I'm not big boned I am Chubby

[GingerSnaps]

So, if any of you guys like chubby girls then I am right here. I am a size 12 and I am not bone thin like the pictures that you see on the magazines that are photo shopped.

I see all of the messages about girls and all of them have that bone thin anorexic look to them and It makes me think that I have no chance. Anyways chubby girls have great personalities and we are pretty.

Who likes big boned women?

[salinen]

1. Give me meat over bone

any day of the week.

[Kathleen04]

2. Size 12 aint chubby

Speak for yourself! ;)

[GingerSnaps]

8. I didn't know about it until after

The two rethug sisters in my Economics class pointed me out as the chubby girl that was debating the Professor over Kerry.

I never gave it a second thought until that moment and so what I feel secure about myself.

[Kathleen04]

10. Ugh, definately pay no mind to them

I'm sure you look great and as long as you feel good than there's no problem. :)

[GingerSnaps]

20. They probably count the carbs on a cupcake wrapper

After they toss the cupcake out :bounce:

[KamaAina]

3. You're not chubby, you're Rubenesque

Ever been to Hawai'i? We have a whole museum (Madge Tennent Museum) full of paintings of big women. Besdies, I myself am well over six feet, and two hundred (mumble mumble) pounds; I'd be worried about hurting one of those waif-types!

[customerserviceguy]

4. I enjoy

larger ladies. I despise what society has done to women with it's "ya all gotta look like Barbie" crap. Right now, I'm steadily dating a larger woman, and she's gone for twenty years (since her divorce) with men who just view her as a side dish until something better came along.

The only problem I have is her doubting me when I say she's beautiful, she makes comments about me having my head examined, etc. I tell her that her sense of humor is beautiful, and so's the way she treats me. At least she can believe that until she can internalize that I find her physically attractive, too.

[GRLMGC]

5. How sad

:(

[the Princess]

15. Give her time

So many tings tell us larger ladies we are ungly and unattractive - it takes time to understand our own beauty.

You are wonderful for telling her how beautiful she is. That helps a lot. :)

[eataTREE]

6. YO.

Think about this for a minute: what are the secondary sex characteristics that differentiate an adult female from a male or child? Why, breasts and hips, of course. Any freshman-level human physiology texts will tell you that. And what are breasts and hips? Fat deposits.

There's a word for people with slim hips and little body fat -- MEN. Women, on the other hand, are soft and curvy. At least, they are if they don't keep themselves on the brink of starvation, as our oh-so-enlightened society constantly encourages them to do.

I really wonder about men who are only attracted to women who have eliminated their secondary feminine sex characteristics via auto-starvation. I honestly think that on some level they're conflicted about exactly what gender they're attracted to.

If I had a nickel every time an attractive, lovely, perfectly-fine woman has told me that she was "too fat" or "I need to lose weight", I'd be a freaking millionaire.

One more thing: "Chubby" (ie, not way too thin) girls are absolutely, no questions about it, better in the sack. Being thin is all about denial of the body and denial of the senses. Are you really going to practice asceticism and mortification of the flesh twenty-four by seven and then turn around and embrace sensuality in the bedroom? NO.

I like plump girls. I especially like plump girls who like themselves. And I'm not the only one.

[eataTREE]

7. Oh, and one more thing.

Marilyn Monroe was a size 14. True fact.

[the Princess]

14. *YAY*

See you are out there.

And I agree chubby women are better in the sack. It's about enjoying lifes bounty! :) Aks hubby! *snicker*

[CO Liberal]

26. I Agree!!!!

I've had a preference for larger girls and women since I was ten years old. But after getting a lot of shit from my classmates in 6th Grade (when I had a severe puppy-love situation with one of the larger girtls in the class), I hid my preference through jr high and high school. It wasn't until I was 19 that I decided to live my life the way I wanted to, and the hell with what anyone else thought.

