Do You Ever Find It Really Hard To Be Nice To People?

[Susang]

Maybe its just me. I'm normally a pretty kind person. I'm just in a funk today, but sometimes, with certain people, it feels like its all an act and I'm going to eventually crack and go ballistic on their ass. Ever feel like that? Stories please, make me feel like less of a ogre.

[GainesT1958]

1. Only those...

Who act like snooty jerks to me!:mad:

B-)

[mr_hat]

2. Look at it like this: With that kind of attitude >

you're likely headed straight for the top!

[Brahma Bull]

3. I tell people how I feel about them.

If I don't like them, I'll let them know and I won't do all this fake shit.

[jpgray]

4. Yes. Sometimes on DU

(Sorry about that, by the way--I forget what it was in relation to, but I remember it occurring.)

[Susang]

5. I never hold grudges on DU

Its like family to me, by morning I've forgotten who said what and what it was about anyway.

Were you not nice to me? Was I not nice to you? I swear I really have forgotten. :-)

[jpgray]

6. I'd have to do a search

But I suppose it wasn't very important if neither of us can remember it. :D

[tigereye]

7. occasionally when I am grumpy

but no, I generally have a pretty sunny disposition.

[Lin]

8. You mean, do I ever get sick of smiling all the time, and accepting

whatever ppl say and do with good humor and grace? Do you mean, in these bad bad times, do I ever feel like saying what I'm _really_ feeling when someone hands me a job to do that I need no more than a hole-in-the-head? Do I ever feel like pouncing on the person who cut ahead of me in line? Like yesterday at the market?

Who me? Be only human? Hell no.

Never

Give yourself some slack. ;)

[TheMightyFavog]

9. Yes, to stupid people especailly.

In some ways, I'm glad that Family Dollar didin't keep me on a permanent basis.

[SarahB]

10. Rarely

Occasionally, I get into a bit of a funk, but I'm more quiet than mean. Most of the time I got out of my way to be mannerly and polite. Not many of us though.

[GOPisEvil]

12. I'm the same way.

If I know I don't want to be around people, I do my best to seclude myself. If I *have* to deal with someone when I'm in a mood, then I really try to at least be polite.

[Susang]

18. I almost never get to be alone

Big problem for me. I'm very used to having lots of alone time and I haven't had much since I changed my schedule to a more normal one.

Boy, this thread has been so helpful. So far I've learned that I've got PMS and need to spend more time alone. What else will I learn today? ;-)

[GOPisEvil]

23. I am lucky in that I don't have to deal with the public much.

Plus, I live alone, so I don't have to worry about someone bugging me at home.

Ah well...some days it doesn't pay to chew off the restraints. There are times when I have made general announcements to my co-workers that I am in a crabby mood, and to take anything I say with a huge grain of salt.

[Susang]

13. I'm normally very polite

I sometimes think that the fact that I actually really do care about being nice to people is what is pushing me over the edge. I work in retail presently and before that I worked in food/beverage service for almost 20 years. I have pretty much put up with the worst behavior that a person can put up with. Unfortunately, the customer behavior keeps getting more demanding and outrageous. Today its just really wearing me down.

[SarahB]

15. I can understand that

I haven't worked in that areas for years, but I remember when I did and some people were just whiney and mean. That's why as a customer I usually go out of my way to be polite and tip well. :)

[prolesunited]

11. Yes

but often it's hormonally related. ;-) Seriously, I used to think women were making that up, but the older I get, the more that it is affecting me.

Not every month, mind you, and depending on my stress level, but there are days when I feel like a ranting lunatic and want to bite the head off anyone who comes into my path. Of course, the next minute I may find myself sobbing at a sappy commercial on TV. Hormones, what a gift from on high. :eyes:

Anyway, some people are idiots and are just begging you to go ballistic on their ass. What an incredible woman you are that you don't.

