How many people currently in a relationship are "happy"

[JimmyJazz]

I'm putting my ass out on the line for this one...Please don't hate me for this.

for some reason it didn't work - i told you it was my first time trying a poll - give me a minute

Okay, once again I have no idea why this didn't go through: the questions are simple enough (and apparently I am, too) Are you heterosexual and in a "happy" relationship or in one you wish you could leave or are you homosexual and in a "happy" relationship or in one you wish you could leave? I

t's not rocket science, but apparently this poll thingy is to me! :P

[jdots]

1. Like with another person or something ?

What a liberal concept that is

[GOPisEvil]

2. Relationship? What the hell are those?

:shrug:

[JimmyJazz]

14. Okay, if I have to tell you...it's when two people

think they are in love with each other and decide to live together and do (hold on here, dear) their laundry together and mix whites with colors and all that other fun stuff...And the guy thinks the proper place for a fresh roll of toilet paper is on top of the empty cardboard roll...Oh wait, I digress :P

[short bus president]

17. wait a minute, wait a minute

I'm trying to follow along, but you lost me at this "laundry" thing. WTF is that?

[JimmyJazz]

23. Well, you know that major appliance in your basement...

the one that looks like this:



you put the dirty clothes and the detergent (see aisle 8 at the local gorcery store) in the machine and push the little buttons and the clothes come out all clean and fresh smelling!

[GOPisEvil]

20. Sounds like it's not much fun!

Why do people get into them?

[JimmyJazz]

22. Ah, Grasshopper...if I had the answer to that question...

well I wouldn't be hanging out here, now would I??? :P

BTW - do you think the proper place for a fresh roll of T.P is on top of the used roll? Just asking!

[GOPisEvil]

32. Uh, no...

...the new roll goes on the roll-thingie, the old roll gets tossed. Some people are so uncouth. :P

[JimmyJazz]

33. Correct answer! So what are YOU doing for the next

20 or 30 years????

[GOPisEvil]

37. Hmmm...

...I'm not sure what I'll be doing 20 minutes from now. :-)

Keep in mind that toilet paper roll replacement is one of my better household skills.

[terrya]

3. I don't get to see Doug as often as I want.

But he is the light of my life. He has shown me the beauty of life. And brought me more love than I ever dared hope for.

Yes, I'm happy. :-)

[short bus president]

4. How'd you get to post a poll with no poll?

And somehow manage to get 2 votes recorded? Are you using the diebold version of DU?

[Hello_Kitty]

6. ROFLMAO!!!

[JimmyJazz]

11. asso-fuckin-lutely - now you, too, know my secret!

It's all part of my charm to lure you in!

[short bus president]

13. Oh, no - not so easily this time.

I know all about you women and your toothy flowers and the pain and the screaming and such. I'm gonna become a nun!

[bigwillq]

5. Hey, where's the poll?

:shrug:

[JimmyJazz]

9. if i knew, i would tell you

actually, it's part of my super secret plan to mess with everyone's head tonite! sshhh - don't tell, okay?

[bigwillq]

12. It'll be our little secret!

:hi:

[JimmyJazz]

15. I hid it and I'm not telling anyone where!

And btw - did you notice only one person so far has answered in the affirmative and he's Gay and Happy!

[miss_kitty]

7. dang not currently in one

except with myself. and I know EXACTLY what I need...

:evilgrin:

[short bus president]

8. yes... that's an EXCELLENT smokescreen.

They'll never suspect us now!

;-)

[JimmyJazz]

10. wink, wink

[short bus president]

16. Sumpin' in yer eye, hon?

I'm trying to Lounge-stalk, here. It's hard work. I put in a lot of nights and weekends and, you know, long hours. It's hard work.

I appreciate yer support. Shortbus/mlle_chatte in 2008!

:P

[JimmyJazz]

18. I think that is a wonderful ticket!

I'm sure you too will be very happy together! and btw, have you checked out this for a china pattern:



Admittedly, it's not as nice as the one GiE and I picked out last month, but I think it's your style, nonetheless. :P

[miss_kitty]

21. too too-uh

too.

no offense, ma'am
this is more my style:

[short bus president]

56. Those are lovely, dear, really,

but I already have a perfectly good china set. Actually, I buy new ones regularly.



;-)

[miss_kitty]

57. Bwahahahahaha!

those are fab! I think I'll get me some!

:7

[miss_kitty]

24. here's the silver i inherited:

[short bus president]

25. Oh, please!

Where's the O'Keefe floral pattern?!? I want our dinner guests to be impressed at the vagina-flowers revealed as they devour their meals. These are no steenkin' vagina-flowers!

[miss_kitty]

19. Hey! I just read about your dinner flambé

you really know how to impress a gal!

:P

[JimmyJazz]

30. Matchmaker, Matchmaker, make me a match - Hey

mlle_chatte - show him your ass - that always works for me!

[miss_kitty]

39. okay since I am a Gardner whose specialty is pruning I'll show you

my topiary ass:



Uh-I did not actually do this. Mine would be more better...

