Question for DU women.

[getoffmytrain]

Obviously, I am a newb with a whopping 63 posts, but I have a dating question for DU women. So... I have this girl, been out with her once, she works for a company I do business with. We hit if off when we went out. Due to work, she comes into my office 1-3 times a week and we talk about NOTHING to do with business related issues whenever she comes in... obviously, I am interested... but... what I can't figure out, the entire time she is in my office, she talks, smiles, etc. but won't look me in the eye. My simple question is; what does this mean if anything? She's nice, flirty, but refuses to make eye contact.


PS. God, Winston Lights sucks... where are my Camels?

[madmax]

1. Maybe she's shy

:shrug:

[Lefta Dissenter]

2. some people just have poor eye contact,

or low self-esteem. Or maybe she's feeling guilty for being attracted to you because of the hunky husband she has waiting at home with their six children! :D (just kidding on that last one...)

[medeak]

3. does she touch her hair?

dead giveaway..

[getoffmytrain]

yeah, pretty handsy with the hair....

she has long hair, messes with it too.

[blondeatlast]

46. Every time.

Count on this one.

[greymattermom]

4. it means

She's confused. You hit it off but you didn't ask her out again. She wonders if she did anything wrong. She's pissed that you didn't ask he out again.

[getoffmytrain]

7. I asked her out again...

But she is in Costa Rica for a week as of yesterday and she said, "I will call you for sure when I get back"

[HEyHEY]

36. Too late - she's pissed!

Dude, yer sooo done! :-)

[gollygee]

44. I agree with this!

Ask her out again when she gets back from Costa Rica.

[jdj]

5. probably

or maybe she has a crick in her neck?

have a female come over while she's there and strike up a conversation, see if her behavior is different

good luck

[TexasSissy]

6. She's SHY. Yes, even attractive women can be shy around

men they find attractive. And otherwise outgoing women can be shy around men they find attractive. They can even be shy while talking to a man they are attracted to.

That's my first reaction (speaking as a woman). If she weren't interested in you, she'd have no trouble looking straight into those apparently sexy, alluring eyes of yours! (if she's attracted to you, that is probably how she sees your eyes!)

This is probably a good thing. You need to ask her out again. She's wondering if you are still as interested as she is.

[getoffmytrain]

9. That's...

good to hear, I find her very attactive.

[JimmyJazz]

8. DUde, 63 posts and you're asking us for advice! WTF -

we are the wrong people to be asking! Trust your instincts, trust your judgment, but DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT trust these stoned slackers! They have nothing to offer you. Run, hide, head for hills!!!!!


Are you still here? What is your problem???

:7

[getoffmytrain]

10. LMAO.

too many margaritas tonight... what the hell, eh?

[JimmyJazz]

12. I'm sorry -- were you at my house tonite?

[getoffmytrain]

13. NO....

EYE have had too many Margaritas!

[JimmyJazz]

15. DUde, what? EYE had too many margaritas? Who's EYE?

Oh please let me in on the joke! I need to LMAO. TX DHS. Don't twist yourself into a pretzel, that means thanks, Donna (my initials).

[getoffmytrain]

18. "EYE"

Is an empahized way of saying "I" meaning..... "EYE" (as in me, getoffmytrain) have had wayyyyyyyyyy too many margaritas tonight. Rum and cokes too.

[NamVetsWeeLass]

16. 101....

Dude, we are UNTIE(d) here...

[JimmyJazz]

21. that would be DUde, if you don't mind! I'm trying to start a trend!

[NamVetsWeeLass]

27. DUde...

ROFL Sorry....

[JimmyJazz]

25. DUde - I know that. I'm just being silly. I am too busy visualizing

whirled peas to be involved in this silly mess. Now, go to bed.

[JimmyJazz]

43. Caught that one, huh?

I threw that out to see how long it would take!

[foxy]

40. I resemble that remark thank you kindly.

Usually when someone does not make eye contact they have someone else that they are concidering and you make them feel guilty because they are attracted to you. Or something like that.

Just my humble opinion.

[DustMolecule]

11. Maybe she's wondering when you're going to make a 'next step'

move and invite her to ????????? (somewhere/something).

[ropi]

14. not a DU woman...

but...DUDE.... just ask her out again.... you're not going to know unless you do it.... if she says yes....then GO....

okay ladies... let's say...if you were in her situation..what could our gentleman do to really impress her?