[Susang]

16. Argh, you're right, damn you!

I didn't even think of that. I am getting Aunt Flo. }( And my hormones are fucked up from way back anyway, so PMS is even more enjoyable. I better start hitting the ibuprofen. My new mantra is "inflammation is the enemy!". My doctor thinks I'm hysterical.

[XNASA]

14. Not really hard. Just kinda hard.

Used to do it all time. Never did any good. Never made me feel better either, even when I was right.

But there are a few people I'd like to give a piece of my mind to. Not sure it helps though.

[Susang]

20. Hi there!

How's it going? All better now?

[XNASA]

22. Of course not. Everything sucks.

And I feel like punching someone in the face. LOL!!!

Actually, my own face kinda hurts today. So until that little problem goes away, I'm not worrying about anything else.

The Boy - much better for now.
The Band - Ugh.

But as soon as I get home, I'll be in Vicodin induced bliss. So I got that goin' for me.

[Susang]

24. That's too bad

I thought your mouth situation would be better by today. Having just gone through excrutiating dental work, I know crappy that can make you feel. Glad you have the Vicodin for later! :party:

[Rainbowreflect]

17. About 36 hour of every month I just hate everyone.

Everything my husband says pisses me off and I feel like punching anyone who looks at me. The rest of the time I'm very nice.

[JM]

19. I have a few customers that make it VERY difficult

to be nice to them.

It is really simple. If you want something done, ask nicely and be sure to say thank you. They just don't follow those two rules. As a result, they get excellent, but very terse, service...after everyone else.

"It doesn't work. You have to fix it". Well that's nice. What exactly doesn't work? What application? What is the error message?

We even have one customer who gets shitty with us because we won't do her work for her. We have tried explainaing that just as Microsoft will not help her with a subject and content for her paper just because she is using Word, such work is not included in our support agreement.

JM
Senior Software Developer
Carnac & Kreskin Software Co.

[kingdamon]

21. I'm convinced... I'm only an ass when I'm foisted into that position!

I was at the Braves game on fri. Sipping a few brews with my buds and cheering the home team... blah, blah, blah and rah, rah, rah!
On a couple of occasions I used the terms jackass and bastard to define the members of the opposing team. My biddies on the other hand used more 'offensive' terms like suck but certainly didn't go so far as to use the much needed term 'pig-fucker.' After the 7th inning the jackass sitting in front of me stood up, puffed up his lil chest ( by sucking in his beer gut) and proceeded to blast me for my "rude and offensive" language. He did have his kids there, but he allowed them to sit by the dug-out to try and collect as many balls as they could... 14-15 rows away mind you. After that I was compelled to make my stand.
So I launched into this puritan with a fury that hasn't been seen, even in the bible. If I could have rained fire and brimstone upon his pompous ass it would have only served my dish up cold. I lambasted him, his wife and children to such a severe degree that initially the people surrounding us looked aghast, that is until he had a few seconds to reply while I was catching my breath... then upon my follow up barrage my fellow sporting fans began to cheer me on. It was a bliss I haven't experienced since I heckled "Mortal Combat" in the theater years ago... and had the crowd laughing at my comedic styling more than they cheered the movie.
For that, I'd like to thank that jackass at the ball park. It reminded me that there are more reasonable people that it seems, we're just waiting for the next jackass to show his ass, so we can serve it up cold to their entire family.

[LibertyorDeath]

25. It's a struggle sometimes

there are so many rude ignorant assholes these days

"Maybe its just me" no there are mouth breathers ever where

they are multiplying & the pace is accelerating. :)

[madaboutharry]

26. Oh, it is so tough

Especially with friends whom you know are decent people but can annoy the shit out of you. I try to understand that just like everyone else, they too are leading lives of "quiet desperation."

[Susang]

27. Family is where it gets to me

They know all the right buttons to push and will often do so. I've always been the accommodating person in our family. My nickname is "Julie, your cruise director", since I'm always trying to work everything out to everyone's satisfaction.

I'm very lucky in my friends. They've all seen the worst of me and don't seem to find it all that bad. :-)