[short bus president]

41. Oh, crap - you two are just beggin' for the mango pants, now.

Why I oughta...

[miss_kitty]

47. ok. let's see 'em

you brought it up! :P

[short bus president]

48. Oh, sorry - that's not a voluntary thing

it happens when I get "excited" talking to girls. And you wouldn't have noticed if you'd been looking me in the eye, perv! :P

[miss_kitty]

58. What can I say?

It was so obvious, I thought it socks-from the laundry we have heard so much of tonight....

:P

[short bus president]

62. Clearly not.

Had I done the laundry, there would've been shrinkage.

;-)

[JimmyJazz]

49. i always knew you had a nice ass!

:P

[short bus president]

31. Well, I may not offer gourmet chefing skills,

or any knowledge of this "laundry" thing 101er keeps talking about, but I CAN prolly belch yer name. That count for anything?

:P

[miss_kitty]

35. My brother used to belch the alphabet...

:eyes: laundry mystifies me Too. I mean I keep washing it, yet it keeps showing up. WTF is up with that?

[short bus president]

40. When I lived in Brooklyn,

I had a "laundry service." I'd call 'em, they'd come and pick up a garbage bag full of various fabrics and odors and such, and bring it back to me the next day, often minus the odors, and often minus several bits and pieces of the fabrics. But you know, it beat wearing the garbage bags.

[indigobusiness]

26. I'm far too in love with myself

to share.

[JimmyJazz]

28. no you're not - admit it! There is someone here you admire more!

[indigobusiness]

36. LEAVE THE POLLING TO POLAND!!!

You're not the sharpest knife in the drawer, now are ya?

[JimmyJazz]

44. Normally, yes I am - wanna talk about

Shakespeare or beat poets or the United States disruption in South and Central America for the past 70 years - I'm there. Wanna discuss art in the post impressionist era, I'm there - I'm a huge fan of the Annenberg collection. Paul Gaugin - too many naked Tahitian women for my taste, but to each his own...

Shit, I can even carry on a decent conversation about sports.

But, this whole poll thingy - I'm am not trying that again - EVAH! :P

[indigobusiness]

50. Yeah, we've got to reduce the # of naked women in Gauguin's paintings....

note to Ashcroft: Make that a prioity.

[JimmyJazz]

53. really fuck with Ashcroft and mention Mapplethorpe!

see, I told you - not so dumb!

[indigobusiness]

54. I thought you were here

to fabulate my libido?

[LiberteToujours]

27. What's with the poll?

Bug?

[JimmyJazz]

29. I don't think it's necessarily a bug - it could be the vino, however!

I tried twice and followed all the directions, but they were in Italian and I can't really read Italian...

[jukes]

34. jukes

wants to live in a warehouse w/his cats!

[EstimatedProphet]

38. I'd say I'm happy

There are things we need to work on, but we are going to. What else can you ask, really?

[JimmyJazz]

42. and you are engaged if memory serves me, no?

[EstimatedProphet]

43. Yup

Wedding won't be for a while though

[SarahB]

45. I'm not really in any relationship fully.

I'm just in a mess. No, I'm not very happy about it. I'm in a 13 year marriage I've wanted out of for years really and finally got the gonads to admit it 7 months ago. Still trying to get out of it. I like someone else an awful lot, he likes me as well, and circumstances will probably dictate that it will never go anywhere. I will likely die a bitter, lonely woman who has never known true love.

So the answer to the question is that I am an extremely unhappy heterosexual.

[JimmyJazz]

46. I really wish the poll thingy had worked out because, unfortunately,

I think you are in the majority on these boards. I know you must feel as if you are alone, but I've heard from way too many people recently who say they are unhappy, but can't seem to find a way out! I've seen your posts before and know what your story is - I am sorry and wish you all the best in figuring out what you need to do for yourself. There are children involved, no?

[SarahB]

59. Yes, there are children.

I know exactly what I want. I want a job full-time(or close to it), 2nd shift, that will allow me to make enough money to support myself and obtain benefits while I continue working part-time on my nursing degree (will be done Spring 2007) with minimal daycare costs. I would like to move from my house (he can keep it; I don't care). I want joint custody. I want nothing from him- no money, no nothing- just cut and dry- out! He's a snappy, defensive, angry, in denial, control freak who cared nothing about my feelings for years and I'm fed up.
I would like to occasionally see the man I like because we're rather in the same place in our lives and we have a nice understanding about that particular place, but I'm not in any hurry for anything serious (like marriage or cohabitation) and the last thing I want is "to be taken care of". I need my independence and don't want to rely on anyone (ever again on some level). He has his own issues on his end which may make it just as difficult, if not more difficult to have anything.

