Married DUers: How often do you "do IT"?

[elfwitch]

What is your average number of times per day/week/month?

Just curious about how often you have time to make the beast with two backs. Also: Did having kids drastically effect your average?


Frequency of Sex by Relationship Status
The status of a relationship has a major impact on the frequency of sex. Couples who are cohabiting, but not married, are the most sexually active. They make love 146 times a year compared to single people, who are not in a steady relationship and who have sex 69 times per year. Couples with children have sex more often (115 times a year) than people without children (103 times a year).

Source: 1997 Durex Global Sex Survey

[Aristus]

1. Six times just this weekend!

:evilgrin:

[VelmaD]

2. Jeezus h christ...

you're the MAN, Thor. ;-)

[Aristus]

3. The God of thunder

went out to ride
Upon his favorite filly
"I'm Thor!" he cried,
The horse replied,
"You forgot your thaddle, thilly!"

[elfwitch]

5. You're Thor?

I'm tho Thor I can hardly pith.

[VelmaD]

7. You're not helping any...

by talking about saddles right after you tell me you managed 6 times in one weekend. ;-)

[Aristus]

9. Ugh. I'm getting old.

There was a time when we could do it six times in just a couple of hours. But then, that was in my bachelor pad with no kids around. Ah, those were the days.

[VelmaD]

10. Well, if it makes you feel worse...

the last time I "did it" involved 4 times in 4 hours...and it wasn't all that long ago. It ain't age, baybee. :-)

[Aristus]

11. Yeah, it makes me feel worse. Thanks, Vel.

My record is five times in just under two hours. That was nine years ago. :evilfrown:

[VelmaD]

13. Wowee...

I can remember days like that with my ex. As much as I didn't enjoy things toward the end our early days together were something else. I can remember disappearing into my dorm room on Friday after dinner and not coming out til time for dinner Sunday. I don't even remember what the final count was any more.

[elfwitch]

4. You got kids?

I have one. We'd have to put our son in suspended animation to find the time to get in 6 in one weekend.

[tigereye]

34. that sounds about right elfwitch

sex after parenthood can be a, hmmm, challenge. I tell my so that it is ironic that that sex is how children arrive, but then you wonder how any more can ever be made, given that they are so time consuming, and that you are often too tired at first to make any more.. attempts...

[elfwitch]

6. Lucky to work in one a week...

Since the arrival of our little Treasure (our son), we are either too tired, too busy, or too sore to work in any more than that.

[Screaming Lord Byron]

8. I'm married with kids, or as I like to call it 'post-sexual'

:evilgrin:

[XNASA]

15. I can empathize.

But I had a good run while I was in the game. Almost too good.

Now, I've got other fish to fry .

[Screaming Lord Byron]

16. Doesn't bother me much either way.

Well, aren't I just so massively apathetic!

[VelmaD]

17. That is so sad you guys...

Maybe it's just 'cause I'm not married but sex is still MASSIVELY important to me. :-)

[elfwitch]

20. It is a matter of degrees...

Once you have kids and jobs and bills and so on... Some things become more important and some things bump down.

I would love to have more time to "do it" but man is it difficult to work in. We have to wait for the little one to go to sleep. We have to fit it in to our crazy schedules. At a certain point you are just happy to have time to sit and talk.

It just becomes less important. If I have to choose between spending an hour talking to my hubby or an hour schtupping my hubby, I'll take the lively conversation.

[Screaming Lord Byron]

23. Yeah, once you've lived with the hideous consequences of sex

you just don't want to do it again.
:evilgrin:

[VelmaD]

24. Do I need to have a talk with you...

about where babies come from and what to do to keep from having one? ;-)

[elfwitch]

26. You don't understand...

Once you have ONE of them, you can pretty much trash any hopes you might have. Nobody really tells you that BEFORE you have them.

[VelmaD]

27. No, I got it...

I was responding to Byron's assertion that you don't want to have sex again once you've seen the consequences. I was gonna have "The Talk" with him if he needed to know about birth control so he could have someo no-consequences sex. Given that he's a grown-up this was supposed to be funny. You know. A joke. Hahahaha.

[Screaming Lord Byron]

28. I got it. I just shouldn't have used sheepskin.

;-)

[VelmaD]

29. Do I need to send you...

a care package? Cookes AND condoms. :-)

[Screaming Lord Byron]

36. What is this condom of which you speak? Some sort of baked good?

:D

[VelmaD]

38. Well hell...if you put yours in the oven...

before using it no wonder you have kids.

