Would you answer a personals ad where

[Deja Q]

One they sent you an e-mail saying they were interested?

Their big qualifier is that he would be looking for someone "emotionally and financially stable". He also doesn't like people who have a disease, uses drugs, or are "drama queens".

He avoids politics (a mild downer for me), but is otherwise a potential proverbial somebody to love.

Trouble is, I'm as stable as a manic depressive and overly sensitive skunk and I live from paycheck to paycheck. :wtf: most people do these days. Well, that might be hyperbole to an extent, but I have been called a 'drama queen' by many, a title I take with pride...

What's amazing is, he claims to avoid politics yet he'd respond to me, a dude who openly flaunts "way left" as my political orientation! :D

I'm thinking it wouldn't work out, but I'd at least like to respond and say why I think it wouldn't work. (hey, many guys lack the spine to respond... I may as well be honest when I shoot myself in the foot and other places...)

Thanks!


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[Whitacre D_WI]

1. Ya never know...

...unless you try.

[terrya]

2. HypnoToad, you'll never know if you don't try.

This guy could be great. You and him could hit it off.

Besides, HE'S the one who getting a terrific guy. It's HIS loss if he doesn't see you for the good, sweet guy you are. :-)

I say answer it.

Terry

[Systematic Chaos]

3. I met my wife on the internet nearly 2 years ago

I was nearly ready to give up on that - and all other - forms of dating, when I got very lucky. Jeanette was never a very political person, but her views are very tolerant and open-minded and she has been very receptive to my attempts to discuss political issues with her. She also gets a major kick out of The Daily Show.

Politics are very important right now, but even so they aren't everything. You can find chemistry in the strangest places and with the most unlikely of partners, ya know. Look at it this way: You can decide not to pursue this and prolong your loneliness, OR you can give it a shot with this guy and really the worst that can happen is that at the end of it you'll still be lonely though there's a fair chance it will turn out WAY better!

Whatever you decide, good luck to you! :D

[SlavesandBulldozers]

4. he sounds boring

financially stable? that's no fun.

who would actually put in their advertisement "diseases a big turn-on"? talk about stating the obvious.

and no drugs? what the hell is this guy's hang-up?

i say keep looking.

[arwalden]

5. I'd Be Careful.

[Deja Q]

11. Oh tiddlywinks!

I missed what you originally had to say!

Thx for the concern, I will play this one very cagily... (He did have a pic of his smiling face, though he seems to prefer gray-scale to color... :-) )

[Bossy Monkey]

6. Just answer honestly, and don't worry about it

ie "I have a job but am not noticeably financially stable, and am as emotionally stable as the next drama queen, but don't think either of these lessen my validity as a human being." All these items are cliches of personal ads. He might be serious, he may have had bad experiences in the past from the personals, or he may just be parroting what everybody says. Tell him about yourself honestly; if you don't hear back from him, it's his loss.

[chaska]

7. Political types don't mix well with non-political types in my experience.

[Feanorcurufinwe]

8. Some of these ads crack me up.

Like the one you describe. Why not just say: "I want someone perfect"? lol

Or the ones that say 'no baggage' -- like who has no baggage?

[pagerbear]

9. Meet him for coffee and be yourself

All you have to decide then is whether you want a second date. And he might turn into a friend OR someone you want to date.

[Taverner]

10. Stay away! Emotional Stability=Emotionally Distant

He wants someone who doesnt need him, and he wants to be able to drift off without emotional investment.

Besides...he doesn't say a damn thing about passion.

[Deja Q]

12. Oh cool!

Tomorrow I'm going to the bookstore and buy a book that goes into detail about personals ads... there must be 100 books on that topic. How "Emotional Stability=Emotionally Distant", "Relationship-oriented=Relationship-impossible", and so on... My own ad is half-cliche, half typically-me humor...

As for passion, I'd care only about what he wants to call the upcoming sequel to "The Passion of the Christ" (of which, I still favor "Passion II: The Wrath of Jesus"...) or what's obvious when it comes to this sort of thang... :D