda of like commitimg matrimony....

[cally]

7. Congrats!!!

I'm happy and I think marriage is great. Tell us more

[Not Me]

8. Congratulations!!!

You know you have a huge responsibility now...upholding the sanctity of marriage and all. :)

Many years of happiness!

[skooooo]

9. Great, but ....

......why do you have the "scared" symbol on your post. Do you regret asking?

[Madrone]

12. You must have missed the threads from a couple of weeks ago...

:scared: is right!


Seriously, I wish you guys the best, Don_G. I really do.

[rwheeler31]

10. Do not be too scared

Your future could be wonderful, or tough, or interesting, or boring an comrotable, but you will have someone close to share it.

[Jack Rabbit]

11. Congratualtions and good luck

!!

[redwitch]

15. when my husband asked me amd I said yes...

I didn't sleep all night for thinking "what the hell have I done????" Twenty three years later I wonder why I was so scared-Best and smartest thing I ever did was marry him! Congrats to you both. It's not always easy, but it's worth the effort.

[Don_G]

16. I Think It Will Be

But sometimes she "knows" more than I do.

I think it's worth the effort, but still....

:scared:

[Van Helsing]

17. Hey, congrats!

There's nothing to be scared of if you love her. Trust me on that. You'll be fine. :)

[camero]

18. Is she pregnant?

Enquiring minds want to know. :o

[Don_G]

23. We've Tried Our Best

The rest is up to her college schedule and possibly Walgreen's to determine what happened or didn't.

She's also a Cubbies fan....

[Mattforclark]

19. congratulations

I hope you are happy... ;)

[LividLiberal]

20. I'm having a sense of deja vu. Seems I just saw you in this thread

a few weeks ago. I'm getting people confused!

Congratulations!

[Don_G]

22. We Had A Fight

And both of us are scared and we both have a lot in common and we don't like to admit our mistakes in the past.

I'm 50 and just thought about the "husband" part of my life.

It's all her fault: she wasn't there for me 30 years ago and 700 miles away.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

26. Hey last time you proposed I got a 70 paragraph note from a whacked out

crazy obsessive nut that made your relationship look perfectly normal.

Best wishes...and good luck.

[Don_G]

27. Huh?

You mean I'm a 5'10" 150-Pound Hairy-Lipped "Hunk" sans chest-hair?

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

28. I mean at least you only suffer from ONE personality

;-)

and it's not one I have to suffer :D unlike my albatross who keeps manifesting in sockpuppet after sockpuppet.

[Don_G]

29. Only Two-To-Seven

Her sister from hell, her Father who is just on this side of senile and knowing she's been abused most of her life.

There's no way I can wave a magic wand and make "everything" go away to satisfy our outrage about what's happened.

I'm also a "dumb guy" and have been known to pull a few "Tim Allens" in my time.

[Don_G]

57. Sock puppet?

Democrats belong on this board.

[camero]

69. Dems can be sockpuppets too

See? :)

[Rhiannon12866]

31. Not only are you confusing Don, but you're confusing me

I don't remember this. I just remember people congratulating him. What is a "sock puppet," anyway? I'm sorry, but I just don't know. Please explain.:shrug:

[Don_G]

38. She's Been Abused

By her family as recently as yesterday, several people at DU (she sent me her PM's) and we're working everything out.

Thank you for your help: you've been a bright sun on a rainy day....

[Don_G]

39. 70 Paragraphs "Cut & Paste?"

From me or her?

And from us or the folks in Chicago or Kentucky that know "us" better than we know ourselves?

Allow "us" to build a life together without negative opinionated input and I'll ignore the PM's she's recieved via FAX and through DU.

Want copies?

[Don_G]

44. 70 Paragraphs "Cut & Paste?"

What program are you on that accepts a 70 paragraph message without kicking it out?

Obsessive? Like in trying to run democrats off of DU?

[TheWizardOfMudd]

25. Are you crazy?

Don't do it.

Trust me.

[HEyHEY]

30. well done

[Rhiannon12866]

32. I still wish you both all my best

I guess I am the eternal optimist. I am very fond of both of you and really hope it works out. I think that you both have been through tough times and both deserve happiness.:-)

[peacefreak]

33. Best wishes.

When you can find someone in this whacked out, crazy world to love & be loved it's nothing less than a miracle. May you both have all the happiness & joy that you deserve.

[supernova]

34. Congratulations to you both

:D

I hope you two can find the strength to sustain each other.

[latebloomer]

35. Much happiness!

And, as a 13-year veteran of the marriage wars, i recommend couples counseling-- before, during, and till death do you part! Works for us. (Well, maybe we'll eventually graduate.)

[UrbScotty]

36. WOW! Congratulations! (nt)

[Parrcrow]

37. Congratulations Don G

:toast:

[Name removed]

40. Deleted message

Message removed by moderator. Click here to review the message board rules.

[greatauntoftriplets]

46. Same one. n/t

[Skittles]

43. SWEET!

Congratulations Don! :D

[Zomby Woof]

52. do you know the story behind this?

[Skittles]

53. well, I.......................er................................

apparently NOT ??? :o

[Dookus]

54. heheh

*hands skittles a bowl of popcorn*

[greatauntoftriplets]

55. Black comedy?

*lotso popcorn for Skittles*

[Don_G]

58. You know nothing about her

You have passed judgment on the person that I am in love with.

