Let's pretend we are all VIRGINS...........

[serryjw]

IF you could go back and do it again at a certain age what age would it be.

Would you wait for marriage?


I was a 21 year old virgin. If I had found someone earlier I would have had an intimate relationship at 18...BUT not earlier. I think sex BEFORE marriage is important. Too many people are NOT sexually compatible.

[MrSandman]

1. Why change what was a good thing...

@1 here too. There is reason that many states set 16 as the age of consent.

It coincides more with emotional development than morality.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

2. I wish I would have waited ...

I thought I was going to be with this guy forever . Was engaged to him as well . Broke up with him 3 years later - which I would have waited but hey , can't go back .

[WMliberal]

3. i'd change the girl, not the age

someone nicer, sexier, etc.
I was DEFINITELY ready at 14.

[grannylib]

4. I would certainly not have done it the way I did the first time around...

guy was a MAJOR asshole; took the attitude that it was a test of sorts: if you let him, YOU lost and he dumped you.
Would wait for someone who loved me for me.
But then I was the ugly, homely, geek-goddess of the universe when I was young, so when you are starved for attention you can make some pretty huge mistakes with relationships.
Yikes. I would not be 16 again for the WORLD.

[WindRavenX]

5. No

I lost my virginity in a cliche of drunken fumbling at a college party.
I found intimacy in love with a very wonderful man who, sadly, wasn't for me.
But the experience of finding that true love and intimacy is real and that sex CAN be a divine experience was not a bad thing even though I did not ultimately decide to spend the rest of my life with him.

[Pale Blue Dot]

6. At the moment, this is quite easy for me to pretend.

I would have done it at the same age, but without the pesky guilt and emotional scars that accompanied it. And I would have worn boxers. You learn these things as you get older.

[Nikia]

7. I might have waited to be with my husband

I don't think that I would have waited until marriage though. Before I was with my husband, I felt guilty about having premarital sex. I didn't really have good relationships with those young men. One of them, who had been a virgin, even broke up with me because he thought that I coerced him into it and probably still hates me, at least he did 3 years after the fact. With my husband, we were very compatible and I didn't feel any reason to feel guilty anymore. We were 19. He was a virgin.
On the otherhand, maybe it helped that I had a little experience since he didn't. He quickly became a good lover because he did what I liked rather than what other women liked, as did my experienced previous partners.

[Still_Notafraid]

8. I was

15 she was 21 I would not have changed anything other then my father finding my condoms,that was bad I dated her for 8 months until we grew apart.

I was lucky enough to swear off the guilt of religion at around 13.was a hard fought enlightening

[yvr girl]

9. You're not all virgins!

I'm shocked, shocked I tell you. Do your parents know?

[bloodyjack]

10. Yes, let us pretend!

in answer to your question: true love waits :D