Dating Advice

[displacedyankeedem]

I need a little bit of advice when it comes to dating. You see, when it comes to debating Republicans, making political strategy calculations, writing term papers and speeches....no problem; dating the opposite sex....haven't got a clue(blushes).

I've found a suitable date that I really like (you guys will love her) see here for details:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=132x1033142

I've even asked her out to dinner, and she's accepted. BUT, I didn't use the D word-date. So how does one make the jump from dinner to asking someone if they want to start dating?

[Systematic Chaos]

1. Just let it happen!

Go out with her with NO expectations whatsoever, other than having dinner. Be the very same person you were when she accepted the dinner invitation. Wait and see how the night goes and if it looks good, then express an interest in keeping in touch. Whatever you do, do NOT make it seem as if you're banking too much on the outcome of the evening. Accept the possibility that she is only interested in making like-minded friends, and may not feel capable of sustaining a relationship with her other responsibilities. If she's interested in more it will become apparent to you soon enough.

From what you're saying it does sound good and I really hope it will be just the sort of thing you've been hoping for. :)

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

2. That's right

go with no expectations except to have a pleasant meal. If you're like me, you'll know after a few bits of conversation whether or not you want to date.

[serryjw]

3. I this is tough for young people to understand.........

BUT this is a 'best seller' now..

He's Just Not That Into You : The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/068987474X/qid=1097576290/sr=1-1/ref=sr_1_1/002-0422529-8996029?v=glance&s=books

The author was on Oprah. The truth is true the opposite way also. I am single middle age woman. I am on several personals websites. I have been using the election as an excuse to why I can't date several men whom keep emailing me.No matter how much you want something to work; if it is not mutual than why bother....On the other side IF it does work you will BOTH know it and the 2nd date will come easily. Don't sweat it. Go out enjoy each other and let nature take its course!.....I think its been working for many millenniums!

[Still_Notafraid]

4. Just let it happen

if shes happy and talkative after dinner then your golden,call her when you know she is home after the date,show interest but don't throw yourself at her,the give and take is best way to go.DON'T LIE ever really no point,causes stress you don't need

Let her or get her to talk about her self,Listen to her!Don't take your self to seriously and stay loose,Smile women love men who smile.make a list of questions in your head about what you want to know about her nothing to personal until she offers or she is comfortable with you,most importantly BE your self!if she likes you for who your not your gonna have some problems later.

[Rainbowreflect]

5. Be yourself & get to know each other at dinner.

If it goes well and it feels right tell her you really enjoyed being with her and would like to do it again, soon.
That gives her the opening to let you know how she feels about it.
GOOD LUCK!