[greatauntoftriplets]

60. I've met her.

n/t

[Don_G]

66. For All Of 10 Seconds?

And you "know" her?

I've heard....

[greatauntoftriplets]

67. 1 1/2 hours.

On edit: She talked a lot.

[Skittles]

70. I guess I am kind of lost

I would like to wish Don and Ms. Don well. :D

[Rhiannon12866]

72. Good for you. I do, as well.

It is a long story, but, if this makes them happy, then more power to them. Happiness is different for everyone.:shrug:

[Don_G]

74. For All Of 10 Seconds?

So do you.

[Don_G]

77. As I recall

You mentioned that you didn't want her at the meeting and she wasn't invited so you passed judgment prior to her ever showing up right?

The meetings in Chicago should be for everyone and not just one person.

[greatauntoftriplets]

78. I said nothing.

n/t

[Rhiannon12866]

82. Yes, you did, since I remember the incident

I think that we should just wish these people well. It is their decision. I have no fight with you, since I have also always liked you a great deal and been glad to encounter you on the board. And we are both friends with GBNC. People will always make their own decisions, right or wrong. This one seems right for them. I wish them every happiness. They both have lived too long without it.:shrug:

[Don_G]

83. Thanks

.

[radwriter0555]

62. I got raisinets to share, if anyone wants some.

Pull up a chair.

[Mercurius]

45. I'm glad she said yes.

:-)

[Rhiannon12866]

47. Didn't you post this same thing, previously? About a week ago?

Is it the same person, or are you a serial proposer?:shrug:

[JohnKleeb]

50. hes a bigamist

j/k.

[Rhiannon12866]

71. Maybe so

Stranger things have happened on DU. But I think it is the same DUer that he mentioned previously. I am sure we will see.:-)

[Zinfandel]

48. What a drag!

[Name removed]

65. Deleted message

Message removed by moderator. Click here to review the message board rules.

[SW FL Dem]

49. Congratulations

Celebrated our 18th last month.

[tinnyguy1777]

51. Congratulations-------and dont be scared---------

Its a helluva experience. We are celebrating 40 years married, tomorrow, on April 18. We have had a great time!!!!!!!!

[Crewleader]

56. Another one bites the dust....:)

Hey My Friend, I couldn't be happier for YOU...being fifty also, we're in the same club so I know where your head is at and I only hope your wife to be knows the special guy she is getting!
May your life together always bring you happiness and good health!

Best of everything Don_G! :hug:

[prolesunited]

59. Please see a lawyer

and get a pre-nup agreement and ensure your assets are protected.

Best of luck. I have a feeling you're going to need it.

[Zomby Woof]

61. snarf

Touché. :-)

[radwriter0555]

63. yeah, that one made me *Snarf* too...

lol

[bicentennial_baby]

64. Good advice

Considering...

[SCRUBDASHRUB]

68. MAZEL TOV!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Susang]

75. Sane and reasonable advice

From a kind and caring person. Please listen to it DonG. There is nothing wrong with protecting the things you've worked so hard for.

I also have to wonder at your posting this announcement followed by a "scared" icon after the what happened to the last thread you posted of this nature. Knowing the reaction your thread received, I'm curious what you thought was going to happen when you posted this time. It seems like you may have been looking for more input than just simple congratulations. I could be wrong....

Overcoming the objections of others and amazing obstacles can seem very romantic and noble, but in reality it is hard work and extremely hard on a relationship. From what I can tell from your posts, you are facing a long, rocky road. I wish you well, but please, please, please take care of yourself and any people who may depend upon you.

[Don_G]

80. You don't know her

She has RSD why don't you read up on the disease.
http://www.rsds.org/2/what_is_rsd_crps/index.html

She has overcome obstacles in her life and that is why I fell in love with her when this board started out.

She has RSD and she could have stayed on SSD/Welfare for the rest of her life but she decided to go through gastric bypass and lose the weight in order to go back to college and become a chef.

She stuck in College when all of her teeth were removed and she went to school without any teeth so that she wouldn't fall behind.

Her childhood was not a happy one and I have met the abusive sister that beats on her. I have witnessed her everyday life and I have gotten to know her and love her because she is a caring and loving person.

She lost her house in Buffalo Grove that was worth a half million dollars and she is not what you people think she is.

She was being harassed by several people that just can't let their hatred die for her on this board and they are the ones that need some help.

She is a democrat that gives her spare time to help cook for homeless and abused women in Chicago and that my friend is a democrat unlike the hate that some people feel towards her.

[Susang]

81. I only know her from this board

The same way I know you. Which is to say, I only know what you choose to put out there. I have no ill will towards either of you.

Pre-nups can protect both participant's interests safely and legally. Your resistance to a normal and legal seems out of character for a 50 year old, experienced man.

As you never addressed my question about why you posted this thread in the first place after the response you received from the first one, I'm going to have to assume that you pretty much are getting what you were looking for out of this. Well, more power to you and good luck. I have a feeling you're going to need it. Marriage itself is hard enough without all the baggage yours appears to be bundled with.

Peace.

[Don_G]

76. You know her?

She has a job paying $65,000.00 a year as a Chef and has paid me back on some of the gifts that I bought for her and you know her like i do?

She made sure that I had presents for Christmas and that I eat properly and you people pass judgment on her.

[latebloomer]

79. All I know of her is what she posted here

about herself and her relationship with you.

Nuff said.