OK, but seriously: what IS "too young for you?"

[Robb]

This whole, whatever you call it, "autumn-spring" romance thing? At what point are you really going to start to hear "S/he's too young for you?" Do people even care anymore?

I am of course talking about grown-ups, git yer mind outta the gutter. :)

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

1. 13

[MercutioATC]

2. Probably 10 years younger...I'd prefer within 5...

Once I get outside that range, I find we just don't have enough of the same experiences to be able to communicate.

[Feanorcurufinwe]

3. I don't know, but most of the women my age look like my mom.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

4. Well, perhaps you look like their dad to them!

It's like, "No, I can pretend I'm not THAT old as long as I have a young hottie on my arm."

Give up. You ARE that old.

Now in response to the original question, I once dated someone ten years younger than myself, and it worked because he was very mature and I was very immature. :-)

[Feanorcurufinwe]

7. Well that explains why we are not getting together then.

Would you date someone who looked like your dad?


C'est la vie.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

30. Actually, these days, I find myself attracted to things like

gray hair and receding hairlines. No, really!

I guess I'm finally maturing. :-)

[Feanorcurufinwe]

32. I don't have anything against women who look old

as long as they don't remind me of mom, lol.

(ps - it was a JOKE! cheese... )

[CO Liberal]

5. My Wife is 8 Years Younger Than Me

That seems about right to me. My first wife was six months older than me, and my second wife was three years younger. Both of those marriages ended in divorces that THEY initiated. Mrs. CO Liberal and I have been together for 12 years now (married for 11), so I thing the age diference is just fine...

:-)

[THUNDER HANDS]

6. 75

I like 'em well aged like a fine wine.

:D

[tigereye]

54. yeah sure you do

see Harold and Maude though. that is really sweet. :)

[Samurai_Writer]

8. My rule is...

I don't date anyone the same age or younger as my oldest child (who is 26). I'm 43. I normally date younger than my age group because I don't have anything in common with most of the guys my age. And for other reasons we will not go into, as no sex threads are allowed. ;)

[Misunderestimator]

9. I'd have to say that the swing would be 10 years +/-

So, given that I'm 41, 31-51 is the correct range. On the other hand, when I was 18 I was with a 43-year-old (which seemed ancient to me at the time... now seems young, ugh).

[LynneSin]

10. So how old is your new girlfriend Robb?

and has she graduated High School yet?

Maybe she'll ask you to the prom!!

[LincolnMcGrath]

11. NO Limit

Other than by Statute, of course. :silly:

[XNASA]

12. I have conflicting thoughts on that.......

So I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's all relative.

I'm in my mid-40's and I'm still rocking. (And married.) But I wouldn't really want to date a much younger woman if I wasn't married.

However, I can't think of any good reasons why not.

I suppose if I were single and it were just a fling, I'd have no restrictions. But if I were starting over for some reason, I'd have a couple of restrictions, the first being 'No Kids', so that might mean that I'd prefer seeing someone closer to my age.

[Robb]

27. LOL!

"However, I can't think of any good reasons why not." :D

You crack me up, man. :thumbsup:

[XNASA]

28. But I can't think of any.......

Honest.

Best to always keep all your options open in any case. :hi:

[ProfessorGAC]

29. Ummmm?

"But I wouldn't really want to date a much younger woman if I wasn't married."

So, you do date much younger women now that you're married?!?!?

Just kidding! Couldn't pass up the shot.

The Professor

[XNASA]

31. Let's just keep that our little secret, shall we.

Heheheheheh.....

[prolesunited]

33. Ooooo! I'm tellin'!

You are so busted. :P

[XNASA]

34. Nothing but hyperbole and inexactitude.....

You can't prove anything!!!!!

[Guy_Montag]

13. What's the age of consent over there?

It's 16 (straight), 18 (gay) here, so I that's the theoretical limit, but I think it would be weird to go out with someone younger than about 21. I don't think we'd have much in common, on the other hand I've had a one night stand with a woman 20 years older than me. That was good!

On edit: I'm 27 if anyones interested.

[XNASA]

18. It differs from state to state.

I think that in Alaska, Arkansas and Alabama the age of consent is 16 with no restrictions.

Here in Illinois the age is 17, but 18 if it's a student/teacher relationship.

[eyesroll]

14. I'm 28, and I honestly don't think I'd date someone more than

a few years younger.

I actually had a conversation with my mom about this once (keep in mind I'm married, so it was a wierd conversation). She said she'd not even consider it an issue if I dated someone 26-35, and would probably "approve" (inasmuch as I'd seek her approval) of maybe 23-39 (but not 40).

My own comfort zone would probably be 26-40 or older. I tend to relate better to people older than me than to people younger (maybe it's the whole Gen X thing -- I could comfortably date within my generation).

That's not to rule out a fling with someone significantly younger or older, so long as it's legal and both parties know it's just a fling. :evilgrin:

And these are generalities, anyway. I talk about ages and types and such, but if I found myself single and dating, who knows?

