Passive aggression - the most annoying personality trait

[devilgrrl]

Passive aggressive people are worse that physical bullies and I hate them.

Sorry, just needed to get that off of my chest.

[kick-ass-bob]

1. agreed.

[Lavender Brown]

2. ((Slams door))

Just kidding. Yes, passive aggressive behavior is stupid and destructive.

[kick-ass-bob]

3. we have a lady here who does that ALL the time...

:eyes:

[Lavender Brown]

10. at work?

[Maddy McCall]

4. So true...

I have a relative who is passive-aggressive. In the past, I would act out to just get a response from her.

Then I grew up and realized that I couldn't hinge my happiness on hers, so when she goes into her passive-aggressive behavior, I just ignore her. She can't rile me up anymore, and it has caused the P-A to be much less frequent.

[Squeech]

5. I resemble that remark!

It's how I'm planning to get through the next four years.

[HEyHEY]

6. Now now, calm down, just because you're a projectionist

doesn't mean don't like you.

;-)

just buggin ya - passive aggressively

[Susang]

7. If you say so.....

Sigh................I said SIGH!!!!!!!!!

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

8. Passive-aggressive-ness is only fun when you are the one being

P-A. ;) To stop it in other people, you simply refuse to play the game.

I had a passive-aggressive mother and I learned to spot the signs of it in people FAST. I have to say there is not a single P-A person in my life. I keep it that way.

[Ready4Change]

9. What is passive agressive?

I've heard the phrase, but I don't really understand what passive agressive behavior entails? Thanks.

[JimmyJazz]

13. From google:

People with this disorder resent responsibility and show it through their behaviors rather than by open expression of their feelings. Procrastination, inefficiency, and forgetfulness are behaviors commonly used to avoid doing what they need to do or have been told by others must be done.

A person with this disorder may appear to comply with another's wishes, and may even say that he wants to do what he has agreed to do, but the requested action is either performed too late to be helpful, performed in a way that is useless, or otherwise sabotaged to express anger about compliance that isn't related verbally.

Signs and tests
Personality disorders are diagnosed by psychological evaluation and a careful history of the extent and time course of the symptoms. Some of the common signs of passive-aggressive personality disorder include:

Procrastination
Intentional inefficiency
Avoiding responsibility by claiming forgetfulness
Complaining
Blaming others
Resentment
Sullenness
Does not express hostility or anger openly
Fears authority
Resists suggestions from others

[AmyDeLune]

16. That's my co-worker!

I stopped "playing the game". I've been getting the Silent Treatment for about six months now. :eyes:

[hunter]

21. Oh dear. That's me.

Except for the "fears authority." And I have a good excuse for all the rest of that crap.

[HEIL PRESIDENT GOD]

11. Just ignore the undertone

Never ask "what's wrong". Take everything at face value and they eventually crack and tell you what's bothering them, or else they just stop.

Yet I hate the feeling of being next to a smoldering human volcano.

Hey, is voting for Bush an act of passive aggression?

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

14. No.

That's as active as firing a bazooka into a wedding party. Oops, been there, done that.

[HEIL PRESIDENT GOD]

22. Firing a bazooka into a wedding party

Takes some guts. A gutless wretch can vote (and we know how he will vote...)

[smirkymonkey]

17. Ugh - it's the worst! I hate it when you do ask them what's

wrong and they respond "Nothing" in a snippy voice. Usually it has something to do with thier unspoken, and often ridiculous, expectation that you cater to thier every whim.

[puddycat]

12. Passive Agression is an excellent tool to use against Bushies

don't give them the time of day. Don't cooperate with anything, but keep smiling like you are. It will drive them nuts.

[devilgrrl]

15. Karen Hughes is a poster child for Passive Aggression...

same goes for Laura Bush

[nickgutierrez]

18. Well why do you say THAT, I wonder?

[Mrs. Venation]

19. I Had A Passive-Aggressive Dog

That old dog knew he was not allowed at the table when food was being consumed. We had a small breakfast area and a dining room, each with a table that was on an area rug.

Buddy the wonder dog would lie down on the floor and put either his nose or the tip of one paw on the edge of the rug. Just his way of saying we could keep him out, but only to a point.

I miss Buddy. He gave me such joy.

[jukes]

20. i'm ok then

VERY active-aggressive!

[Nikia]

23. I think that my husband has that problem

He learned it from his mother. It bothers the hell out of me because I try to be direct with people who I have closer relationships with. Instead, he'll say that it's alright if we do or don't do something and really resent it and I don't realize it until he's messing everything up by purposely being late or something. I am having to try to be more attuned to what "I don't care", "It doesn't matter", and "Just do what you want" means in particuliar instances and judge when he really means the opposite. I have observed and he has told me that his mother always behaves this way. He is an only child and his father worked long hours when he was growing up. It bothers me.