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Mon Oct-11-04 12:14 AM
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Girl question for those with teenage daughters. |
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What's the best age to take a girl to her first OB/GYN appointment, and what do you say to her? How do you get past, "They're gonna do what?"
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Mon Oct-11-04 12:18 AM
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when she started menstrating (at 12) i'm afraid all i could do was try and console her about the actual particulars what can you say about that? except we get thru it :)
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Mon Oct-11-04 12:19 AM
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2. What did you say about why at 12? |
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Gawd, it's awful, isn't it?
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Mon Oct-11-04 12:50 AM
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there are some things about being a girl that aren't too great and pelvics are up at towards the top of the list. and having to tell your kid she has to let some stranger poke around in her private parts .....jeez.
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Mon Oct-11-04 12:21 AM
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why is a trip to the ob/gyn necessary at such a young age?
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Mon Oct-11-04 12:23 AM
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Mon Oct-11-04 12:26 AM
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6. Seems a bit young to me |
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If her period is normal, I don't see the reason. A teen needs an ob/gyn (if she isn't having obvious medical issues) once she becomes sexually active.
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Mon Oct-11-04 12:22 AM
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Edited on Mon Oct-11-04 12:23 AM by Moonbeam_Starlight
I guess around 18 or so, or sooner if they are sexually active. But no need before then. Just keep going to regular doctor or pediatrician.
Again, unless sexually active or there are menstrual issues of concern/out of the ordinary.
My mother took me for a pelvic exam at 14 to see if I was still a virgin. How's THAT for shitty? When she asked the dr afterwards, he refused to give a judgement.
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Mon Oct-11-04 12:26 AM
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8. I have some worries/concerns about this one |
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if you get my drift and I'm trying to figure out a way to get the MOM to take the kid to get checked without raising all kind of red flags about it.
I could be wrong, but as a survivor myself I just smell something rotten. If I'm wrong, no harm done...
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Mon Oct-11-04 12:28 AM
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well that's different.
Erm, the girl needs to come up with an out of the ordinary menstrual concern and then a trip to a GYN is warranted with no red flags going up.
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Mon Oct-11-04 12:35 AM
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12. A little more complicated than that. |
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The girl is going to need to be dragged kicking and screaming.
Don't want to get into too much detail b/c it could result in a lost friendship. I'm trying to convince the Mom that she needs to have the kid checked out, but I need a reason other than my suspicions.
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Mon Oct-11-04 01:15 AM
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15. I'd call the school counselor |
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I don't think a medical exam would be definitive enough with a teen anyway. I'd call the school counselor and tell her a few specific reasons you're suspicious. Or maybe if she's mentioned a favorite teacher. I suspect things like this are more likely to be told through a confidant than outed through a forced medical exam. But I could be wrong.
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Mon Oct-11-04 01:24 AM
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16. I was thinking more of making it for health |
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reasons, you know, nothing forced about it, just making sure she's okay in general health-wise.
I was thinking because of doctor/patient confidentiality that if she's okay no harm no foul but if there's a problem then the doctor can handle what happens from there.
I'm scared to death and don't know what to do. All I have are my antenna doing flashdances above my head that there's something wrong, wrong, wrong.
If my read of the situation is right, the girl is totally and completely happy with the situation. Electra complex I think it's called.
:shrug:
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Mon Oct-11-04 01:34 AM
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What would an exam show??
I only intervened once with any of my 4 kids' friends. In restrospect, I should have done it much, much sooner. Separate any personal biases and anxieties, then trust your gut, that's all I know. It's never easy knowing the right thing to do.
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Mon Oct-11-04 01:40 AM
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:shrug:
I've already said too much in public.
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Mon Oct-11-04 01:45 AM
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Edited on Mon Oct-11-04 01:45 AM by sandnsea
I'll try to help if I can. Regardless, you'll probably feel better being able to sort it out.
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Mon Oct-11-04 01:52 AM
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Mon Oct-11-04 01:11 AM
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:cry: I'm so sorry that happened to you. I had a mom kind of like that too. :hug:
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Mon Oct-11-04 12:26 AM
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Edited on Mon Oct-11-04 12:28 AM by rchsod
so i knew from then on it`s "don`t say anything" for a few days..but in all reality she`s been easy to live with...it was easy for us cause she knew alot about "it" from her girlfriends so we sort`a lucked out there! opps-she had her first around 17..
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Mon Oct-11-04 12:31 AM
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until she was 17. Before that our family Dr. did her exams, just like he does mine. Only if there is a problem do we go to the OB/GYN.
I prepared her by telling her exactly what would happen & why. She never questioned it, she just said gross & pass the Midol.
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Mon Oct-11-04 12:34 AM
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11. Read in one of "those books" about "everything or nearly everything a gal |
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Edited on Mon Oct-11-04 12:54 AM by Valerie5555
wanted to know about periods, but may be too mortified to ask," that any gal should at least see her gyno for the first time at 18 years of age and possibly earlier if she's engaged in "nudge, nudge, wink, wink, say no more, say no more," if anyone knew what I meant.
Maybe a gal also ought to run not walk to her gyno if she had certain kinds of "female troubles," that went to the extent that they couldn't be cured by a few Advils or Motrins.
On edit BTW Considering the content of the Starr Report, it was surprising the Congress hadn't impeached Clinton for "practising medicine without a license," but I would have to say okay, I admit it, I would sooner take a sex rogue as the American President over a "chickenpoop warmonger," any day.
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