MacCovern
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:27 PM
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It's too late to undo what I did, and I know I shouldn't have done it now.
A couple years ago I became friends with a girl in Las Vegas, and then several months ago I found out she had been writing a "porno column" about her experiences with her sugar daddies. She went into graphic detail about this stuff! (Please note I was not a sugar daddy) I was shocked and called her up about this but she refused to talk to me about it, and eventually I flipped and told her if she didn't want to talk I was going to let her mom know about it.
It ended up I sent her mom two of her "columns" that included such comments as:
"His hip was so bad that he could barely heave himself atop me and then lie there like a white-haired brontosaurus, flapping his tail every now and then."
"Many's the time I nearly suffocated beneath his wheezing 6'4", 280-pound bulk."
She was messing around with some really old guys, then trashing them in print.
I still can't get over I told her mom about this stuff, but it is probably best that I am not involved with a girl who would write such stuff anyway.
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:28 PM
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1. Is this a 12-step thing? Cause, I don't think it counts on the |
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Sun Nov-07-04 12:26 AM
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45. lmao-- best reply of the night! |
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:29 PM
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2. What was your rationale for telling her mom? |
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:31 PM
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6. not the right motive....revenge |
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It was revenge because I felt she had used me, and then slowly froze me out.
I am sure her mom won't be shocked by the porno columns. The entire family is messed up.
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Sun Nov-07-04 12:41 AM
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46. how petty and immature, not to mention grossly unfair |
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so you couldn't have her the way you wanted her (um, maybe she "froze you out" b/c of your judgemental attitude??) she deserves to have her family ripped apart?? If you think it wouldn't affect her relationship with her family, then why did you give them the info at all?
Yau are one selfish heartless bastard, and have no right calling yourself a democrat. go back to Jesusland, where they welcome hatred and hypocrisy.
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:29 PM
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3. The republican morality police will love you |
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:30 PM
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4. I don't know what to say..... |
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but I can't believe you told her mom!!!!??? Why, how bitter were you? Damn.
If you are seeking 'forgiveness', you have not shown, at least to me, any contriteness.
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MacCovern
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:33 PM
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9. At the time I was very bitter! |
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I am not bitter now, and I know what I did was wrong, but let me tell you it was one hell of a shock to see a girl I knew was writing porno columns about her sugar daddies!
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:30 PM
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Say four thousand hail Mary's, twenty-two hundred Our Fathers, and go have a bottle of wine. You may not be forgiven, but you might feel better. ;-)
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:33 PM
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10. and 5 percosets... then a King sandwich... bacon, peanut butter |
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with mayo, fried eggs on white toast.
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:31 PM
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7. Yeah, you kinda blew it. |
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You had no right to spill this kind of thing to her mom out of spite.
But you kinda knew that already. You screwed up, time to move on.
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:32 PM
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People are being a little too honest tonight...eh?
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:33 PM
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:35 PM
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14. I second that, I suck |
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I won't do that again to any girls I find writing porno columns.
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:34 PM
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12. Well, that was sure dumb. |
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So you outed this woman to her mom. Reminds me of the cartoon with the hot babe with the expensive furnishing having tea with her mom and the caption read "Goodness, Dear! I had NO idea you could make so much money in Sales! What are you selling, anyway?"
Not the brightest thing you'll ever do. For pennance, you will read her blog, but not masturbate for 3 months. :evilgrin:
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:34 PM
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13. It's probably best she is not involved with YOU. |
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Good thing she found out what a judgemental dick you are. What business was it of yours what she did or what she wrote, anyway?
She's better off.
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MacCovern
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:37 PM
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16. I suck, but wasn't judgemental |
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It was worse than that.
The porno column was bad but wasn't that bad. I told her mom because this girl froze me out of her life, which she pretty much does to everybody.
I should know better.
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:35 PM
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15. Did you have what you thought was a |
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monogamous relationship with her and yet she screwed around with other men for a column? She sounds like a ho. Or did you know about this stuff from the beginning. If so, you screwed up. If not, she got what she deserved. I hate cheaters.
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:39 PM
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18. She lied a lot, I would say a compulsive liar |
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She always changed stories around, or just made things up.
It was not a monogamous relationship, but she lied about her life in Las Vegas. A lot of what she did should have been under the "What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" motto, but instead she spilled the beans about everything in a porno magazine!
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:38 PM
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17. I'm not going to make excuses but that said I can understand how you |
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feel and the best advice I can give is write a letter apologizing to her and her mother..also perhaps, you should reflect about your own feelings for this person and why you acted as you did.
Just advice you can take it or leave it. Just given to one human to another.
:hi:
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:41 PM
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20. Yes, I've thought about apologizing to her mom |
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Her mom is not a bad person, and I know it must have been a shock to have received those articles in the mail.
I'll think about it.
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:58 PM
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23. I'm not trying to get "Christian" on you |
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But it does look to me as if you might have some "feelings" for this person that maybe you are not aware of or do not want to admit.
You know the old saying "You always hurt the one you love".
If you ever need someone to gab to. I can read/listen and not give any thoughts if you would like. Just PM me if you need someone.
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:40 PM
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19. Why did you do it? Were you more than friends? |
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:44 PM
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Edited on Sat Nov-06-04 11:00 PM by MacCovern
At least I was her friend until then. I still think she might just have been using me to see Vegas shows and get free dinners.