Since 1972, every woman I've been involved with has been large, and I couldn't be happier. Plus, my preference brought Mrs. CO Liberal into my life - the greatest reward of all. :loveya:

And take it from me, fellas - if you've never been romantic with a chubby woman, you just don't know what you're missing!!! :-)

[American Tragedy]

9. This girl loves big guys - skinny doesn't do it for me at all

Broad shoulders, heavy set; one of my few absolute turn-offs in looks is a stick-figure physique.

[GingerSnaps]

11. I weigh

Get this guys I am 5'5 and I weigh 158 pounds and I am happy with my image.

[lady raven]

50. sounds about right

If I remember correctly, 158 is either in the "normal" range for 5'5" or it's BARELY into the overweight range. Anyone know how to calculate BMI?

[billyskank]

12. Size 12 chubby?

I thought that was on the thin side of normal: normal being somewhere between 14-16 (in the UK, at that).

Where on earth do you get the idea that you are chubby!

[GingerSnaps]

16. From the Sisters in my Economics class

When I was debating my Professor over Kerry vs Bush before the election they both started chatting to each other and someone said something to one of them and I heard one say "the chubby girl". :wow: Like I didn't know that I wasn't bone thin in the first place LOL.

Do you live in England? Are you looking for a wife because I want out of the USSR(prior freedom) sorry i meant USA.

[billyskank]

24. That's the best offer I've had in ages!

:D

[Pithlet]

27. Be prepared

There have been comments about size 12 being big here on the DU lounge before. Just so you won't be shocked when it happens. I expect it any minute.

[GingerSnaps]

38. I am

:bounce:

[the Princess]

13. The media has brainwashed you

Size 12 is NOT big. Size 12 is below the national average. The average size of a woman in the US is 14.

The bone thin models and actresses you see on TV are the genetic freaks. Women are supposed to have curves and hips. :)

I've been a fat women all my life and I never had trouble dating nor finding men who loved me the way I was. It's a myth you have to be skinny perpetuated by the media.

You know what men find even more attractive then how skinny you are? CONFIDENCE!

Love who you are - and eat 3 healthy meals a day - and exercise - everything else will take care of itself.

:)

[GingerSnaps]

19. Have you noticed

That whenever you see a message thread about a good looking girl it has a picture of an anorexic looking girl that looks like she needs to eat a meal or two? :evilgrin:

When I go on a date I eat what's on my plate plus more. I am not a cheap date I like food and desert. I don't order the smallest size prime rib I order the large one. :9 :hug:

[the Princess]

23. Yes I have noticed that and it irks me

There are so many beautiful big women in the world - but they don't like themselves.

I eat what I want. Hubby likes something to hold onto! :)

[Taverner]

17. I do :)

[KG]

18. heh.

as a middle aged dude, i've seen what time can do to young thin women. they dont often stay....

[lectrobyte]

21. I don't think it matters too much, I'm more concerned about

intelligence and soul, if that makes any sense. The physical stuff all fades with time, inner beauty still shines through.

[DrZeeLit]

22. My weight is always perfect for my height, which varies.

Hey! I like the term "statuesque."
I'm 5'11" and ...
Well, that's it.

[indigobusiness]

32. Yeah...

but your grammar stinks.

[DrZeeLit]

44. Remember... I swore off grammar. I don't need no stinkin' grammar.

Nursing a grammar hangover, in fact.
Sheesh.
Let a girl wallow for a moment, eh?

[indigobusiness]

46. Well...I do love a wallowing girl...

big-boned, or not.

[GingerSnaps]

47. I don't wallow

Aside from being depressed from the election I am a happy camper when it comes to my appearance.

[indigobusiness]

48. Nope...wouldn't accuse you of it. Never........and I'm camping happy

over your appearance, as well.

If you need a wallowing girl, consult the shameless Professor (above).

[American Tragedy]

25. I honestly don't know what is important anymore

I think you exaggerate the importance of weight. I'm a size 0 and I have been single for almost five years, so women of all sizes are lonely.

