I am Bisexual. No one likes my kind. It sucks. Ask me anything.

[Placebo]

We just don't fit in anywhere, we're like round pegs in square holes.

[Dukakis88]

1. My thoughts on "bi hatred."

In my own personal experience, it may come from jealousy. The last girl I was incredibly attracted to was bisexual and polyamorous. When I would see her flirting with women and men and having them all wrapped around her finger I would alternatingly get sad or mad wishing that I had an interesting sex life of some kind. Plus, it really hurts when you are attracted to two girls and one of them seduces the other one -- it's like a double slap in the face as far as arousing meaningless jealousy goes. So, I freely admit that in my case it's sour grapes.

[donheld]

2. I certainly don't dislike your kind

but i have questions. Would you find it hard to settle down if you could go either way? Do you get frustrated when somebody thinks you should pick one over the other?

[malatesta1137]

3. all humans ARE bisexual

with different intensities, they just don't explore all possibilities.

[WMliberal]

4. I asked out a bisexual girl once.

she said I didn't appeal to either of her desires.

[Placebo]

5. Heh, ouch.

[Syrinx]

6. more like pegs in a hole of any shape. :)

Just joking. I think you are more than welcome here. :hi:

[Placebo]

7. Shhhh.

:hi:

[TransitJohn]

8. Isn't that supposed to

double your chances of scoring on a Sat. night?

[Droopy]

9. Sometimes I wish I was bisexual

It would increase the chances that I'd get laid every once in a while.

[elf]

10. Having friends hetero, bi and homo

you should make up your mind!

I don't like people, who play with this topic. There are too many out there, who think: "I just should try this....!"

It's not about a try, you are born with it or you stay away!!!!!

It's not a try...........acept these people the way they are, it's not a "fashion thing"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


:)

[Placebo]

11. Eh, it's not a fashion thing to me.

It's who I am.

[elf]

14. exactly!!!!

that's what I wrote...........

:hi:

[LostInAnomie]

12. Guys get the shit end of being bi, or gay.

Bi or Gay women usually aren't as discriminated against near as much because of all the horny guys wanting to watch.

It is like Bill Maher says, when homophobes talk about how destructive homosexuals are they aren't talking about lesbians.

Sorry about your luck.

on edit: On second thought that probably wasn't the best choice for a subject line. Sorry.

[NashVegas]

24. Bis Threaten Feelings of Inadequacy for Two - Maybe Four -Groups of People

instead of just one.

Most het guys who love to fantasize about bi-sexual women rarely imagine a reality where their woman leaves them for another woman. The cases where I've seen it happen, those men aren't too happy.

Women are often brought up to feel inadequate in the first place.

I've never been in the situation myself. Rationally, I know that if a guy does something for my man that I can't, it doesn't have anything to do with me. Emotionally, I've no idea what my reaction would be in that scenario.

[Paragon]

13. Everybody loves you when you're bi.

Artist: Living Colour
Album: Stain
Title: Bi


People, if they choose you, then they want you to decide
But you'd rather relax, kick back, enjoy the ride
There's a category if you're straight or gay
You're a wild card gambler and you like it both ways

Everybody wants you when you're bi
Looking at the girls and eyeing all the guys
Everybody loves you when you're bi
But the tension and the passion's double-amplified

My lover told me, well, that she's bi
I wanted to scream, there were tears in my eyes
She said baby, baby, don't you cry
'Cause the one I am with, you've been seeing on the side

Everybody wants you when you're bi
Eating with the girls and laughing with the guys
Everybody loves you when you're bi
But the tension and the passion's double-amplified

Everybody wants you when you're bi
Feeling all the girls and touching all the guys
Well, everybody loves you when you're bi
Well a friend of a friend of a friend told me
Everybody's messed up with their sexuality
Well a friend of a friend of a friend told me
I need a closet big enough to live in
A closet for the whole world to live in
I want a closet big enough to live in
A closet for the whole world to live in

Everybody wants you when you're bi
Loving all the girls and loving all the guys
Everybody needs you when you're bi
But the tension and the passion's double-amplified

Everybody wants you
Everybody needs you
Everybody likes you
Everybody loves you

Everybody, yeah
Everybody
Everybody, come on now
Everybody,
Everybody, whoo
Everybody, yeah
Everybody, come on now
Everybody

Well everybody loves you

Bi
Licking all the girls
Bi
Licking all the guys

Everybody's fucked up with their sexuality
You like it both ways
Like it both ways
Bi

[onebigbadwulf]

15. No one likes bi guys. Everyone likes bi girls. (nt)

[VelmaD]

29. Not true...

I like bi guys. :)

[belladonna]

16. Careful there, the poster in the thread you're copycatting just got banned

:mad:

[JohnKleeb]

35. This is a copycat?

Me so confused.

