I'm in one of those F'd up moods where...

[Jack_Dawson]

all I can remember about my ex (whom I dumped) are the great times. The Sunday chill-out times. The drinking coffee/reading the paper times. It's a weird form of torture I inflict upon myself from time to time - usually Sundays. Plus I'm trying to wean myself off a 4 year vicodin habit. Got a lot going on. If anyone has any (serious) advice, I'm into it.

Thx,

JD

[LearnedHand]

1. No great advice, but an observation:

When you're going through a "sobriety" effort, you're no longer anesthetizing your emotions. This means you feel EVERY LITTLE THING (things maybe you were not feeling before because of the vicodin). I also don't think it's a form of torture; I think rather it's a form of seeing things more clearly than when you were in the middle of things.

Hang in there! (I HATE that saying, don't you?) You might also want to check out a Narcotics Anonymous group if you have one near. Hanging out with others who are going through the same thing can be immensely helpfu.

[testing123]

2. It's very hard to deal with I am going through the same thing in a way

I thought that I was getting back with my ex and he f-off again and I haven't heard from him at all.

I remember the good times and it's funny I remember going to get coffee in the mornings and that way my favorite time with him.

I have to come to grips that he is gone for good and every time that he reemerges in my life he is doing it to put salt into the wound to hurt me even more.

He dumped me a few weeks ago and I heard from him again but he is gone again so I guess it's for good now.

Tomorrow I have to pick up the pieces in my life and move on.

Sorry, I am crying now because I am hurting very bad right now.

Why do nice people like yourself and myself hurting so bad?

:cry:

[Jack_Dawson]

3. From a guy's perspective...

He's not coming back to hurt you. He's coming back because he loves you but is either a commitment phobe or confused about his own feelings. But the best thing you can do is to move on, take it from me. If you ever get back together, it will be because you moved on, not because you waited around (spoken from experience). Sorry you're crying...sometimes beer helps. :beer: :grouphug:

[testing123]

5. Thanks

You know that computer that I said that I gave a guy a deposit on he is the one that I gave the deposit too and he f-off.

I need a beer real bad tonight. :beer: :grouphug: :pals:

[Radical Activist]

4. I hate it when that happens

I wish I had advice to give. I go through periods like that.

I also go through periods where all I can think of is the worst things an ex did to me. That usually happens when I'm starting a new relationship.

[Lindsey]

6. Sundays are absolutely the hardest times....

I try to make sure that I have plans for most of the day (usually with friends- going hiking, to a movie, out to eat, etc...something that kind of changes the routine from when my ex and I were together). I've found that joining different organizations that are of interest to me has really helped. As far as the vicodin addiction goes, acupuncture can help and people in that field can also give you other ideas. You're in my thoughts. Good luck :-)

[Jack_Dawson]

7. Thx Lindsey

Hopefully Monday will bring with it some peace! So far not, but give it time I guess.

[m-jean03]

8. Crying is always helpful

You might be one of those guys who doesn't like to, but I still say it's great therapy.

Then go rent a funny movie and laugh your ass off, get that endorphin high going.

:pals: Good luck, and I'm sorry things aren't going well for ya.

[Lindsey]

9. There REALLY is a lot to the "endorphin high" I personally did

quite a bit of research in this area. The vicodin initially gives that incredible sense of well-being. Unfortunately, the cost of the downside is way too high (no pun intended!). Like I mentioned, PLEASE check out acupuncture and do some research on ways to help with the endorphin release (an amino acid called DLPA-helps with the chemicals that deter the release of the endorphins so you might try that as well). Hope Monday goes better for you. :-)

[StayOutTheBushes]

10. Running distance daily works