Division of household work - How do you guys do it?

[sbj405]

I have to admit my bf is fairly useless when it comes to household chores. Essentially, I do it all - yardwork, cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping. We've had the "you don't do shit" argument many times and I've pretty much given up on it. His solution is to hire a cleaning person. I don't think this really solves the majority of things like dishes, laundry, and daily picking up. We both work full-time. Until the last month, he had a significantly longer commute than me, so I didn't mind picking up some slack. Though since the new job, the situation is pretty much unchanged. His big thing is vacuuming, which he does about once a month and then wants special recognition for it. We have two dogs, so I end up vacuuming several times in between his "cleaning."

Just curious, how do you guys with partners or roommates divide the chores?

[underpants]

1. I do the laundry, dishes, trash, frig cleaning, vacuuming, litter box

but my wife is doing more since she started working normal (not 60+) hours.

[trotsky]

2. I do the laundry and the outdoor maintenance (lawn, leaves, snow).

She does most of the dishes and the vacuuming and nearly all the dusting and bathroom cleaning.

I like doing laundry so it's not a bad arrangement. I do know that relationships have ended because one partner could not understand the concept of division of labor though, so be careful with your boyfriend. You may want to get some professional help, and I don't mean a maid, if you think this relationship will go on.

[sbj405]

6. I am a little worried about that.

I'm not neat freak, but his concept of "clean" is not acceptable. I'm concerned about bearing the brunt of the work for the rest of my life, not to mention to addition of kids.

[plcdude]

3. I do the most of

the cooking, we split cleaning, yard work, wash our own vehicles, she does the laundry (I am not allowed) and heavy duty stuff is up to me. We split transporting children and homework and assistance.

[commander bunnypants]

4. I do most of it

she goes nuts only when company is comming over


DDQM

[liontamer]

5. I'm a bad housekeeper so I mostly do the brute force work, plus

picking up laundry, dishes. As it happens I'm very picky about the bathroom so I do that too. I dust, clean mirrors, and try to pick up after myself, but I'm not very good at putting things away neatly. So that and everything else are not listed as "me" things.

[msturgis524]

7. I do most

But, she works significantly more than I. 60+

[BlueNomad]

8. I am the girl BUT

This is what we do....

I do all the cooking and meal preparation. Unlike my friends though I cook 5-6 nights a week.
He does all the food shopping including prescription orders and pickups etc..

I do all the kids' school stuff
He does all the laundry including the ironing infront of the NFL all Sunday. Kind of cute.

11 year old son
cuts the grass weekly
does the night dinner dishes and takes the garbage out

the 7 year old daughter
sets and clears the table

I also do all the homework supervision, middle of the night kid cold and vomit cleanup, xmas, kid clothing, birthday remembering and gift shopping, hair combing.

Son and husband shovel snow.
I do all the bedmaking and vacumming, floor scrubbing.

Sometimes after a few years we might switch --there is only one hard and fast rule. If you cook you do not clean up after, and whoever is sick is relieved of all duties without anyone losing their mind, going postal or getting pissy. We seem to rarerly be sick--that helps.
An DH is a cool guy, laid back, and not a hypocondriac. LOL

[NC_Nurse]

9. My hubbie and I are pretty messy

we share the work, but have a housekeeper come twice a month to keep things at an acceptable level. My teen son is helpful when asked, but not around enough to really make much of a dent.

when I get home tired, he cooks. If he's tired, I cook. If we're both tired, it's chicken pot pies, frozen pizza or "fend for yourself".

[wyldwolf]

10. wife stands over me in thigh high boots holding whip ...

...demands I clean house... wyldwolf complies.