My GF keeps asking me about stuff that is none of her fucking business.

[JVS]

So should I dump her before or after getting a nice turkey dinner at her family's house?

edit: misspelled turkey

[Massacure]

1. Wait for the turkey dinner

:P

[sangh0]

2. What does she keep asking you about?

:evilgrin:

[JVS]

5. Some bullshit about where my paycheck keeps disappearing to

Which really doesn't concern her

[sangh0]

9. Tell her she will find out

on Christmas Day.

[ogradda]

68. GOOD answer

it would shut me up :)

[HEyHEY]

10. "My paycheck, my bookie, my coke habit, my prostitutes, my business"

Explain it to her like that

[JVS]

11. Maybe if I just told her that Iwas doing some "Super-tithing" she'd be ok

[tigereye]

66. that's how you draw them into your web,eh

you charmer....

[ogradda]

69. BAD answer

would NOT shut me up :(

[mzmolly]

59. Do you share expenses? Are you gambling or doing drugs?

If so, it's pretty much "her business" ;)

[JVS]

70. We don't share expenses. Gambling would be my own business

Drugs may or may not be her business

[mzmolly]

74. Not if you have an addiction. If you do, it's her business because your

likely effecting her ... borrowing money etc. right?

But hey, it's certainly none of MY business.

Best wishes to you and your GF. :hi:

[JVS]

75. No. I have borrowed no money from her.

She just seems to think that my not having lots of money around and not spending it in extravagant ways is an indicator of trouble.

[mzmolly]

76. Gold digga'?

Or, naive about fiscal matters? ;)

Not sure what here deal is, but if you don't have "issues" perhaps she's not living in the REAL world?

:hi:

[radwriter0555]

61. Understanding how a man handles his finances is important to understanding

the man, and how responsible he is.

If you are being a responsible human, what are you so worried about?

[JVS]

63. I am being responsible, but it's my own business

It's my responsibility

[SoCalDem]

78. If you LIVE together, it kind of IS her business

:)

If you each have your own place, it's not her business :)

[JVS]

79. Not together, so it is my business.

[ohiosmith]

3. Wait until you get you Christmas (or whatever holiday you celebrate)

gift.

[JVS]

6. That's not a bad idea

[HEyHEY]

4. You get the "Stugats of the day award."

[Renew Deal]

7. Do you have to deal with her before thanksginving?

j/k

Will you be thankful you have to deal with her? For a turkey dinner, maybe. Otherwise dump her ass and party hard on Thanksgiving eve. That's the busiest bar night of the year.

[JVS]

8. Thanksgiving eve crowd is a bunch of amateurs

[Renew Deal]

12. Better way to put it: Young college girls

that want to party. ;)

[thedailyshow]

13. ugh, what a lame way to treat your girlfriend

And you should not treat your girlfriend so callously that way. It sounds like she's worried about how you're spending your money.

[livinginphotographs]

17. Sarcasm much?

:zing:

[JVS]

19. I told her that my finances are my business and to leave it at that.

Yet she persists in questioning me.

[Pithlet]

50. If you live together

Then she is not out of line. If not, is her line of questioning along the lines of she thinks you have some kind of a problem that is sucking your money away? In that case, she may not be worried about the money specifically, which is indeed your business, but you in general, which kind of is her business if she's in a relationship with you. She has a right to care. She just maybe going about it the wrong way.

On edit, I saw the answer about the living together thing. Really, it just boils down to what level your relationship is, and what her concerns are. If you're in a deep, committed relationship, then she may not be all that off base because her questioning is routed in concern for you. If it is a casual relationship, she should probably butt out, and you'll probably break it off if she doesn't stop, which is understandable.

[hunter]

14. She should dump you.

Right away.

[JVS]

15. Screw that, she should stop asking questions about things that aren't...

her business.

[thedailyshow]

16. then she shouldn't date you

[JVS]

18. So are you saying that dating someone entitles you to all their info?

[hunter]

20. Has she seen you naked?

If so, yes.

