So what's the appropriate timeframe for post-marriage dating?

[Robb]

Just wondering. No reason. :)

[supernova]

1. Whenever you feel it's time to move on

there's no one right answer to it.

[Red State Rebel]

2. My hubby and I started dating while he was waiting

for his divorce and married the week it was done.

[LowerManhattanite]

3. Newt Gingrich is an expert on this...

...ask him. :)

[Robb]

8. (rimshot)

:D

[LowerManhattanite]

16. Thank yew...I'll be here all week!

And please...tip your lobbyists and influence peddlers!

[nickgutierrez]

18. I was thinking more along the lines of...

Make sure your lobbyists and influence peddlers spayed and neutered. Good night everybody! </bobbarker>

[Rabrrrrrr]

4. 2 seconds?

You're free to go any time. I'd even say that one is free to go as soon as one has served divorce papers.

Now, if you're question "How long maximum should I feel like not dating?" or something like that, then I can answer only that: It will take you as long as takes you. No time limit at all on it; you might take longer than average, or less than average. You will take however Robb needs to take.

[SarahB]

5. What's the appropriate time-frame for pre-divorce dating?

Just wondering. No reason. :)

[m-jean03]

10. Oh, you're bad.

As long as a cross-country flight, I'd reckon. ;-)

[SarahB]

13. I have a cross-country tour planned...

in my twisted mind only. Reality is much different. :)

[Fridays Child]

6. I'd say anywhere from a few hours to all night long...

...depending on how well you get along.

:evilgrin:

[Gothic Sponge]

7. It's been 7 months since my breakup

I'm not emotionally ready yet to date.

[jukes]

9. ASAP

can't live in the past. have some fun, meet some new friends. doesn't have to be serious, or even very intimate.

[Heddi]

11. get to know yourself first

if this is in re: to yourself, find out who you are NOW--you're not the same person you were when you were married. you're different.

Increase your circle of friends. Date casually. Get to know new people. Try new things. Never liked ballroom dancing? Try it. Maybe you didn't like it THEN. Never really liked blah blah blah---try it.

Don't rush into a new relationship. Don't give into that oh-so human emotion of 'filling the void'. Understand that you don't need someone else to make you happy. That you don't have to 'jump in' because it makes you feel comfortable because it's what you've been doing for X years of marriage.

Be friends first.

don't move in with anyone or let someone else move in with you. Not now. :)

good luck!

[Ellen Forradalom]

12. When you meet someone you want to date.

I met my husband very shortly after breaking up with my last boyfriend of 6 years. Conventional wisdom said, "Take some time to be yourself," but I thought, "Hey, take the football and run with it!" We have been together 8 1/2 years, married 5 1/2 and have a little boy.

That's my story, anyhow. It could be soon, it could a long time, but you'll run across a likely prospect, and that's when you'll know.

[flamingyouth]

14. Everyone has been saying six months

I don't know. I think it's fine whenever it feels right to you, and if some meddling dumbass makes a nosy and bitchy comment to you about it, please post it here so we can all mock them ruthlessly. Good luck!:hi:

[AwakeAtLast]

15. My husband's divorce was final after we had been dating for 2 months

But he had not been in contact with his ex for 6 months prior to that. We were married 6 months later. I think it depends on the situation and the people involved.

[SarahB]

17. I know someone who starting seeing someone very soon after she left.

As a matter of fact, allegedly perhaps before she left, but the marriage has lasted over 20 years so far.
Some marriages are over for a long time before it's officially over. Sometimes there has already been enough years of grieving for that loss of not having what they wished for, they've had time to analyze their feelings, and a person is ready to move forward ASAP and after years of feeling nothingness- to feel something again.