She is very intelligent and was a contestant on Jeopardy! a few months ago. However, her EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE is very LOW.
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Sat Nov-06-04 10:56 PM
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22. why should you ever 'get over' this? |
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you deserve to feel like shit forever
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Sat Nov-06-04 11:02 PM
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24. You did a horrible thing, all right. |
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Now the obvious question: why, for fuck's sake?!
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MacCovern
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Sat Nov-06-04 11:08 PM
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26. That's a good question |
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I felt used and abused. From the time I first knew her I always treated her with dignity and respect, and the one time I really needed her she treated me like gum stuck to the bottom of her shoe.
She had always asked me for advice on things in her life, and I was always willing to help her out, but when I needed her she ignored me.
Even with that said, it is something I should never have done. Please note her mom probably wasn't very upset by the porno columns. They dance to the beat of a very different drummer.
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Sat Nov-06-04 11:05 PM
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Just don't do it again. On the plus side she seems to be a pretty good writer.
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Sat Nov-06-04 11:10 PM
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27. Yes, an excellent writer |
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When I showed a couple friends her regular blog (not the porno columns) they were amazed by her incredible writing skills.
She should pursue a career in writing, instead of a low paying job in a casino that she does have.
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Sat Nov-06-04 11:12 PM
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28. This is actually taking my mind off the election results!!!!!! |
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Yes, I was a terrible person to do that, but you know what? I am not thinking about Kerry or * or the election....it's wonderful to be thinking about something else.
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Sat Nov-06-04 11:33 PM
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it's "wonderful" to talk about something "horrible"
you are a real piece of work, I wish I could put you on ignore
are you a freeper? might as well be
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Sat Nov-06-04 11:13 PM
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29. Did you ever find out what happened after you told her mom? |
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I agree you shouldn't have done it, but maybe the aftermath wasn't so bad. It could have led to her mom getting her some help. Women who behave like that are usually in a lot of pain.
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Sat Nov-06-04 11:18 PM
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30. Yes, she has a lot of pain in her life |
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I am not sure what the roots of it are, but certainly any woman that would do those things, and then write about it has a lot of issues to deal with.
Her mom is an extremely passive person, and I don't even know if she would confront her even after having read those articles.
As another example, this girl told me she HATES DRUGS, but then I found out she uses cocaine!!!! She hangs out in bars, and meets strange men in hopes of getting free cocaine from them! That says she really hates herself at some level, and it is all very sad.
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Sat Nov-06-04 11:26 PM
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Don't be so hard on yourself. She's got way bigger problems than you ratting her out to her mom. Just be really nice to the next dysfunctional woman you meet. Don't get involved with her, though.
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Sat Nov-06-04 11:36 PM
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34. get out of her business |
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but of course you won't, you're enjoying this
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Sat Nov-06-04 11:27 PM
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32. that was wrong of you to do so! |
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It's not your place to judge her sexual life, and that's just wrong how you stabbed her in the back by exposing her sexual life to her mother.
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Sat Nov-06-04 11:37 PM
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35. why are you posting this? |
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Sat Nov-06-04 11:40 PM
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It's getting plenty of responses.
The girl is going to remain anonymous. What's wrong Kire?
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Sat Nov-06-04 11:44 PM
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37. why do you want "plenty of responses" |
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you victimized someone, and you are blaming them, and you are posting here because you are a "bad boy", is this getting you off you sadistic son of a bitch?
what's wrong with me? how should I answer that? sounds like a freeper trap to me
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Sat Nov-06-04 11:50 PM
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38. I am not proud of telling her mom |
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You must really be misunderstanding something.
In no way am I blaming her. It's something I did and I am responsible for my actions.
As far as posting on here I guess it's a coping mechanism.
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Sun Nov-07-04 12:00 AM
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39. examples of blaming her |
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"I still can't get over I told her mom about this stuff, but it is probably best that I am not involved with a girl who would write such stuff anyway."
"The entire family is messed up."
"let me tell you it was one hell of a shock to see a girl I knew was writing porno columns about her sugar daddies! "
"She lied a lot"
"her EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE is very LOW."
"They dance to the beat of a very different drummer."
"Her mom is an extremely passive person"
"this girl told me she HATES DRUGS, but then I found out she uses cocaine!!!! She hangs out in bars, and meets strange men in hopes of getting free cocaine from them! That says she really hates herself at some level, and it is all very sad. "
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Sun Nov-07-04 12:10 AM
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40. No excuse, no matter what her circumstances are |
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No matter what she did or did not do is no excuse for me having sent her mom the porno columns.
What you are quoting is not my way of blaming her for my actions.
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Sun Nov-07-04 12:17 AM
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saying there is "no excuse" over your actions does not negate the fact that what I'm quoting are excuses, jackass, and making excuses for your actions is another way to say you are blaming her
again, I ask, what is your reason for posting this? what are you expecting me to say? that you're somehow magically transformed into a good person? I don't have that kind of power
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Sun Nov-07-04 12:22 AM
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43. answered before: coping mechanism |
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and the fact it is an interesting story.
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Sun Nov-07-04 12:24 AM
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44. before I put you on ignore, let me just say |
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Sun Nov-07-04 12:17 AM
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42. you can't undo what you did tonight, |
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ride it out till daylight. you can't fix *anything* till then.
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