DU gay men: Don't you just hate it when...

[skypilot]

...you meet a guy who completely rocks your world and you're talking to him and suddenly you hear,"...blah, blah, blah...MY GIRLFRIEND...blah, blah"? This is happening to me far too much.:cry: I just met an absolutely beautiful man and though I figured he was most likely straight hope springs (or rather, sprang) eternal. Sometimes the words "my girlfriend" can be two of the most bracing words in the English language. I just heard them today. Again. :cry:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

1. i am sorry love....not a gay man

but can relate to the frustration

[skypilot]

3. Thanks for your sympathy.

About ten years ago this would have just ruined my weekend. I'm at the point now where I can appreciate the humor in it all. But DAMN, I wish THIS guy were nelly.

[DarkPhenyx]

2. Had a girlfriend who loved to dance.

Gay clubs, of course, have the best music, so we'd be out in the clubs moderately frequently. Took a break one night to go grab a drink and the bartender ask "Is that your GF out there with you" Answering yes he then replyed "Ah, man...yer breaking my heart." I apologized.

Couple of my male friends have asked "weren't you upset about that?" Hell no! I like that I am sexy enough to be attractive to both sexes.

I understand how you feel though. I get the same thing occassionally, but it's when I hear the girl telling me she isn't into men. Telling her I'm not eitehr dosen't seem to help. Strange.

[VelmaD]

5. Honey...you're sexy enough...

to be attractive to statues, dead people, and little old ladies in their 90s who can't see past the end of their nose. ;)

[RoeBear]

14. You live in an area where...

..it's difficult to ID a lesbian?

[DarkPhenyx]

16. Yup.

Most of us do really. They kinda look like everyone else. Ya know...kinda...normal, and very...um...normal.

[WillParkinson]

4. Back in my younger days...

I found that when someone said, "My girlfriend" it never really amounted to much. Too often they were looking to get a little on the side and didn't care where they got it.

[2Sailsgirls]

6. I'm sorry

But I can sympathize. I keep running into beautiful men and they turn out to be gay.

[skypilot]

9. OK, you come live in Philly...

...and I'll come to Baltimore. That should do us both.

[RoeBear]

7. It seems unrealistic...

...to expect random men that you meet to be gay. Unless of course this was at a gay bar or something.

[RoeBear]

8. dupe

dupe

[skypilot]

11. I didn't expect him to be gay.

I said in my post that I figured he'd most likely be straight. However, he is someone that I find VERY attractive and in a very compelling way, so it may be unrealistic to "expect" but it was fun hoping. While it lasted.

[TrogL]

10. How do you know he's not bi?

It totally throws people when I talk about my wife and my partner in the same sentence, or that I met her while sleeping with her boyfriend.

[skypilot]

13. Actually, I don't know.

I just met him. Oh, and I should have mentioned this: I met him at work. He's a part time, temporary employee but still someone that I have to work with. I didn't want to broach the subject of sexual orientation at all. I just chatted with him an waited to get hit in the face with THOSE TWO WORDS. It happened today.

[fudge stripe cookays]

12. Believe me....

the words "my girlfriend" are enough to break the hearts of straight women as well, sweetie.

I empathize. Keep looking. He's out there. I promise!

FSC

[pagerbear]

15. More often I'm talking to a great guy

... and he mentions his partner or his lover or his husband. Damn!

from the perpetually single Pagerbear

[Lydia Leftcoast]

17. This is very similar to the pain straight women feel

when an incredibly appealing man suddenly says, "My wife." :-(

[dolo amber]

24. Seconded

:(

[arwalden]

18. Or... blah-blah-blah-my-WIFE.

At least if it's 'only' a girlfriend, there's still hope that you might be able to convert him (and win that new toaster oven... or is it an espresso machine?) anyway...

Back in the day, I used to habitually use the word "girlfriend" when I was extremely closeted and would swap genders with all my pronouns without even thinking about it.

Sorry about your disappointment, though. I hope the new month brings better prospects for you. Good luck.

-- Allen

[DarkPhenyx]

19. Convert him into what?

Japanese Yen? What's the exchange rate on that?

[arwalden]

20. LOL. Hmmm... I'm Guessing It Would Have To Be The Euro.

[mobuto]

21. Convert? You don't convert people

You're not going to turn a straight person gay any more than you're going to turn a gay person straight.

[arwalden]

25. Shhhh.... you'll spoil the illusion.

It's the lure of winning free kitchen appliances (color coordinated) that helps convince some people that it's worth a try.

-- Allen

[Skittles]

22. Hey, it happens to us ladies too

gawd, San Francisco drove me INSANE. Some of those gay guys are HOT!!!!

[Rowdyboy]

23. Take him out for drinks on his last day...You know the difference in a ...

gay man and straight man, don't you?






About a six-pack! :evilgrin:

[tjwash]

26. LOL...

That just caused me to burst into laughter at work, and eveyone is staring very strangely at me now.

Thanks rowdy, I needed that!

[geniph]

27. You know, people make all kinds of assumptions

about my husband and I because we *appear* to be a straight couple - but since we're both bi poly switches, nothing is automatically ruled out because we're married to one another.