[Kaldis]

17. Um...

Ask you anything, huh?

Lessee...

What's the main difference between guys and gals? Flirting, courting, in bed, etc!

Comon, don't say "I'm Bi!" and not give us straight/gay people some interesting ancedotes about gender differences! :)

[Dookus]

18. my boyfriend of 2.5 years

is bisexual. He found a bf :)

[Behind the Aegis]

19. I don't dislike you! :)

At least not for being bi. Since I don't really "know" you, I guess I could dislike you, but it wouldn't be for being bisexual. I have seen more "bi-phobia" in the gay community than the str8 one. I think that is because gays/lesbians feel bis are able to get the privileges of heteros, but that is not the case if the person they fall in love with is the same sex. There are many myths out there about bisexuals. Be who you are and all will be well. Challenge those whose minds can only encompass "gay/straight."

Brightest Blessings!

[Spinzonner]

20. Which Two ?

[Q3JR4]

21. I like your kind.

I'm not bisexual (gay), so I can't even begin to think that I can understand where you're coming from. As far as I'm concerned, however, we're all sexual beings. Members of the gay community who attack bisexuals based on who they love (exactly what the fundies do to us) seem to be somewhat hypocritical.

I personally think that everyone should be free to enter into any relationship with another consenting adult or adults.

Just my two cents.

[Chovexani]

22. I know how you feel.

You're never gay enough for gay people, and straight people think you're deviant.

It especially sucks being a bi woman. Everyone thinks you're a crazy slut...straight guys only see you as a toy to act out their porn fantasies and lesbians won't give you the time of day (we can't be trusted ya know). :eyes:

[bicentennial_baby]

26. Exactly

"You're never gay enough for gay people, and straight people think you're deviant."

As a bi woman, I know that feeling all too well.

[buddhamama]

33. yep

i've experienced it too.

one assumption i've encountered is that, if you're a bi-woman than
you're hot for any and all women. a lot of shock when i say, 'i'm not attracted to her.'

edited for content

[peacefreak]

23. Darlin'

You're just a people person!

[zanana]

25. Like Woody Allen says...

It doubles your chances for a date.

[WMliberal]

41. i beat you to the Woody allen quote!

i chose the self-deprecating jewish side of his humor, as opposed to his optomistic side.

[Skittles]

27. I am jealous of your kind

yes INDEED

[Misunderestimator]

28. I love you, man... but I wouldn't date you.

:evilgrin:

[sundog]

30. Here ya go man...

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself."

-- Friedrich Nietzsche --

[terrya]

31. I like bisexuals, The Nation. As a gay man, I'm not about to be....

judgemental about bis. The only people I'm judgemental about are homophobes.

It's called the GLBT community, my friend. Bisexuals are very much a part of our family. :-)

[Racenut20]

32. Do U get your own Amendment to the Constitution?

Repugs would tell you it is your choice, and all you have to do is re-choose to be straight and all will be well. yeah right !!!!

Many men fanticize about bi women. They don't have the one girl/girl scene in every straight porn movie by accident do they?

[TankLV]

34. They're just jealous because you could potentially shtoop the entire

population, whereas those committed to one side or the other can only hope for 50% at best!

It's pure jealousy!

But I don't care because out of ALL the people in the entire world, I found my ONE honey!

Good luck in your search for happiness!

[lumberingbear]

36. Are you more attracted to...

one sex more than the other???

