am I an old fashioned guy?

[Zech Marquis]

Here's a good question for my fellow DUers, but first some details:

Im 31 (will be 32 this fall), in good health, good job, some money in the bank (not billions, not million,s but I can pay my bills now) I don't drink, smoke, go to clubs, no drugs, haven't even been to Starbucks since..Christmas I think (and usually for a medium Vanilla Mocha). I like old movies like Rocky, samurai movies with Toshiro Mifune, Sean Connery as James Bond, classic anime like Urusei Yatsura, Akira, the original Gundam, an actual baseball fan (Yankees, yeah yeah, I know.and the Dodgers). I much prefer to cook for my gf thna just order take out. Not into the nightlife thing. Barnes and Noble insead of bowling night. And Xbox Live over hanging out wiht the guys all the time.

My gf is 41, a Japanese high school teacher, she's short er (5 fteven) wears glasses like me, likes many of the same things I do :) She just feels..right, ou know? Im going to spend a week or two with her in the fall, just to start making new memories of Japan (I haven't been there since July of 1991! ) One ex on the other hand is my age, taller (filipina) who's much more American, apparently well off with her family's business (but I don't care about that to be honest). And to be honest, I'd stay with my current 41 :-) The ex hasn't done anythig wrong (and if I put her photo up, it mght cause a riot here in the Lounge)..

But for me, somethings the best "fit" or let's say match isn't always the newest, flashiest, or sexiest woman. Beyond the pretty figure and eyes you have to find above anything else the HEART. You have to find yourself trusting that potential mate. Someone who keeps you focused, humble, but also encouraging. I odn't need or want any woman showerng m with gifts--a new Power Mac G5 would be cool--but no expensive cars or stuff like that. Because you can be become spoiled like that.

So am I old fashioned or an oddball for telling the young hot babe,"thanks, but I've found an older woman who has my heart and soul" ?

[Paradise]

1. dear Zech, you've answered your own question. :) n/t

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

2. No

Go with your heart. Its what's inside that matters.

[TexasProgresive]

3. You've found love,Zech

Why don't you and Ms Japan tie the knot in Japan or if that's not possible just before you board the plane. Real love trumps all glitz. My beautiful wife and I have been married for longer then you have been alive and she's 12 years my elder. I wouldn't have it any other way.

[Zech Marquis]

5. when I get there

she's going to ask me what I want to do. I have my math college course to complete. That way I could teach english in Japan without having to get married first. Then again, I wouldn't mind marying her and staying in Japan...and she asked me about watching F 911 in japan with her :bounce:

[ClintonTyree]

4. As someone....................

who often fell prey to form over substance, I think you've got your head screwed on pretty straight. Old fashioned? If doing things that make you happy and require a minimum of game playing (relationship wise, not X-Box) means you're old fashioned, then so what, you're old fashioned.
I spent many years chasing my tail with pretty women who were beautiful on the outside and broken to hell on the inside. I squandered tons of money on these airheads,but in the end I guwss it was I that was the airhead for wasting my resources in pursuit of such a foolish goal. I only wish that I had you outlook on life when I was your age.
Best of luck in the future, it sounds likeyou've got things pretty much under control.

[Zech Marquis]

7. I'm in no mood to do any skirt chasing

because like you said,I'd be chasing after skirts foreevr if I only look at the exterior of a woman. Besides, the future Mrs Zech likes to call herself a Liberal (actually Pacifst Liberal) :)

[no_hypocrisy]

6. "Old-fashioned" isn't the issue. It's being true to yourself.

You chose someone who is your best friend rather than someone whom your friends would envy having in their company.

The ultimate partner with you is someone who appreciates all that you offer, including your flaws (because they make you the individual you are) and can support you during times of incredible frustration, disappointment, and grief. She'll know you through and through and love you more each day.

You already know which woman you belong with.

[Zech Marquis]

8. thank you everyone!

I appreciate all of the great feedback this morning. When I told myself how I feel inside, it was quite a surprise...but I see that it is the truth :)