Next time read the instructions prior to use. ;-)

[tigereye]

39. it does seem like that for a while

well several years... but it does improve. I recently remembered that I had a life before work and parenthood! And that there was something called sex... ah yes, that is how the little one got here, aha....

your dreams will make a reemergence, grasshoppa

[Pattib]

52. I found the opposite to be true. In my case anyways.

My kids are 17 and 19. One at home, one at college. They're 18 months apart. I found that it was easier to "do it" when they were younger. At least until the "nap-time" phase ended.

When my kids were between 6 and 12 we lived overseas in base housing. Very small and very thin walls. I was always worried that they were lurking or at least in the vicinity to hear.

Things definitely changed once my kids were out and about with friends, driver's licenses and such. There is more time now to be alone and we do have a much larger house. Our room is at the other end of the house too!

[tigereye]

37. wait til your little one is older and sleeps better

then you can again have some fun! It does get better, trust me.

[DS1]

21. and they keep insisting size doesn't matter

:evilgrin:

[VelmaD]

25. Yeah, well...

we all know that's a lie. But we all pretend it isn't so nobody's feelings get hurt. :-)

[XNASA]

22. I'm gonna plead the 5th.

But, just let me say that....it's important still. But I don't let it control my rudder like I used to when I was younger.

Like I said. No regrets. I had a "very" good run and left no stone unturned, in my day. :-)

[bearfan454]

45. It is also with a lot of married people Velma.

Believe me.

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

32. I'm in the denial phase

Kids wears us outs every night until we both are reduced to pathetic shells of our former selves. It's as if they smell horniness and become determined to sabotage. Thank $DEITY for weekends at Grandma or Auntie!

[tigereye]

40. have you ever seen Dana Cavery's routine about that

it is hysterical... we laughed our asses off!

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

41. No... downloadable videos anywhere? (nt)

[tigereye]

47. I'll have to ask my so what it was called

and where to find it

[tigereye]

35. Byron you have kids!

cool. Do they have great musical taste, or do they think you are utterly uncool ( although that seems hard to imagine.):)

[Screaming Lord Byron]

43. Well, one is three, and the other has not made an appearance yet.

But Mari does like to sing Broken Face by The Pixies.

[tigereye]

50. you have little ones

mine is 8. He likes Capt. Beefheart and Robyn Hitchcock, and more recently tolerates old CD's my band made. "Mom, is that you singing? Yes, my dear and playing the drums as well." :) He also likes the Ramones.. Jimmy Neutron had a pretty good punky soundtrack complete with an edited version of Blitzkreig Bop. He also likes Mr. Punchy on the last Joey Ramone disc. ( sniffle)

Have you had the pleasure of seeing Mr. Neutron in action? Probably the most fun animation for kids. The only kid movie I had to sit through that I really enjoyed. All that post-modern humor ( well I do like Harry Potter - books and films a lot.) And Veggie tales make me laugh with their absurdist Christianity.

Congrats on the little one to come.

[elfwitch]

51. My hubby worked on Jimmy Neutron...

He is an animator. Bad news for all you Jimmy fans. Nick has decided to NOT pick up Jimmy for season 4.

[tigereye]

56. that is really cool

I love Jimmy. Actually Sheen (sp) is my favorite. I love that line in the movie about the egg people, where Sheen says, "Never argue with the data." Plus, Jimmy's line about the intellectuals always being the first to go. Those films and cartoons are chock full of great lines.

sorry to hear it.

[elfwitch]

57. We love Sheen...

His actual name is Sheen Estevez. It is an inside joke.
We also love Hugh and Carl.

[tigereye]

58. my son has all the little figures

I wanted to have Sheen on my dash... or a t-shirt with underlord (or is it overlord?) sayings

[Screaming Lord Byron]

53. Thanks, I too like Jimmy Neutron.

Although my kid is hung up on George Shrinks and the Rubberdubbers.

[elfwitch]

54. My little man...

He loves: Blues Clues, Dora, Jimmy Neutron, Kim Possible, Danny Phantom, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Angel, Firefly, Sports Night, and The Daily Show with "Jon Jon" Stewart.

[dolo amber]

59. Reg RULES!!

I think Terrence could use some therapy, however. Who ever heard of an alligator with an aversion to water?? :crazy:

[Screaming Lord Byron]

60. I think Finbar is a closet shark. Hmm?

That's legendary Irish comedian Sean Hughes doing the voice.
I do a mean Reg voice, me.

[Screaming Lord Byron]

61. Although, I had heard that in the US they changed the voices.

Zat true?

[dolo amber]

63. Nah, unless they changed the voices

but kept the accent. Tubb has a bit of a broague that bothers me...I can't place it. It kinda sounds like the guy on Alan Partridge (Dave) which I would assume is very northern English. But then sometimes he has a sing-y thing going on, which would indicate Irish.