[Placebo]

39. Not really.

It depends on the person more than the gender. :)

[Lizz612]

55. EXACTLY!

I'm attracted to people because they are attractive, and gender enters in to the equation very little. (Only when its a girl and I think they don't swing that way)

[skygazer]

37. I like your kind!

I AM your kind. And we're the real "silent majority". ;)

[twenty2strings]

38. i was a cockette.

just a bit player but i'm in the movie. anybody seen it. no labels but great fun. sexual anarchy with an all inclusive bent. i went to marina jr. high in s.f. any alumni out there? my wife found the documentary on cable. she became happily obsessed. welcome to the happy fun big tent!

[Placebo]

40. I love that movie documentary!

You people were CRAZY cool! :)

[bicentennial_baby]

57. I own it

My bf's friend is in it. I cannot remember his name right now though.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

42. Actually I've always thought it was quite the opposite

see the rest of us have to limit our potential partners to about 50% of the population, but you guys can choose from ANYONE you find attractive.

Cool deal.

And on edit, I think a lot of heteros have bi feelings and just don't act on them.

Ahem.

[TrogL]

43. They hate us for our freedom

[Placebo]

44. They really do.

lol

it is threatening to them :P

[jukes]

45. you're ok by jukes

ignore judgemental losers; they're latents w/ no courage of their their convixions!








:pals:

[JohnKleeb]

46. Why are hetero guys such as yours truly attracted to bi girls

I am and I don't know why. Perhaps it's that I find it fascinating that I and a girl can look at another and admire her beauty as well. :shrug: I am weird, I guess. It's not the sterotypical thought oh I could have a threesome, really it ain't, one on one sex for me always. Weird, maybe I should be a psych minor after all.

[GreenPartyVoter]

47. Does it suck not getting into relationships because the person

in question worries about not being able to "compete" with the other gender?

[Placebo]

48. Yup!

Or that while you're with them, there is the potential that you're lusting after another gender.

it's all f'd up.

[GreenPartyVoter]

51. I can understand, though. I am already insecure about my hubby and

admiring other women. If I was owrrying about him admiring men that would double the number of intriguing people out there.

But then, I give myself a mental shake to remember that he picked _ME_. And that he is committed to staying with me and loving me until death do we part. (And hopefully even after that.) :)

[DuaneBidoux]

49. I support you. Am completely straight, experimented awhile but

it really is the female of the persuasion that gets me there. I wish you love and peace (inside and out!).

[Dastard Stepchild]

50. I'm bisexual, too. I like ya...

Do ya find that you wanna date girls when yer with a guy and date guys when yer with a girl?

[Placebo]

53. Yup!

It's very strange, there's no rhyme or reason to it.

[Dastard Stepchild]

60. Yeah...me, too. (n/t)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

52. i sympathize

:hug:

on edit: i find straight educated men to be better at dealing with bi women than lesbians are....

[Metatron]

54. I'm a hetero woman who dated a bi man.

I had no issues with it at all. I only cared about my relationship with him. His relationshp with other people wasn't a concern for me. I'm sorry you feel isolated - but know that there are some of us in the world for whom it doesn't matter.

[miss_kitty]

56. I Like you, The Nation

I hate that innate features that make us the individuals we are, are seen as threatening, feared and ultimately, despised. It's what fucks us up at every turn.

Instead of trying to help people overcome homelessness, hunger and health problems, resources are wasted on keeping people in love from making their union (what we agree to call) legal because they happen to be the same gender.
Or money is squandered on holding people back because the aren't white. Or weren't born in this country.
Then you have people on the 'bottom' looking to find someone to consider to be less than they are. It's learned behaviour

Whereas sexual orientation is not, any more than ethnicity is.

The fact that our society refuses to acknowledge a basic fact, that we are all of the same family (yet made with some differences-differences that don't cause harm to others), and marches blindly behind a narrow dominant paradigm, puzzles me.

[Deja Q]

58. I'm bi too, though considerably leaning toward gay

The fact we're not pure heteros (:eyes:) makes us round pegs.

[miss_kitty]

59. I saw Graham Chapman on David Letterman in the early 80s

and somehow his sexual orientation came up, which was weird, because Dave gets hinky talking about doing it. Anyway, Chapman said "I prefer men about 75% and women about 25%" which was something I had thought about-that is there are degrees in the sexual orientation thing, like their is in skin tone, height etc. I'd hazard a guess and say 100% of either is very rare...Just MHO.

[camero]

61. But think of all the phone numbers you get

Sorry, had a George Carlin moment. :)