I'm so sad

[JohnnyCougar]

I am going to grad school in Chicago, and I am from Milwaukee. I just moved down here in September, but it's a short drive up to Brew Town.

Anyways, this girl I really love is leaving Milwaukee. We have been friends for over a year, but I started falling in love with her in the early summer. We used to do all kinds of fun things together, and we got along so well. But we were just friends for the most part. About a month after I realized that I was falling in love with her, she got a job as a Kerry campaign staffer, and proceeded to work 100 hours a week. I, on the other hand, was planning to move to Chicago. But I was falling in love with her anyways. It couldn't be stopped. She is the most wonderful, smartest, sexiest, spiritual girl I have ever met.

I always hoped that after the campaign was over, she would be able to spend more time with me, and come visit me in Chi town. I talked to her today, finally, and she is going on vacation tomorrow. She said she'd visit me after she comes back, but that's not going to be for like 3 weeks, because she is going back to her family for Thanksgiving. She is probably not staying in Milwaukee much longer after that.

I guess it was never meant to be then. She used to call me all the time asd say that she loved me, and we had so much fun together. And then when the campaign started, we barely got to talk, and never got to hang out. I have told her that I love her, I even had flowers delivered to the campaign office. She talked about moving back to Colarado today, or perhaps to Washington D.C. I wanted her to come and visit when she gets back from vacation, and she said she would, but that she hates Chicago.

I just don't think I'll ever be able to hang out with her again on a regular basis. I am now writing her a letter to tell her how I really feel about her. I have said "I love you" but I don't know if she knows how much. We decided we did not want a "relationship" this summer because of our conflicting work schedules and my going to grad school in a few months anyways. Now, she seems to be at a crossroads in her life, and "doesn't know what she wants." I just know she is going to choose to leave, because that is the only way it works out with me. I always fall in love with girls that have to leave, whether it's for school, family moving, or something else.

Now that she said she hates Chicago, I doubt if she will ever move here. I wish she would, because I know I'm never going to meet someone like her again. I guess some things were never meant to be, and I just have to leave it at that. It sucks so bad. :cry:

[smbolisnch]

1. I'm sorry....

I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but all I can offer is this....if it's meant to be, you will find a way to be together. If it's not, then you will realize that and move on to bigger and better things. I hate to sound so cliche'! No matter what happens, it still feels horrible right now, I know. We all know what it's like to be hopelessley in love.....How 'bout this, for now? :hug: Let us know what happens....

[Queen Jane]

2. i'm sorry

:grouphug:

[alittlelark]

3. I met a guy in HS that I fell in love with.

He moved away after his freshman year in college. I dated 4-5 guys, a couple seriously. We kept in touch on a CURSORY level. We got married 10 years after HS.

If it is REAL, it will not dissipate. Just keep in touch on holidays, B-days, you will know when - keep them a distant part of your life, but still A PART....

YOU NEVER KNOW.... you will be such different people in a few years,,,, were you on the same track, or just crossing paths?

[glarius]

4. If it's meant to be....it WILL work out!......don't give up yet!

:)

[Pied Piper]

5. Words of wisdom...

... from a former boss.

"If it's not meant to be, it's meant to be better!"

[Wapsie B]

6. I'm sorry for you.

I've been my share of what I'd call one-way romances where I fell in love with someone but didn't receive love in return. I had much more invested emotionally in the relationship than they did.

As much as it hurts now you have to move on. Who know? If you two are meant to be together circumstances could change in your favor. But I'm talking a number of years down the road.

[warrens]

7. Anyone who hates Chicago...

Are you sure she only saw Hyde Park, which is just urban Indiana, and you KNOW that is true? I mean, UC really sucks hard. Right wing, nasty, politically correct, it has all the worst of our country in one little 10 block area. Show her the real Chicago, and if she said she loves you too, just leave yourself open.

But you are young. I was up there in the kerry campaign and, um, there is the chance she met someone else. Sorry. But don't expect someone who was into high adrenaline stuff to go somewhere where you can't buy a beer or a pack of cigs. Let's face it, Hyde Park really sucks. Show her the real Chicago.

[JohnnyCougar]

9. you were up there in the Kerry campaign?

Why would you think she met someone else?

BTW, I was just in Hyde park tonight for a party. You can't buy beer there? I didn't know it was that right-wing there.

[JohnnyCougar]

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[Voltaire99]

10. Condolences--but have hope

Yes, this sucks. Sorry to hear it.

I always fall in love with girls that have to leave, whether it's for school, family moving, or something else.

For any romantic, the hardest realization is that love doesn't conquer all. And don't I know it. There is, however, love that doesn't need to conquer; find girls who like Chicago. :-)

[OhioChick]

11. Tell her how

you feel.....EXACTLY.