And, of course, this is just my preference -- I don't care what others do. Again, so long as everyone's a grown up and everyone's on the same page regarding expectations, etc.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

15. i am ok w.older than me

but no more than 2 years younger to me..

[MissMillie]

16. Chronological age is nothing

If he thinks he's too young to settle down, or "not ready", I'm not interested.

[Zolok]

17. Anyone one that falls within the

"young enough to be my daughter" category is too young IMHO.
That is IF my fantasy life matched my sex life circa 1982...
:)
Therefore:
Britney Spears, Jessica Simpson too young....
Janeane Garofalo...je's right (and in so many ways too...YUM! ROWF YIP KAY-YOODLE!)
:)
www.chimesatmidnight.blogspot.com

[TXlib]

19. If I were single, I'd consider anybody from about 25 to about 45

I am 34.

[tcfrogs]

68. That's pretty much my limit : 10 plus or minus

And I'll be 34 in a few days.........

[cmf]

20. I thought the rule was half your age plus seven

I don't know how well it works for the older crowd. :D

[matcom]

21. if there is grass on the field.......

its ok to play ball :bounce:

a friend of mine's attitude years ago anyways

[dawg]

24. 'Can't always go by that, these days ....

I guess you could look for stubble. :eyes:

[dawg]

25. Ooops! Did I say that out loud? - n/t

[Nikia]

50. That's way to young

In most states that would be a felony. Like myself, most young women have "grass on the field" a year or two before they menstrate. The average age of menstration in the U.S. is now 12 years old.

[NightTrain]

22. Well, I'm 38 now...

...and amazed at how young people in their mid-20s now look to me. So I'd say more than a ten-year age difference wouldn't work in my case.

[liberalhistorian]

35. Well, you are, after all,

involved with an "older" woman, given that I'm 14 months older than you and will turn 40 in six months!!! Good thing I don't mind younger guys!:evilgrin:

[dawg]

23. I think ten years, either way, would be a good limit ...

I'm 37, and I don't think it would make much sense to date someone younger than 27 or so. I just don't think we would have too much in common.

[LiberalVoice]

26. The closest person I have ever dated/flung with(lol) was 5 years my elder.

I dunno, I like the older ladies. Had a fling with a 40 yr old once. Whoa!

:P

Edit: I'm 21 btw.

[liberalhistorian]

36. My former boss is 54 and his wife is almost 80,

they got married when he was 25 and she was 51 and they're still going strong. So I guess it just all depends on the people involved and how well they can stand the social scrutiny and ribbing.

[SOteric]

37. Phurphoo

Intense emotion and good communication skills can overcome a lot. Not everything, but a lot. I guess the better part of wisdom would have you looking down the road a bit and guaging what the possible outcomes could be, but I don't think there's a one size fits all answer for this. I've known some age differences where I think it matters, and some where I thought it pretty obviously didn't.

I do think the university is pretty clearly uninterested in my dating my students. But I acknowledge that it's made me feel pretty good that a few of the students have actually considered it anyway.

[Magrittes Pipe]

38. Whatever's legal in the state I'm in.

South Carolina, here I come! :bounce:

[Guy_Montag]

39. What's the age in SC? n/t

[Hell Hath No Fury]

40. I've never cared...

"Too young" for me isn't a bioligocal distinction but an emotional one.

When I was 29 I dated a 19 year old -- it was great! We had a lot in common and related beautifully.

When I was 19 I dated a 36 year old -- that wasn't bad either.

And I've dated men my own age or within a few years and felt like I was dating an emotionally retarded, teenage horn-dog. :)

[terrya]

41. 18 After that, they're old enough. :-) eom

[Duncan Grant]

53. And that reminds me of a great Sophie Tucker joke:

I will never forget it you know. It was on the occasion of Ernie's eightieth
birthday. He rang me up and said, "Soph! Soph! I just married myself a twenty-year
old girl. What do you think of that?" I said to him, "Ernie, when I am eighty
I shall marry me a twenty-year old boy. And let me tell you something Ernie:
twenty GOES INTO eighty a helluva lot more than eighty GOES INTO twenty!"

(Thanks Bette!) :D

[terrya]

70. LOL! Thank you, Ms. Midler!

:-)

[put out]

42. I prefer them to be about eight.

Able to use the toilet unassisted. Able to find some cold water unassisted. They like movies and you can beat them at video games.

They're old enough to swim. They're too young to cop much attitude.

I am guessing you are, ah, I didn't get the romance thing. I must read more carefully from now on.

[Kenneth ken]

43. Bogart was 45, Bacall was 20

when they got together. It worked for them.

I'm 45, when I see young women around 20 - 25, I just think how did Bogart & Bacall do that? It just doesn't seem comfortable to me; partly at least, because I have friends whose daughters are in that age range.

I don't think I've ever dated more than 4 years plus or minus my age-at-the-time.

