Are there a lot of physically beautiful women who are lonely not by choice

[MrScorpio]

Out there?

Or is this a freakin' myth, or what?

I kinda find it hard to believe that good looking women have problems with nice guys not approaching them.

Not the fact that they turn down slobs, but that NOBODY even tries.

I never had that problem when I was single. I used to talk to and date nice looking girls all the time back in DC.

Somebody is pulling my leg.

[JohnKleeb]

1. No, its not a myth

Really, so many great looking ones out there that are single but alas I don't have a chance with because of things, damnit :(.

[Nikia]

7. John see post #6

There are girls who have problems with the whole flirting/attraction behavior thing too. Get to know some girls on a more casual level and ask one out.

[JohnKleeb]

12. no, thats not why

its other reasons. However, thats how I build up relationships. I can't really explain it.

[GRLMGC]

2. I wouldn't know

I'm not physically beautiful and i'm lonely not by choice. I've heard about this though. I'm sure it happens. I'm sure some men are probably intimidated by beautiful women and don't think they're good enough.

[miss_kitty]

3. nope. As a physically attractive woman, I have spent most of my life

single. But it's always a choice, whether people are aware of it or not. There are guys that have told me they didn't approach me because of my looks, but it's more than that.

You kind of have to have an openness about you to attract that. I was poorly socialised and kind of needy as an attractive young adult. scary. I have a friend I was head over heels in love with (and I still love him deeply-he is my soulmate) who is still my friend, and when we were young, he wouldn't touch me emotionally with a pole (heh heh-note the qualifier) because of my limpet-like ways. and I closed myself off to others for years.

So no-I didn't consciously say "I will remain alone the rest of my life" but I did say "I won't go to that party," or "I will stand here with my arms crossed, because I don't want to mingle (unconsciously)" or whatever. And my sister is a stunner. same problem. only she's a bitch. I am shy. And how we all are as adults, for the most part, is our responsibility and our choice.

But I am not so needy any more. Nor am I so physically attractive as I once was. And I am not that shy anymore-but I've gotten into not giving a shit so much.

[Nikia]

6. I was shy and weird when I was younger

I'm not extra hot but I did wonder why I had trouble finding dates in high school when many less attractive girls did. I think that it was for several reasons. I was shy. I rarely attended parties that weren't just close friends. I didn't drink. I was a a super geek and super runner and most of the guys at my high school were intimidated by that. I wasn't very confident in myself. I wouldn't recognize flirting until it physically hit me in the head.
My freshman year of college, I was a little bit more outgoing and I went to college with super achievers so men weren't intimidated by that. I was more confident in myself. I still didn't drink and rarely attended parties and when I did, I stuck with whoever I went with. Again, I didn't recognize flirting or if a guy was interested in me until it became very direct.
I did have a few boyfriends and dates in my teen years but not many. With one exception of asking a guy to home coming, I never iniated anything with guys in that way.
I met my husband at the beginning of my sophomore year. We have been together ever since. I was so glad that I met someone who the relationship worked out. I was ready to settle down because for me "dating" was not fun at all.
The strange thing is that I think that I am better at noticing whether a man might be attracted to me now than I was when I was a teenager, now that I don't need it (except I do to avoid uncomfortable situations). Looking back, there were guys who were probably attracted to me back then but I didn't recognize anything. Imagine trying to flirt and someone turns the conversation to geometry homework. I should add that I was never afraid to talk to guys on the friend/aquaintance level since I had male friends since elementary school. That's how I always had approached guys even if they were very attractive to me.
There are attractive women out there, especially young attractive women for the young crowd. Not every attractive woman is comfortable with herself or really knows attractive behavior. They may be concentrated on other activities aside from dating and partying. I suggest being direct in asking them to attend something with you after you have gotten to know them a little bit. Of course they might assume that it is just a friend situation, as I often did, so clue them in that too somehow.

[onebigbadwulf]

4. I've NEVER met a beautiful woman

who was single or not dating anyone for more than a few days.

In fact, all of my beautiful girlfriends I had to STEAL from their current tiresome boyfriends. Every single one.

[RivetJoint]

5. So that would equate to....

zero?

[redqueen]

13. Hahahahahaha

Thanks... I needed that. :)

[mairceridwen]

9. 10 years single

With a few extended "dating" type things in there.

and it's not that I am "less attractive than I think" in the old days, it was the other way around.

Not all attractive women are approached, even the approachable ones.

[mairceridwen]

8. I was single for a long time

Sometimes it bothered me more than others, suffice to say that I was never approached. No one ever flirted with me.

I'm not drop-dead gorgeous, but I am beautiful in an approachable kind of way. I know there were times when I made myself unapproachable, but when I actually put some effort into being more social and open to flirting still NO ONE approached me.

It doesn't matter now because I have someone wonderful, but for a long time it bothered me.

[NewJeffCT]

10. as a guy, I can say "Yes" to that, it is true

Between my two marriages, I really dated like crazy. I'm a decent looking guy and before my first marriage, I was quite shy and considered a "nice guy", as in, "well Jeff, you're cute, but you're too nice for me."

However, something clicked after my wife filed for divorce - all sorts of gorgeous single women seemed to crawl out of the woodwork. I kept pinching myself thinking, "how in the world is this woman single????" or, "Why is this Goddess with me?" - I mean, one woman was an Italian version of Pam Anderson in her prime; another could have been Halle Berry if Halle got implants; another one was a Filipino nurse that was so beautiful people's heads would turn & stare as she walked by & she also had a personality that lit up a room...that is just a few.

The first woman had the stereotypical overprotective Italian father who severely limited her dating; the 2nd woman was very bright and very picky and was probably more concerned about getting into law school than dating a just divorced guy like me long-term; the 3rd woman was just so vivacious that most guys would have trouble keeping up with her (we're still friends and she is slowing down a bit now in her old age of 32 or 33)

[redqueen]

11. Hard to even answer this question

Because I'm not 'physically beautiful'. But I guess since some people say I'm good looking, and since I've been approached like maybe THREE times in my whole life, I think the answer is probably yes.