Which Side Of A Break-Up Have You Been On Most Often?

[arwalden]

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

1. I've been the Dumper more often but it seems I only recall the times

I got dumped..twice

[arwalden]

3. Whenever I Was The Dumper... I Had Damn Good Reasons!

Idiot.
Loser.
Druggie.
Closeted.
Cheater.
Cheater.
Cheater.
Liar.

It was NEVER because I was moving on to greener pastures or because I had been having a secret relationship.

-- Allen

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

6. Same here..never left a relationship for someone else

Cheater was the reason a couple times in long past relationships although one of the two that dumped me did it for someone else..to be honest..more often than not..I've "dumped" women because although we really enjoyed each other..I knew in my heart of hearts they wanted to get married and have kids...so I got them in motion on the project a little quicker than they would have moved themselves...heck... a couple of them have their kids now and are divorced and we have dinner now and then

[arwalden]

7. "Honest, Honey... I Got Crablice From A Toilet Seat!!"

"I'm as confused as you are, sweetheart... how could I get crablice again? Perhaps it was one of the nits that we didn't kill last year."

R-i-i-i-igh!

Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice... shame on... shame on. I'm not gonna get fooled again.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

9. Oh GAWD!! When I was in college, I was roomies with a gay guy..who brought

home this nell who turned out to have crabs...freaked me OUT!..I sent everything to be deflead....I was SOOOO paranoid about getting those critters...

[terrya]

2. I've been dumped far more often than I've dumped him.

And each time, it hurt just as much.

[Lou_C]

4. Both sides

:shrug:

[Feanorcurufinwe]

5. I haven't been the Dumper in any long-term relationships,

just a few short ones.

[Misunderestimator]

8. I've usually been the dumper... but only in the non-serious ones....

I wouldn't have made a commitment in the serious ones, unless I was serious.

[arwalden]

10. I Can Relate To That...

... in my two previous serious relationships I overlooked and forgave a LOT because I had made a committment... just as you did.

[RebelOne]

11. You need the category of both.

I've been on both sides. Dumped and been dumped.

[VOX]

12. Score tied: Between being the dumper and dumpee, and the mutual splits...

It all comes out even -- I counted!

[Canuckistanian]

13. I have a natural attraction to lesbians

I've asked so many out, only to get the bad news. And they usually weren't very nice about it either.

[Lisa]

14. 50/50 so far!

Though I must say, I didn't so much "dump" people as not finish rounding the bases, so to speak. I like to believe I haven't led anyone on.

The last time I got dumped was really spectacular -- he picked the front steps of the Lincoln Memorial to make his "it's not you, it's me" speech.

Given that I'm Canadian, this didn't bother me quite as much as it might have (since I don't go to DC very often). But I do cringe a bit whenever I see an American penny.

Anybody else get dumped at an historical landmark?

[Kenneth ken]

15. interesting question

my instinct was to say I've been the dumpee, but I counted up, and it turns out I've been the dumper more often. The funnier thing is, even after counting, my hand was inclined to click on "dmpee"

must have been a bad break up some where in there. :shrug:

[davsand]

16. I wanted to say dumpee--but after I counted it isn't true.

It is just about even, in spite of the horrid things some of my old buddies say about my "kick 'em to the curb" mentality when I was younger. The serious relationship meltdowns were just about equal too, come to think of it.

My first love put me upside a wall one night, and I booted his ass as soon as I could get up off the floor... I'd judge that to be a mutual destruction, to be honest. No way I was staying for that, and no way did he expect me to.

My second love--well, he gave me crabs for the second time, and I nailed him with a bottle of Kwell in the nads. I'd say I booted him for being a butthead.

My third love kicked me to the curb. Dumped me for a blond with dark roots and perky boobs (and did I mention her IQ was roughly equal to that of a russet potato?)

The rest of the times it was some fling that ended with one or the other of us doing one of the speeches--you know the ones--"We need to start seeing other people..." "We can still be friends..." "My feelings have changed..." Nothing too emotionally scarring, and nothing that really mattered in the long run.

Hmm, an interesting question to consider!

Laura

[Pithlet]

17. Dumper

But, I haven't been in a lot of relationships. I married very young, and left that marriage several years ago, so most of my adult life I've been committed to one relationship. I was the one that ended the marriage.

[supernova]

18. 2/3 Dumper; 1/3 Dumpee

So I've been on both sides of the fence.

[aljones]

19. Dumpee everytime but once!!

Sad huh?

[WindRavenX]

20. Naw I'm in the same boat

I think.

[dolo amber]

21. Heh...hehhehehheh...hehe..heheee

I'm a dumper. :7

:hurts:

Man, I can't BELIEVE no one utilized that yet! You guys are gettin' slow...:P

[sundog]

22. both, but

for some reason getting dumped sticks in my memory... pain always stays longer...

[SarahB]

23. Almost always the dumper

I was nice about it, but generally I would know fairly quickly whether it would work out and I wasn't one (at least when I was young) to waste my time on lost causes- plenty of fish in the sea so to speak.

There have been a couple of times in life though when everything seemed fine and the particular dudes involved were quite enamored of me and then with little explanation and much confusion, they decided they'd be better off dropping off the face of the Earth. There was sexual rejection too, which makes it worse. I'm a woman who, generally speaking could "get laid" rather easily, but I haven't been with that many people. In part, because I've married quite awhile, but also because I need to really feel a sort of kinship or special something before I would sleep with them- maybe not love, but at least a strong friendship that could potentially lead to love. With both these men, I wanted to sleep with them, but didn't, and that rejection in the sexual arena made it all the more difficult. It just makes me question myself as to what's wrong with me or something.

Damn, I poured my guts out here. Should I post this? Oh, what the Hell. I'll never meet 99% of you. Here it goes....

[sundog]

24. hi SarahBelle

you doing well tonight?

[SarahB]

25. Yeah, sort of.

Night one of my upcoming 8 weeks of microbiology Hell with a Prof who seems to enjoy grading extra busywork assignments, but with all the work, at least I should get an A pretty easily.

How about yourself?

[sundog]

26. alive...

way too introspective... but I've come here to alleviate that

[put out]

27. Either side, both sides, and too many times to count.

I don't even want to try the personal stats. It turns out, though, that all of us are still standing.