Question for Lesbian DUers

[displacedyankeedem]

I have a lesbian friend who is single and attractive as heck. Someone like her shouldn't be so I've been secretly trying to find her a date. My question is (and I feel silly having to ask it): Is it at all considered unbecoming in the GLBT world for a straight guy friend(ie me) to fix her up with another girl?

I feel odd even having to ask this, but she's a wonderful person who I just want to be happy (hence the desire to find a suitable date for her). I'm just trying to treat her like I would any other straight friend, but at the same time I don't want to make a faux-pas.

[drmom]

1. There are no "lesbian rules"...

...just like in the straight world, different people react differently to any given situation. I would just ask yourself (or maybe even her) if she is the type of person who likes meeting new people, and would respond well to a "set-up". To make it more casual, you could always have an informal dinner party or the like and "happen" to invite two people whom you think might be compatible.

Really, it's not just lip service...we gays and lesbians are much more like you than we are different! (I say this after a day of taking care of three active daughters, making dinner, driving to soccer practice, and trying to find some time this evening for my partner...all those things that are pretty darn typical of any family.)

[displacedyankeedem]

2. ....that's what I thought

I just didn't want to look like a complete idiot.

on edit: I do feel kinda like a complete idiot for having to ask.

[mourningdove92]

3. Go for it.

Matchmaking crosses all boundries. Consider it an act of love for a friend.

[displacedyankeedem]

4. It shall be done....

...if I can ever find her a suitable date.

[Misunderestimator]

5. Friends are friends... no faux pas there. Fix her up if she's willing.

[trof]

7. Key word: "willing".

Ask her.
I hated blind dates, even though that's how I met Miz t.
Go figure.
:shrug:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

8. me too

[oneighty]

11. I be for fixing

you up anytime Ms. NSMA.

180

sigh.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. hmm...if there is such a rule

i am unaware of it

[Lindsey]

9. The best way that I've met women here in So. Cal.

is through a group called Women on a Roll. It's been in existence since 1996 and is a great place to meet lesbains of ALL backgrounds, interests, etc. The memebership is only $80 per year (this accesses one to a variety of events - such as video nights, bike rides, hikes,etc. ) They also have a number of singles events and events that you pay for like concerts, plays, etc. It's a wonderful group of people and I've made some of my best friends though this organization (non-profit)as well as two wonderful ex-girlfriends. I know the founder really well and she's devoted her whole career to getting women in L.A. to get to know each other. You might suggest this group to her and have her go online to check it out. I mention this because you said you'd love to introduce her to someone but you don't know anyone...this would be a great outlet for her. It's been incredible for me. Good luck and feel free to ask me any questions if you have any! :-)

[m-jean03]

10. Sounds great!

I wish *I* had a friend who thought like you! :)

[Bamboose]

12. you oughta ask her!

Ask her if she'd be interested in meeting a girl you know. Easy as that.

If you were to ask me that, I'd likely say yes, but since I don't know you you probably don't want to set me up with your friend. :)

[bookfreak]

13. I wouldn't be offended

I can't speak for her of course, but there's no reason why it would e a faux-pas for a straight guy to set her up with a girl any more than it would be for another gay person to do so.

[Plaid Adder]

14. Depends on how good you are at pickin' em.

I don't think she would care who's setting her up as long as you don't set her up with someone totally inappropriate for her. The main thing I would caution you against is assuming that any other lesbian you know would be a possible match for her. Think about who she would be likely to click with before you try matchmaking. Also be sure that you ascertain that the person you set her up with is actually open to a sexual relationship with a woman. Apart from that, I figure you're as welcome to try your luck as anyone else would be.

C ya,

The Plaid Adder