I find being subjected to transparently false romance as a means to an end and subsequently used for sex rather boring; upon learning this men immediately lose interest.

[onebigbadwulf]

28. Sorry. I like my women to be smaller than me...

call it instinctive darwinism.

[the Princess]

29. Or possibly insecurity? Just askin.

[onebigbadwulf]

30. Insecurity? Fat women don't arouse me - I don't have control over that

Besides, I need someone who can DO physical activities with me, not just sit around and eat junkfood.

[GingerSnaps]

37. I don't eat junk food

I also exercise and I am very secure about myself. You assume too much and you must think that all "fat" people eat massive amounts of food. It's a myth that the diet industry put out so that you will buy their books and products.

[the Princess]

49. Can you say BIGOT? I bet you can.

Hey no problem if you aren't attracted to fat women - we'll all sleep better knowing that.:eyes:

I can't remember when was the last time I sat around eating junk food. But you would know wouldn't you?

Ignorance is bliss.

[CO Liberal]

52. I'll Bet That You're A Real Physical Gem, bbwulf

It's been my experience that the guys who are the most vocal about fat women are downright ugly themselves. And fat. And usually have itty bitty weiners......

Little teeny weeny pee-pees......

[GingerSnaps]

54. They drive

Sports cars and wear toupees to make up the difference if you know what I mean :evilgrin:

[Pithlet]

33. Think "small" n/t

[GingerSnaps]

36. How skinny are you?

I have my insecurities also and I feel unsafe :scared: around a man that is so skinny that a stick figure can kick his ass. :bounce:

[indigobusiness]

31. Hi fatty.

Wanna dance?

[Nicole]

34. I am a size 8

and was called fat ass the other day!

A friend gets mad when I order an appetizer or side salad as my meal when we dine out, he tells me I am too skinny & to order a "real" meal.

Chubby is in the eye of the beholder it seems.

[SarahB]

39. Yeah, I know.

I'm an 8 too (usually an 8 for pants anyway) and sometimes I look in the mirror and just think my butt is huge. It seems I don't have a problem with people thinking I'm physically attractive, it just how many of them would I actually want? I'm picky. I'm not picky about stupid, shallow crap. I'm picky about the important stuff.

To me the concept of dating is like feeling through a pile of poop to find the hidden diamond.

[Amaya]

41. Lord knows I've picked through a pile of poop

no diamond, so far.
Always hoping though :)

[SarahB]

42. Sometimes...

You come upon a diamond by some miracle or accident and there it is just shining and beautiful, but you can only see it through a glass case feeling as though you will never touch it.

[GingerSnaps]

45. The difference is 2 inches

I make my own clothes and the difference in a size 8 and a 12 is about 2 inches which is not much of a difference when you come to think about it. It's amazing what 2 inches will do for people either male or female.

2 inches more gives a woman a bigger caboose and larger bra size and 2 inches added to a man's figure allows him to drive a cheaper car. :evilgrin:

[LightTheMatch]

35. Sweet

Sounds good to me...

[Shoeempress]

40. Stop looking at those god awful mags with 12 year old nymphets

who have been photo shopped. I'm mid 40's have no interest in discussing weight or height but I feel great about myself. Enjoy being who you are, feel sexy and you are sexy, be your dazzling, smart, funny self an you won't have to worry about what others think, cuz you will know you're fabulous. And yes I really believe this and live my life like that and it's worked out pretty well so far.

[Poetscorner]

43. Never regret

your size. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... hey, some "beholders" can be assholes and straight out tell you what they think, but you have your own thoughts and shouldn't care what others think.

I myself am only 5'3" a size 4 and I don't like it one bit. Especially since I was a size 10 before. I've been trying to gain some weight ever since. And My hubby is always telling me to gain a few pounds.. lol.

But to get back to you. Have pride and don't let anyone take that from you.:yourock:

Saera :dunce:

[Redleg]

51. Size 12 seems reasonable to me.

Unless you are only 3 feet tall.

[GreenPartyVoter]

53. Come visit

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