I think maybe it's not so much the accent itself, as the *style* of accent. There's been much debate recently on whether an accent is truly based on where one comes from, or more on what *style* they adopt of the local accent. Which is a bit of a conundrum. I mean, I'm no linguist, but would not the *style* lean more toward a coloquial speech pattern, rather than the accent? Are they 2 sides of the same coin? Am I annoying you yet? :D

[Screaming Lord Byron]

65. Tubb is Scottish! He sounds like me!

Or rather, John Gordon Sinclair, noted Scots thespian.

[bubblesby2002]

12. Thanks for my morning smile elfwitch et al

When my husband was alive, every two or three days. But if my current crush was closer to me - every two or three hours, at least for the first week. Then I might slow down.

But I sure do admire Aristus today - way to go man.

[Aristus]

14. Thank you. Thank you.

I'll be here all week. :P

[camero]

69. Whew

Somebody's gonna be one tired puppy. :D

[tjwash]

18. T.M.I.

[Commendatori]

19. I'm separated, so not at all.

She was "too tired" too often, so I stopped trying. Then she asked why I didn't try anymore, and I said "because I already know the answer."

She then told me that I was supposed to keep making passes at her (IAW, keep getting shot down) to make her feel good, and actually had the gall to say "how do you think I feel when you don't try anymore?" I answered with "not nearly as bad as I feel getting shot down 23 nights in a row. My days of stroking your ego when I already know the answer are over." Then I voluntarily took the couch.

That spelled the end of our marriage. We've both seen other people since, and I don't miss her at all. Now she wants to get back together. 'Tis to laugh.

Sorry to vent, but I'd be lying if I said that the gall of her demand (that I still make passes even when she's against it) still pisses me off (even more than not getting laid).

[ProfessorGAC]

30. Gee, What is "IT"?

Been married for over 24 years. Not sure what you mean! LOL!
The Professor

[Bertha Venation]

31. "We don't "do IT" anymore (please explain)" -- you're kidding, right?

"Please explain?" ROFL Good luck.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

33. how do you define "it:

we do it often ,....

[Guy_Montag]

42. Is this not a sex thread?

Worth classifying IT.

If you spend a full day over IT does that just count as once? Or do you count how often you or he/she (seems) to, ummm, well, you know...

Al

[bearfan454]

44. Mrs bearfan has been trying to thin it out lately.

Minimum twice a week and then sometimes but not always it is half assed married sex. I still want to do everything. This half ass shit sucks.

[democratreformed]

46. It depends...

on a lot of things. Like whether my hubby is home or out of town. And, if he's home, how hard he has worked each day.

Yes, having kids definitely changed things.

[skippysmom]

48. What is "IT"?

I don't remember anymore...sigh.

[BigMcLargehuge]

49. our average went up a year after we had our son

but I think there is an ulterior motive. Mrs. McLargehuge appears at my office only during specific weeks of the month.... hmmmmm.... something to do with the moon....

[scarlet_owl]

55. Once about every three months.

My husband has erectile problems and has a very low sex drive. We use an insemination method in the weeks that we are trying to conceive. I must admit that his problems are very hard on our marriage sometimes, but there isn't a whole lot that can be done.

[Canuckistanian]

62. Having sex with little kids around is easy - just use Vaseline....

... on the doorknobs!

[edison1958]

66. That sounds like.....

....a new position.....may have to try it.......

[edison1958]

64. Sex is like bridge....

....if you have a good hand, you don't need a partner......

[edison1958]

67. Less than once a month,

more than never. Kids definitely made a difference....who's got energy now?

[geniph]

68. I am reminded of that bit in Annie Hall

where each of them is speaking, separately, to their psychiatrist about their sex life.

She: "He always wants to have sex - we're constantly having sex, like, THREE TIMES a week!"

He: "She never wants to have sex - we hardly ever have sex, like maybe only THREE TIMES a week!"

If my husband goes much more than 48 hours without, he gets so damn cranky he's impossible to live with. Men don't have PMS - they have CSR! Odd to remember that my ex-husband and I went two YEARS without having sex. Might have something to do with why he's an EX-husband.

His boys are 17 and 20, so they're both more and less of an interruption than they were when they were younger. Less, because if they hear squealing and slapping sounds coming from the bedroom, they don't interrupt us unless something's caught fire. More, because the little bastards have cars now and show up at our house unannounced on weekends when we're supposed to be able to hang the chains from the ceiling without having to explain them. x(

[MrSlayer]

70. Depends.

Some weeks it will be as little as 3, sometimes more than 7. 3 a week is the minimum.

[Failure]

71. Lot o' liars in here, LoL

[NewHampster]

72. I do IT everyday.

Is that what you mean?

I know lots of other Geeks on DU that do IT every day.



:argh:

[NewHampster]

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