Would you date somebody who smoked weed?

[Deja Q]

Not the plantlife you pull up from your gardens, but marijuana. You know, MJ, hash, maryjane (not the chick from the spiderman movies so please don't go there), and so on?

[noahmijo]

1. It depends...

If they smoked weed in the past but quit since then I wouldn't hold it against them, but if they were still a user I would say no. I just don't trust people who are near dependent on a drug that fucks with your mind. I'll respect someone for who they are, and if you're a weed smoker but you're cool I'll respect you and all, but I wouldn't trust you with anything serious like parenting, and trust is the main necessity in a relationship. Respect can't survive without trust in a relationship.

[LiberalVoice]

4. So do you not trust people who drink? eom

[noahmijo]

8. That's a slightly different scenario

Overall no I don't trust someone that is again near dependent on alchohol, however, bringing alchohol into my house is legal where bringing pot in is not. That's one thing that is key right there.

As it stands someone who smokes pot by our laws (how fucked up they are) is committing an illegal act and risking themselves and those around them of citations, arrests, ect, and is someone who holds little regard for the consequences of their actions to themselves and others around them. It's similar to someone who drinks and drives.

Were pot to be legalized then I'd hold it to the same standards as I hold alchohol (you're trustworthy if you're not a chronic user)

[CrownPrinceBandar]

17. So, if pot were legal........................

would you go out with said person?

[noahmijo]

18. Like I said yes

If they weren't a chronic user, just like I'd date someone who drinks but is not a drunk.

[CrownPrinceBandar]

23. I saw your previous answer but was confused....................

The reason I asked is because in your posts you state the ill-effects of drug use and the resulting lack of responsibility. And that you would have a hard time trusting that person if they abused (which, I believe is sensible self-preservation).

But, why if it were legal you'd say yes, but the fact that its illegal makes you say no? It seems like your deferring your own judgement to that of the laws.

[frylock]

26. "it's similar to someone who drinks and drives."

or speeds while driving, and I'm sure that you have NEVER exceeded the speed limit, right? Why, that would be illegal, and indicative of someone who holds little regard for the consequences of their actions to themselves and others around them.

[CrownPrinceBandar]

27. Beat me to it.......................

that was going to be the next thing I brought up.

Anyway, :smoke:

[frylock]

28. the law is the law, after all!

[CrownPrinceBandar]

29. And, the police should make all my decisions for me.............

Seriously, I can see noahmijo's point about the damaging effects of substance abuse, but casting that wide net over all tokers is farfetched. Not to mention trusting law makers to dictate what morality we should follow.

[worksux]

35. My brother has lived in Amsterdam for 11yrs now

I think people there smoke pot. I was over there last summer, and they are NOT a bunch of stoners, believe me!!!!!

[Nikia]

36. Discreet pot use is low risk

Maybe, this isn't the place to post tips for not getting caught smoking pot, but smoking pot in a private home is a low risk illegal activity by itself. Yes, many people are incarcarated for possessing pot, usually large amounts and/or being stupid about using or having it. Police usually don't go knocking on doors looking for small amounts of pot though.

[RobinA]

43. They're Making People

who smoke pot get ECT these days? Sheesh, it's later than I thought.

[Old and In the Way]

7. Oh please.....

"but I wouldn't trust you with anything serious like parenting"

I've smoked weed for 30 years and I've raised 2 outstanding kids. That is such an asinine thing to say.....you ought to worry a lot more about parents who booze it up; I guarantee more children have been victimized by drunk parents than parents who smoke weed.

Stop buying into the "anti-drug" commercials.

[noahmijo]

9. See above

Stop assuming if someone seems to hold a different opinion than you are that they simply "buy into commercials" and don't have personal experiences that have assisted in shaping one's opinion on the matter.

[Old and In the Way]

31. Opinions not based in reality is what I have a problem with.

You can be of the opinion that the moon is made of green cheese, but that doesn't make it so.

If you wish to post these type of opinions, expect people who have a different life experiences to challenge your unfounded opinion.

[Ernesto]

37. Old.... you rock

This geezer says: It's always nice to have free-thinking old farts around...... I hate to be all alone!

[slutticus]

11. Yeah...

...I can't count how many times a friend of mine has stolen money from me just so they can score some more of that "killer bud". As nice as weed smokers tend to be...you just can not trust them under ANY circumstances.

And the violent tendencies they portray....don't even get me started...

[LiberalVoice]

16. So because I smoke pot I can't be trusted "under ANY circumstances."?

The people you know who steal your money to buy pot are bad people. I smoke pot and I have never stolen a thing. I have plenty of friends who smoke and none of them have stolen anything from me or my friends. Maybe it's the people you hang out with...

I'd be interested in hearing about these viloent tendencies. Again, something NONE of my friends and I portray.

[Deja Q]

19. I concur with your sentiment

Indeed. Why would a user make a mention of it, honestly, in a personals ad for all to see? If they wanted to hide their use of the plant, they wouldn't make a mention of it openly.

I think the dude is probably legit. It's a matter of time though to get to know him...

[CrownPrinceBandar]

32. I believe slutticus may have left this off the end of their post..........

</sarcasm>

Or, maybe not. :shrug:

[slutticus]

34. Aha!!!

beat me to it!!!

[slutticus]

33. Dude...

...It was a joke.

I'm fucking high right now for god's sake...


I guess next time I should to the <sarcasm>...</sarcasm> thing.


Haha....but I did getcha !!!!