[rockymountaindem]

17. Thank you for asking this question.

I've had the same problem with a girl myself. She's sooooo shy, especially around guys. In fact, I'm one of two guys she talks to. Come to think of it, she doesn't really talk to the other one anymore. But yeah, other than the fact that her shyness makes me SOOO MAD, she's perfect :loveya:

I'm confused, you're confused... man, girls are hard to figure out :)

[getoffmytrain]

19. Ha!

Someone once wrote a song about a woman. :-)

[JimmyJazz]

22. and that would be????

[getoffmytrain]

23. "Love Her Madly"

harharhar.

[JimmyJazz]

28. So, DUde, how are things in Texas these days?

[getoffmytrain]

29. Well...

I live in Austin, which isn't very representative of the rest of the state... but, Austin is awesome, tons of fun, awesome social life type of town and anti-chimp in a major way... Texas is good.... regardless of what you hear, the 'morans' will come and go like the tumbleweeds.

In other words, it's great DUde ;-)

[JimmyJazz]

31. 'tay

If you say so.

[getoffmytrain]

33. But...

can I take what you say seriously?

[JimmyJazz]

34. not a chance and no fair peeking!

[getoffmytrain]

35. LMAO!

How'd you know I was from Texas? hmmmmmmmmmmmmm.... :-)

[JimmyJazz]

42. Your accent gave you away

:7

[getoffmytrain]

48. awwww shucks.......

:-)

[JimmyJazz]

49. Note to self: do not get drunk watching Survivor, stay up to

watch the Daily Show and then put up silly posts to Texans....

:)

[getoffmytrain]

50. ha...

You know us Texans and you Pennsylvanians have tons in common. :-)

[rockymountaindem]

24. On the bright side, you're racking up lots of posts with this thread!

Pretty soon you'll be calling everyone by their first name. You can start calling me Rocky now if you wish.

I think I've heard that song you're talking about... man girls are confusing. Here's some encouragement though; sometimes I strike out in search of female companionship with some guys who just seem like real chick magnets. A few of my friends are really attractive, I guess. But do they get girls? No, of course not. I never thought I'd be the most outgoing person at a party. One time I was at the St. Patrick's day party, and I tried to get some of my friends to join me in talking with a group of girls on the other side of the room (I can't handle 4 at once). But nooooooo... "hey man, I'll just stand here and drink my beer". Laaaaame.

How about a lottery system?

[JimmyJazz]

32. delete - poster in need of sleep

[Tsiyu]

20. What culture is she from?

In some cultures, it's considered 'forward' to look a man in the eye. Some Native Americans believe it is bad juju to look someone in the eye.

If neither is the case, she is just being shy and coy.

[Taverner]

26. Ask her out

but then again, I tend to rush things sometimes

[NamVetsWeeLass]

30. Hey, 63 posts is good.

I only joined October 1rst and am almost at another Milestone (200) Keep posting!!!!

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

37. First of all

you lost me at "I have this girl."

(Kinda being tongue in cheek kinda not with that.)

Anyway, I do that too with guys I like (or I did when I was single), so my guess is she really likes you and you are so devastatingly handsome she can't even look at you.

[getoffmytrain]

38. ha.....

well... surely her calling me "frog face" in an endearing term, right? ;-)

[JI7]

39. shy and probably interested in furthering the relationship

[Kenneth ken]

41. welcome to DU

:hi:

and if you'r eold enough to work have an office, you're old enough to be dating WOMEN, not girls.

I'll second Moonbeam Starlight on that point. :)

even though I'm neither a woman, nor a girl.

By all means, do ask her out again.

[Darth_Kitten]

45. I'm guessing she's shy....not everybody is comfortable making eye contact.

Don't hold it against her... ;)

[samplegirl]

47. i say its a sign shes interested

she probably dosent want to make it look that way in work place.

[ElsewheresDaughter]

51. it may simply be that she is uncomfotable mixing business with personal

life

[BlueNomad]

52. well...

..I was one of those girls but now am a married woman....I would say sometimes a woman does that because, she's very interested, but probably shy and possibly not truly available...is she available?

[getoffmytrain]

53. yes...

younger and divorced just like me. (I'm 26, she's 28)

[BlueNomad]

54. ..sorry

... I meant available as in "emotionally available." I would definitely pursue asking her out again. I meant to say that she could be feeling "gun shy" though really like you...

[getoffmytrain]

55. oh, lol...

yeah... she's very nice, open and talkative, etc.