I have been job-hunting for 3 months and I was hired for something that I had to turn down because it was day shift and with childcare costs it was too much. I just had another interview Wednesday and I may get the job, but I'm still not sure if it's going to be enough to move when I factor in childcare expenses, but I'll take it anyway this time and at least get things going legally and move when I can move. I don't want my children hurt anymore than they already are, but right now I feel like I'm spiraling down a pretty dark tunnel emotionally and that place scares me. It's been too hard for too long.

Plus, there's my family who gives a sh*t, but that's par for the course my whole life as the proverbial "afterthought" of everyone. My dad's an attorney and I talked to him a few months back. His suggestion was wait until I finish nursing school and tough it out until then. He was no help either legally or emotionally and I don't have the money for another lawyer. I have a family that simply does not care. My husband could do whatever he wanted and he "probably had a reason because he was stressed". Sarah's feelings or what happens to her is meaningless. It's always been meaningless in their eyes.

[miss_kitty]

55. You know. My mom and dad stayed together for 'the sake of the kids'

and I wish they had not. I hope you find a happy ending to your story.

My mom was a physically beautiful woman who was loved by all. I wish she could have found it in her to get out while she was still young. Or felt young. I think she and my dad should never have gotten together.

I often find myself wishing they approached life in a different way, had found happiness with each other that lasted, and took care of one another throughout old age.

They broke up when my mom felt old, my dad dumped us on her, she flipped out, left, he came back, she married the largest bag of shit alcoholic and died young. When I am feeling in a generous mood I refer to him as the piece of shit the murdered my mom. He was a cruel drunk and she gave up on life.

Dad last 8 years longer, not even old enough to collect Social Security. Drinkin' and whorin'.

So if you do get out of it, don't feel you have to settle for a substandard bag of shit. 'Nothing' is better than that.

Good luck SarahBelle

[SarahB]

61. I am getting out.

It's just about money. I am at peace with it and you're right. I'm 32 and I'm still attractive enough that most people think I'm 25 (which is sometimes, believe it or not, a complication) and I have come to terms with the fact that I do not want to wake up and I'm 45 or 55 when even more precious years are gone and say, "I wish I would have gone when I was younger." No this isn't easy, but I have known in my gut for the past 5 or 6 years I needed out.

No, I will never settle again for anyone who doesn't treat me the way I deserve to be treated. I have felt controlled and condescended most of my adult life. I'm fed up. I'm not ready for much now, but I do know that I will not accept anything less than equality and respect. I'm definitely not afraid to be alone. For the most part, that's what I want. Not completely, but to a large degree.

[miss_kitty]

63. Good on you.

and as a person who has always looked younger than my real age, I am aware of the complications.

I wish my mom would have kicked my dad in the nuts when SHE was 32, but it was something you didn't do in the day. I think she was 43 when she finally did it, and she was TIRED. Then she had 3 asshole teenagers, and no help (hey! even when dad WAS there he wasn't. This way she never expected help from Mr Explosive Anger).
So good. I know money can be fucked up. I hope you find a way out soon!

[SarahB]

64. Fortunately...

He's a good father and responsible with his career stuff. He just had a very difficult time understanding the concept of equality within a relationship. I have been with him since I was 18 (he's almost 10 years older). He's very emotionally limiting and controlling in his personal dynamic with me. There are worse things, but for me, this has been enough. Well, there's been substance abuse stuff, but it was never all-encompassing. It was more like another tool to emotionally distance himself at times. It's pretty minimal now, but it wasn't something I signed on for either and for a long time, I'd just get yelled at if I brought it up, so I just distanced myself too (until I basically had nothing left).

[miss_kitty]

68. my dad was good at work

too good. As far as there being worse things, everything is relative. So just because you might look around and see someone worse off than you, or had a harder time in your life with something else, if it's the worst for you now, then it's the worst, if that makes any sense. If you have a tendency to, don't sell yourself short.
When you are ready, stuff will change for you. and if you are well prepared for it, you will go through it with relative ease.
Uh-no one should be 'yelling' at you either. Unless you are hard-of-hearing. :P

[bleedingheart]

51. Happily married for 10 years and 1 month

:-)

[CornField]

52. 14 years and still happy

When we went into this marriage, we told each other that if we ever were not happy, we'd discuss it with the other person. If it couldn't be resolved, we'd do our best to split as friends. So far, that strategy has worked well for the two of us.

[FarLeftRage]

60. ?????

Currently not in a relationship :( ... so not really happy :cry:

[Zing Zing Zingbah]

65. I'm happy. Married for 2 years.

[JimmyJazz]

66. that is so way cool - I would like to think you are in the majority,

but I'm not so sure - unfortunately, my poll didn't work out. While Skinner and I share the same high school alma mater, apparently, he had the better teachers! :P

[NC_Nurse]

67. I'm happily married...

been married for 4 years, together for 10 years. This is my 2nd marriage and THERE IS HOPE!
The first one went down hard after 13 up and down (mostly down) years, 3 kids involved and I wasn't sure my new man would hang in there - thank God he did!
He has shown me that real partnerships are possible and love can grow deeper with time and nurturing. He's a great stepdad too!