[Speck Tater]

44. Let's see, I'm about 60, so I'd say anyone older than 20 would be fine.

Like THAT would ever happen! ;)

[DS1]

45. It varies with the age of the younger

frex: a 14 year old probably isn't best suited with a 22 year old, but a 22 year old and a 30 year old person is substantially more acceptable, as you move up through the years it matters less and less.

[HEyHEY]

46. I don't know - 17

[SmileyBoy]

47. 17 or younger.

Then again, I'm only 21.:evilgrin:

[flamingyouth]

48. Are you trying to tell us something, Robb?

:hi:

[Robb]

69. No. Yes. Maybe.

...No grass growin' under this dingbat. :D

[GOPisEvil]

49. If you are happy...and your partner is happy, then the rest of the world

can bugger off! Let 'em think. Let 'em snicker. Nothing can stand in the way of your happiness.

Seriously though, I look for people I can talk to and share things with. Most often that occurs with people 5 years either way of my age, but I've found women 15 years older and 15 years younger that I've been able to have great conversations (and other things ;-)) with.

[m-jean03]

62. Well said!!

I agree completely. :-)

[DoveTurnedHawk]

51. When I Was 30, I Dated a 19-Year-Old; When I Was 29, I Dated a 37-Year-Old

Those are the biggest swings in terms of years, for me.

Neither relationship was all that great, overall, but they were both a lot of fun.

DTH

[Nikia]

52. I'm married but if I were single

I am only 26. I don't think that if I were single that it would be wrong for me to date an 18 year old, but many young men are immature. I guess that it would depend on maturity.
I think that if someone is middle aged and has children, it would be best not to have a serious relationship with someone close to your children's age. My uncle ran into problems dating a 19 year old when his oldest daughter was 15, both in terms of how her friend's parents reacted and the girlfriend's inability to get any respect from the girl who considered her to be on a peer level.

[Berserker]

56. I'm 51

And today at a store I go to often a girl of about 23 asked me if I was married and I told her no. She grabbed my hand and kissed it Then she asked me if I would marry her and I believe she was serious. She always flirts with me but I thought it was all fun until this morning. I fantasized all day about it all day and I kept thinking boy oh boy would her dad be pissed.

[m-jean03]

57. Woo Hoo!!

You Go!!! :D

[Lou_C]

66. Ask her out

Who knows maybe she will take you up on it and then you won't have to have that long distance relationship any longer right?

Also, she might think that you are loaded and she might be looking for a sugar daddy and who knows maybe her daddy wouldn't mind if you are loaded.

[SarahB]

55. I couldn't see being with anyone under 30.

Funny because most people mistake me for being under 30 myself, but I'm not (young face, old soul). I have lead a very responsible life for a long time and to an extent, that's who I am and will always be. I'd want someone with some life experience and is most definitely done with the nightly party phase of life. Not that there can't be fun in moderation, but moderation is the key (with substances anyway, parties with me are another story).

For the most part, I'd prefer someone probably 35-47 who's lived a little and knows a little better than some young 'un.

[m-jean03]

58. But you'll never find someone with MUFF

IN-making talents like mine, SarahBelle!!
Reconsider the age thing, please!!! ;-)

[SarahB]

60. Yes, but don't forget how I prefer DICK-

ens novels. :spank:

I like those old classics. :7

[m-jean03]

61. Sarah honey, there's so much more to life than DICK

ENS novels. You need some of my sweet muffins to start the
day out right. ;-)

[SarahB]

63. Sure, there's the TASTY TEABAGS

Nothing like sitting down with a cup of tea while reading.


(Are we gonna get this thing locked? :scared:)

[m-jean03]

64. *sigh* I'm not getting anywhere with you, am I?

You just come over some day, and we can read Dickens, sip tea, and munch
muffins together. It will be a very pleasant, wholesome visit. ;-)

[SarahB]

65. Probably not....

I always love the concept of perputuating further muffin munching throughout the world. Enjoy munching muffins or having your muffins munched. One way or another, it's all good. :7

[BiggJawn]

59. I'm 47 and desperate...Anyone over 21 would be fine.

Gawd, has it come to that?
When I was 21, I was dating 38-y-o's. when I was 30, there was a 45-y-o, when I was 40, another one was 54...

Now I'd settle for anyone who was of legal age and just wanted to get naked....

[Madrone]

67. Younger is a difficult concept for me to wrap my mind around.

I've only ever dated one person younger than myself, by a few years. It was okay, but he made a far better friend than he did a SO.

Mostly, I date people MUCH older than myself, and have ever since I was in high school. It's not an "on purpose" thing - it simply works out that way. Oddly, I seem to have more in common with people closer to my parents age...

Im 31, last (or current and dead/dying) relationship was with a 45 year old man, currently seeing a 49 year old.

Age is NEVER an issue in any of my relationships either. I'm never treated as "the young one" - we are always on a completely level playing field. I dunno - I've always been an odd girl. :D

[Lestat]

71. I prefer 10 years at most...

I'm 22...my normal range is 18 to 24.