GoddessOfGuinness
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Thu Jul-29-04 08:02 PM
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Poll question: What's worse? |
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Marriage to the wrong person
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Divorce and loneliness for the rest of your life
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Dookus
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Thu Jul-29-04 08:03 PM
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you didn't frame that in a very positive way.
Being single doesn't have to equate to loneliness.
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GoddessOfGuinness
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Thu Jul-29-04 08:06 PM
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3. And being married doesn't have to be miserable, but |
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given the choice of the two extremes, which is worse?
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Thu Jul-29-04 08:08 PM
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would be worse.
Having another person around who constantly got on my nerves? No thanks. I'll take books and cats.
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Thu Jul-29-04 08:05 PM
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2. Marriage, but with a caveat |
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I'll tell you what my dad told me: It's really easy to find reasons to get divorced. It's a lot harder to find reasons to stay married, but the reasons you find are usually much more important.
My wife and I were having a rough time, but we stuck it out. That's been about 6 years now and we're better today than ever before. Ol' dad was right.
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Thu Jul-29-04 08:06 PM
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4. In some cases, marriage to the wrong person |
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could result in abusive behavior and in the worse cases, death.
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Thu Jul-29-04 08:08 PM
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6. Feeling lonely with another person is pretty bad. |
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Solitude is one thing. It can be empty or it can be restful and/or enriching. But it's horrible to feel lonely when you're with another person.
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Thu Jul-29-04 08:08 PM
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7. Married to the wrong person |
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Trust me. I could write a book.
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Deja Q
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Thu Jul-29-04 08:10 PM
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8. Please define 'wrong person' |
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Single for all my life, I don't know what I'm missing.
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Thu Jul-29-04 08:11 PM
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9. Trust me on this one, OK? |
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I was involved in a bad relationship for a long time. It finally ended about two months before the wedding date. You might wonder why a wedding was scheduled if the relationship was so unfulfilling, and that would be a valid question. I don't really know the answer. I think I asked her to marry me one night to get her to stop ragging on me about something.
After that, I was lonely for a while too. Lonely is better, and it never lasts forever. You heal, and you find out all kinds of interesting things about yourself.
Peace.
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Thu Jul-29-04 08:12 PM
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10. Goddess, divorce seems like a sentence to loneliness for the rest of life |
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but it isn't. Been there, found out I wasn't so good a predicting the future. At a time when I wanted to give up breathing because all I could see was a future of pain and loneliness, a kind man asked me: "*******, don't you want to see how it all turns out?" At the time, it sounded like the stupidest question I had ever heard, and I railed at him for it.
But I stuck around. And I have to thank him for putting the question in the back of my head. He had gone further down the road I was just starting to travel. He held a light up so I could see beyond my own darkness. That's what friends do.
Married to the wrong person is a sentence one should not have to serve. Loneliness can happen in a room full of people who have known you all your life.
Around some corner, not too far in the distance, there may be a surprise and all the pain of the trip is just to get you ready for what will come.
First order of business, instead of a sentence of loneliness, we should all sentence ourselves to the task of befriending ourselves. Alone or in a room full of people, lonely can be beaten.
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