Ladies: how important is the first kiss with a new guy?

[LastKnight]

cause i coulda very well just messed things up... lol... sayin goodnight and niether one of us was lettin go so i just did it... and it wasnt that great, ive always sucked at that kinda thing.

-LK

[specter]

1. Dude

How old are u??

[LastKnight]

2. 18 but...

yea... im still new to the love crap... was socially pathetic till like 2 years ago...

-LK

[rucky]

3. you really messed it up now

just kidding

was she complaining, or are you just second-guessing yourself?

[LastKnight]

4. second guessing myself...

i tend to do that...

-LK

[specter]

8. Dont second

guess ur self dude!! Ill tell ya a story about a guy with questionable orientation that got the best girl ever if ya wanna hear it.

[LastKnight]

16. sure... ill take a listen to the story... nt

[specter]

20. I was

completely gay when i met my wife, seriously! But we clicked, I listened to her problems, her desires and her every spoken word. It sounds corney but It change me from a the person sI wa to a man whos married and having a kid on the way. She loves the fact that im so sensitive and can relate to the way she feels. Listen to what she wants. If she didnt like your kiss try again if she likes you she'll come back around. Be persistant but sensitive. Its hard for straight guys to relate to "sensitive" sometimes but I think that it helps to be able to cry during sad movies etc. Its kinda hard to explain and this may sound like complete shit but Im a very happy married man with a kid on the way that use to do guys. Now I wouldnt even consider it. I love my wife and soon to be son VERY much. Dont ever give up if you think shes the ONE!!!!!

[HEyHEY]

6. Dude, if she was complaining - he musta REALLY sucked

Could you imagine... ah!

[LastKnight]

11. na, shes too polite to complain...

she told me i just needed practice... which, could be encouraging cause it was half stated like an invitation, im not quite sure... lol

is it obvious im pretty clueless at this kinda stuff?

-LK

[specter]

12. Go to

the local walmart and get some flowers. Always open doors for the lady and treat them like goddesses.

[HEyHEY]

17. "And if a woman says 'That's not funny '- don't laugh your ass off."

Canuck amok's sig line

[fudge stripe cookays]

26. No. Go ANYWHERE BUT Wal-Mart and get some flowers.

They have decent deals on flowers at the supermarket.

[indigobusiness]

14. Hey man, you've got lots of sincere desire ..

and a willingness to do the right thing. Just be as up front with her as you are with us, and nature will take its course.

[HEyHEY]

15. Hmm...that could be good

I've been told many women love having an "In-experienced" guy to train in the art of...touchy feely stuff.

Don't feel bad, I was given kissing lessons in the foyer between two bathrooms at a bar at 3:00 am once by some girl I'd just met and I was like 23. ALl in all it was a good night.

Don't worry, kissing lessons are a good thing.

[regnaD kciN]

23. "You just need practice"...

...implies that she plans to give you some!

[LastKnight]

24. was just talkin to her, and apparently...

shes willing to teach more than that... lol

shweeeet...

-LK

[Misunderestimator]

27. You're 18, and she volunteered to help you practice?

Come on! Practice makes perfect. Let her coach you. Women are much better kissers than men. :evilgrin:

[Justitia]

5. It's important, but I would ask for a "do over"

if you weren't happy with the first attempt.

OMG, I'm old now, I'm giving kissing advice to an 18 yr old, instead of being the recipient
:cry:

[specter]

9. Dont worrie

sweetie were all gettin there im 38 and married to the BEST woman ever!!!

[Lucky Luciano]

7. Good job making the move though

If you don't make the move and she likes you, then she thinks you are a wuss - so she will no longer like you. Women despise wusses and don't listen to a woman that says otherwise. Ask your buddies what women respond to - don't ask women! If you make a move and she responds favorably, but then retracts because she may not like the way you kiss, then your goose is cooked - you must kiss well, so learn it - it is easy to learn, so never fear - I am sure you are young, so no worries! If you make a move and she is not responding well then she is not into you - forget about her and just say "Next!" Not responding well could mean:

She throws you the cheek, or does not do more than a peck - doesn't have to be all out French kissing (freedom kissing?? LOL), but the wetter the lips the better!

If you make your move AND she kisses you back and you have a common energy at work, then all is good - this time, when you say "Next!" it is referring to date number two with this lady!

Good Luck!

[salinen]

10. Damn Lucky

I'm getting hot just reading your advice.

[Justitia]

18. ha, ha good advice! A little more...

Girls like good kissers (obviously), so take your time.

DO NOT try to swallow her head in the process, do not come at her with your mouth open and tongue hanging out.

Try your very best to not be "slobbery".

Start out close mouthed, lips slightly parted, work up to introducing a tiny bit of tongue (OMG, yes, I'm choreographing a kiss), then revert back to just lips. Repeat and add variety - don't stick to a static pose.

She will give you cues. And DO NOT put your hands anywhere but maybe on her jawline (lightly!) cupping her face softly.

Ahhhh....those were the days!

[Guy_Montag]

25. To add to Lady Texan's advice

Keep your lips firm. Tilt your head slightly to one side (try not to tilt to the same side as her). Relax. Hold hands (gives you something to do with them & is very romantic). Close your eyes and enjoy the moment. I forget if I read all this in FHM or Cosmo (minus the holding hands, which I just found out on Friday), but I put it all into practice

I was told by an older, (I imagine quite) experienced lady, that I'm a exceptionally good kisser.

[HEyHEY]

19. And if...something should arise - think of baseball.

[LiviaOlivia]

13. Find an older woman/girl to teach you.

Then practice, practice practice.

[LastKnight]

21. volunteering? lol nt

[specter]

22. Good Luck!!!

and dont forget the flowers!!!!!!!

[SarahB]

28. Unless it's really bad

Super slobbery or no finese, it's not a huge deal. Hard to remember though. The last time I had a first kiss with anyone I was your age. How sad is that? :(

[Guy_Montag]

29. Come here...

How was it for you?

[SarahB]

32. Ooooh baby!

Now, that was some excitement! :7

[MissMillie]

30. Only important if it's a good kiss

Let me explain.

If the first kiss isn't so terrific, it's easy to just think "Well, he was nervous, so was I...." So, I would say it's not at all a catastrophe if the first kiss doesn't knock my socks off.

If the first kiss is terrific.... well then, you know... it was TERRIFIC! I can't wait to see him again.

[Lady Freedom]

31. Timing sounds right, but...

was it a tow curling, blood heating kiss. If not...:nuke:!
Crash and burn.

[VelmaD]

33. Awww...thanks for the happy reminder...

I had a first kiss with someone about 8 months ago and it was magic. I still think about it. :)

But I wouldn't worry too much about it. Like someone said above, they're probably just chalking it up to nerves and inexperience. And from what you've written so far it sounds like she's willing to do it again. :) Good luck.

[Ophelia]

34. What was that line from Bull Durham?

Something about long, slow, deep, wet kisses that last three days. Yes, I remember something like that. Good advice too.

[geniph]

35. Depends what you kiss first