I walked out of my house tonight. Where can I go?

[Ellen Forradalom]

I'm in a hipster coffeehouse in Chicago, wondering where to go. Any suggestions?

[AIJ Alom]

1. why'd you walk out ?

[graywarrior]

2. Why did you walk out?

[Ellen Forradalom]

3. Great minds think alike

Because I don't love my husband any more.

[AIJ Alom]

6. wow. are there any women's shelters around ? do you have any family in

the area ? any friends ?

[Ellen Forradalom]

7. Yes I have friends

trying to get ahold of a couple of them.

[AIJ Alom]

10. best of luck, i'm half way across the nation, but you'd be welcome in my

home. Please be safe.

[MnFats]

4. any colleges nearby?

I'll bet you could get away with sleeping on a couch in a lounge. Though a lot of campuses are more attentive to security now than when I was in college....friends used to sack out in dormitories when they were "between" living arrangements...

[Ellen Forradalom]

5. I might look young enough to pull it off

Very creative idea.

[Kenneth ken]

8. a Woman's Shelter for the night?

I don't know how well-prepared you were for walking out, so I'm not sure what the best option would be. That's just the first thought I had.

Heck, you're internet-connected, you could spend some time surfing and find an option that would work for you, I expect.

Best Wishes :hug:

on edit: if you have a credit card in hubby's name, you could stay at the best hotel you can think of. :D

[Poiuyt]

9. What about a hotel?

In Chicago, I'd want to be someplace where it's safe. Can you swing that for a night until you can contact some friends?

Otherwise I like the woman's shelter idea. Ask a policeman if they can give you any information on nearby shelters.

Good luck.

[Ellen Forradalom]

11. kick

in case anyone else has come along

[faithnotgreed]

12. i sure cant help you except to keep this kicked. is there a ymca

around that you could stay. being in a city is helpful for things like this

best wishes and prayers for you

if you feel like talking about it, please do share.... though i know your focus is on where to stay.

please let us know....

[Metatron]

13. forradalom,

I sent you a PM.

[Taverner]

14. Best of luck

and I've been there, friend :)

:hug:

[Ellen Forradalom]

15. I went home, like a lame-o

forget it, doesn't matter.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

16. Nothing lame-o about rethinking impulse

If you really want out...set yourself up to leave and leave knowing you will have a roof over your head.

Hang in there...I know this has been building over time...but leave in a way where your survival is assured.

Hugs, my friend.

[miss_kitty]

17. It might take several tries

It's like dipping your toe in the water. Next time, may be a longer time.

It does matter because we get a finite amount of time as far as we know. Might as well try to make it as enjoyable as possible, just in case. But big change is scary.

Good luck! :)

[nicolemrw]

18. as long as the problem isn't that he's abusive

theres nothing wrong with going back til you decide what to do.

[Ellen Forradalom]

21. No, not at all

It's just an emptiness between us, that's all.

[nicolemrw]

24. so no need to rush things

you can take the time to make plans.

[greatauntoftriplets]

19. NSMA's advice is excellent.

Also please make provision for your son when you leave, and preferably take him with you. He is very young and won't understand.

:hug:

[Ellen Forradalom]

22. He might be better off at home

His father is a good daddy, and home is a block from school.

[greatauntoftriplets]

23. Please talk to him at least.

He needs to know that you are not really leaving him. Be well.

[SarahB]

20. I want to give a second to what's above.

What NSMA said that is. I'm in the similar boat and it's taking an extremely long time for everything to come into place in order to split up- bad enough we may have to divorce and stay under the same roof for a couple more years. Makes me scream inside with the way he is, but I have my children, I have myself (didn't always have that), I have goals I'm working toward to make it happen, the house is big enough (and I'll get some money out of my share of that eventually), and I have another job interview Wednesday.
Life is hard sometimes. Damn hard. Take care of yourself, Sweetie. :hug: