Was I a good friend to do this?

[tjdee]

Back in the day, this guy liked me--never said so, but I got the 'vibe'. At first I liked someone else, was probably very ridiculous, talked his ear off about it, etc. When we stopped hanging as often as we did (different schedules), I missed him and realized the error of my ways. I didn't share this with anyone, after all, I wasn't *sure* he liked me, I was too shy,blah blah blah. Around this time, my best friend revealed that SHE liked him.

So when he hugged me a bit too long after a party, I'd shrink off because she'd be there, etc. I'd been in her place before, and I didn't want to put her (or me) in discomfort. Eventually we lost touch with him--they weren't too close (although pals) and I didn't answer an email he sent me. Until now. She's met up with him again, and while I'm sure he's over it (it was SO long ago, and he's with someone now), I'm just curious whether y'all think I did the right thing.

I feel like I did, but I feel like I'm being dishonest with my friend somehow. Should I just have gone for it with him? But, I have a great friend and if it was meant to be with that guy it would have happened, right? I probably saved myself some emotional strain there, as well. Men come and go, friends are forever? Sigh.

[HEyHEY]

1. well

Whatever.... it's a situation of whatever happens happens. You can't fight nature..we need to all realize that

[TrogL]

2. does anybody else find this

incomprehensible?

[tjdee]

3. Sorry, it's late...

I'm getting incomprehensible.

I'm just wondering if I was right to turn this guy away in favor of maintaining my friendship. I'm probably thinking about it too much.

[HEyHEY]

4. Well, it would explain my soft answer

[tjdee]

5. Hey, *I* understand it!

Ah well...

[wtmusic]

6. Or friends come and go, but regrets last forever...

everything for a reason, or you can 'coulda shoulda woulda' yourself for the rest of your life.

[noiretextatique]

7. someone who i passed on recently came back into my life

after 7 years, and the feelings are still there. anything is possible. opting not to hurt your friend was an honarable thing to do, but since they weren't in a relationship, i don't know that you were obligated to pass on your interest. clearly...he wasn't interested in her.