[LiberalVoice]

38. Ok ok, I've been gotten!

All I'm gonna say is that I held my tongue when I thought you were serious because I like posting on DU. :P

[slutticus]

40. Hahaha...

You passed the test well...


:smoke:

[VelmaD]

41. You're high right now?

No fair. *cute pout*

And where the hell are you at anyway...you aren't answering your phone...again. *huge fake sigh* ;) That ringing noise...that ain't fairies honey...it's your phone. :P

[frylock]

25. "i just don't trust people who are near dependent on a drug..

that fucks with your mind." You mean like caffeine, alcohol, tobacco, sugar, prozac...

[scarlet_owl]

47. So my husband and I shouldn't have children because we smoke?

Despite the fact that we are both responsible, caring individuals? I'm trusted enough by my community to volunteer with children 20+ hours per week. I don't know what kind of experiences you have had with marijuana users to make you think that they can't be trusted as parents, but I think you'd be surprised to find out just how many people actually do smoke and lead very normal lives-including people who are parents. My 52 year old mother-in-law has smoked pot for close to 30 years, and she raised a wonderful son.

[The Flaming Red Head]

49. Yeah and if pot decreases fertility?

How come all my pothead friends have 4 and 5 kids.

[LiberalVoice]

2. If she shared! eom

[BiggJawn]

3. I've dated users. Not fun.

Dope smokers, pill poppers, drunks, acid-droppers...
OK, so the sex was usually pretty awesome, but that was it.

[Deja Q]

6. Ah, well...

Sex is a pre-requisite, isn't it? O8) I wonder if I could get him off of the stuff....

[slutticus]

5. It depends...

...Is she bringing her own or is she bumming off me?



Just kidding....I always share!!!!

[Nikia]

10. Well, my husband smokes

He didn't before we got married and my best friend introduced both of us to it. Now, he smokes a lot more than I do, which sometimes concerns me.
There is nothing wrong with smoking pot in itself as it usually leaves the user sociable, coherent, in a good mood, and is not very damaging to their health. There are somethings you might want to consider though, especially if you don't smoke or plan to. How often does this person smoke? Is it a main activity or expense in their life? Do most of their friends smoke? Would you feel left out if you went with them to a friend's house and everyone else lighted up? Does your perspective SO respect your decision not to smoke? Will he pressure you or feel uncomfortable that you don't partake? Is he risking his job by smoking? How would you feel if he lost his job because of smoking or failed to get another job because of it?
I am not stereotyping anyone but these are things that you should ask and consider before you get serious. I also recommend asking similiar question if you find yourself with an alcohol drinker or other drug user. Marijuana is probably one of the least harmful drugs that people use recreationally, but you don't want it to be a problem in your relationship.

[Deja Q]

14. Thanks for the info

Right now it's a matter of conversation via personal ad e-mails. He said he uses it recreationally. I'd rather not partake, smoking isn't my gig.

Yes, I will definitely ask him.

I hope he wasn't high when he told me he thought my pic was cute. :-)

[Feanorcurufinwe]

12. Would they go out with me if they weren't stoned?

[Hoping4Change]

20. LOL

[Ernesto]

13. Pot? yes

Ciggy smokers? NO WAY!

[jdonaldball]

15. Of course, if they laugh at all my jokes

[eyesroll]

21. Someone who smoked recreationally, sure

I used to smoke in college, every couple of weeks or so (pretty much everyone I hung out with did the same). I don't use anymore, but I don't hold it against people if they choose to.

Someone who was a chronic user, probably not. I had a few friends who were always high, and damn, they got annoying.

[Hoping4Change]

22. No. I liked nervous high strung people. People who smoke

get on my nerves and needless to say I on theirs. My drug is choice is coffee as it bumps up the nervous energy.

[Deja Q]

24. Now THAT is a rarity!

I'm the epitome of nervous and high strung and you wouldn't believe how many people I manage to (unwittingly) intimidate! :-)

Of course, certain facts about such people make one wonder why they're always single... we're hard workers for one thing...

[traco]

30. Been there, done that

The guy wouldn't work

Stole money from me to support his habit

abused me physically and sexually

No thanks.

[HuckleB]

39. Like any social drug, this is a maybe.

If she's "got to have it" every day, then I doubt I'd start things up. If we were already "in love" or what have you, I'd do what I could to help her. In the end, it depends on how the use affects the relationship, which, well, would take a few volumes to go into the possible scenarios there.

[ott]

42. Depends on the dependency

I wouldn't date anyone who felt they *NEEDED* any sort of drug on a regular basis, or at all. Pot and alcohol just about fall under the same roof.

Glad I found a chicky that'll split a bottle of wine with me once a blue moon.

[Swamp Rat]

44. I wish republicans would smoke pot all day long.

:smoke:

[politicat]

45. Since I'm completely allergic to c. sativa, I could not date anyone who

smoked pot.

That would be suicide, and I like being alive.

Pcat

[Piperay]

46. No...

never again, I have had too many boyfriends who were into it both smoking and dealing and it turned me off of the whole thing. x(

[Radical Activist]

48. I've dated women who needed to

Seriously, I've had a couple girlfriends who would have benefited from smoking pot. The relationship would have been better. I don't use it but I have dated women who smoke and it doesn't bother me.

Cigarettes smokers I have issues with. Pot doesn't bother my asthma like cigarettes do. I'd rather date a pot smoker than a cigarette smoker any day.

[jukes]

50. BUT

they have to share.


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