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Hubby and I grew up on East Coast. All my family lives in SC. His lives in SC, NC, and MD. His mom lives in KS.
We moved to Seattle about 4 years ago. At first, we were going to drive the 3000 miles. But his mom wanted us to stop in KS to see her. Gee...only a 1500 mile detour each way. No problemo :eyes: So we figured that would be okay for a day or two "A day or two?" HELLO---We're driving a fugging moving van across the country, 1500 miles OUT of our way to see you, with 2 cats in the truck and you want us to camp out for a week? No thanks.
Ended up flying out, which really cheesed her.
Also, my friend at the time lived in Arizona. When I told her we were considering driving, she wanted us to drive down to AZ then UP to seattle. Told her no can do. We were planning on taking the northern route to avoid as many mtns as possible. SHe, too, was cheesed off at the idea that we were being SO SELFISH and not wanting to trapse across the fucking country in a fucking MOVING VAN with 2 cats in the middle of fucking SUMMER and go from SC to KS allllll the way to AZ then ALLLLLLL the way up to seattle.
Yes, I enjoy spending thousands of dollars on gas alone :not:
So now we're out here and the family is out there.
His mom came to visit once, we've visited her 2x's. Dad has come once, we've visited him 3x's.
Because I'm a full-time student and hubby is a FT student, when we have 'vacation time' (read: 4 working days and the weekend) we don't have any money to travel. When we have $$ to travel, we don't have vacation time.
And AMAZINGLY---I know, we're so fucking selfish---sometimes, I don't WANT to go back to hot humid South Fucking Carolina every fucking year. Sometimes, I'd like to go to Las Vegas. Or Europe. Or in my apartment with the telephone turned off for a week smoking shitloads of cigarettes.
But oh no! That's far too greedy and selfish. Apparently upon birth, all children are forced to spend their money and travel 3000 miles across the country every fucking year to see their parents & sisters when none of them can be bothered to come out to see US.
I feel your pain.
Luckily, my mom is a single parent and she loves Seattle and comes out here as often as she can. I get no shit from her. And I do love my inlaws dearly---they're wonderful people=---but they don't understand that my husband and I are our own family unit, and we have our own things that we'd like to do, and just because we'd rather spend time and $$ going to Las Vegas, or London, Or NYC doesn't mean that we love them any less than if we spent the $$ and time to go to their house, sit on the couch for 6 days watching Jerry SPringer and wondering why we went all the way out there because it's even MORE boring than if we stayed at home.
:breathe...breathe:
Sorry to rant in your thread :)
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