[HEyHEY]

21. His Girlfriend has seen me naked and hasn't asked a thing

[JVS]

22. If she wanted an abortion would it be any of my business?

By your logic it would be.

I think we both have rights to privacy

[hunter]

23. Um, sorry, I should've winked or something.

;-)

[thedailyshow]

24. um, yes.

I'd want to know if my girlfriend was pissing away all her money or using it unwisely.

[HEyHEY]

26. I'd want to know if my GF was pissing away all MY money

But until there's a wedding, it ain't none of my bidness

[Pithlet]

52. You might not want to marry someone

who is careless with money, or at least address that before you marry. Because, if you don't, it will get ugly. Trust me on that one. It was a big reason my first marriage broke up. He was horribly irresponsible with money. I knew it, but didn't think it mattered, or that would get better, or some such naive bs, who knows what I was thinking. So, knowing someone's spending habits before you pick out the china pattern isn't necessarily a bad idea.

[JVS]

29. I told her that how I spend my money is my own business

because she has no claim to my money and I have no claim to her money.

[hippiechick]

40. I AGREE !!!

:yourock:


:hippie:

[Malebolgia]

25. How serious are you two?

And what is she asking you about, if I may ask?

[JVS]

27. Not living together. She wants to know the details of my finances.

I refuse to give her the details on the grounds that they are my own business and don't involve her.

[Malebolgia]

30. You shouldn't have to tell her what you're spending money on.

You're right-it's your business and none of hers.

But remember, you can always lie to her. ;)

[mzmolly]

62. If you don't live together and she isn't concerned about drugs/gambling

cheating (for good reason) then your correct .. it's none of her business.

But, my guess is that she has a reason for asking? Fess up. ;)

Also, are you borrowing money from her? If so your damn right it's her business.

[Taverner]

28. Do it after

But make sure she gives you back all your tshirts.

GF's are notorious tshirt theifs!

[hunter]

32. Yes, GF's are notorious tshirt theifs!

One of my old GF's was the worst.

I walked into her apartment one morning, and there she was sleeping with her girlfriend, and they were BOTH WEARING MY T-SHIRTS!

Man, I never recovered from that.

MY T-SHIRTS!

I tell you.

MY T-SHIRTS!

[livinginphotographs]

46. And socks.

My gf used to raid my dirty laundry bin for T-shirts and socks. I would never see either again after that.

[RPM]

31. Go through her purse....

... then when she catches you, ask her how she likes invasions of privacy.

End of discusssion!

[HEyHEY]

33. And don't forget to snag a couple bucks before she catches you

Then go out and purchase some hard liqour with which to come home reeking like.

[hunter]

36. Yeah.

Really cheap hard liquor.

Drunken songs would be appropriate too.

[RPM]

37. dont forget to grab your crotch...

... while you berate her

[HEyHEY]

39. With a hustler under one arm

[JVS]

42. No Way! If I take money then she'll think her $ questions are justified

[HEyHEY]

43. Hmm, that's quit a pickle

Might I suggest telling her you were going to invest it for her?

[JVS]

45. I'll just leave the money alone. I can afford my own cheap booze

[hunter]

49. Does she know that?

Maybe she would like to share your cheap booze with her?

[hyphenate]

34. Depends....

is she the "one" for life? Or is she just another transient presence in a long line of uncommitted squeezes? If the first, you might reconsider. If she's the latter, literally tell her it's none of her business.

[JVS]

35. If she is the "one" then maybe she would have some faith

rather than busting my aggies about my business.

[motely36]

38. I'm really not sure whether to laugh or be offended.

I hope it's the first!

[HEyHEY]

41. Nah, be offended. Being indignant is so much fun

[motely36]

44. true, I'm just feeling lazy tonight

don't have the energy to be indignant. If I wanted that, I'd go hang out in GD.

[Deja Q]

47. That BEGS for a copycat thread...

:scared:

[JVS]

48. Go for it!

[alittlelark]

51. OK... I 've been out of the dating world for YEARS,

but if she is contemplating you as a life-mate, she would want to be able to determine how you deal w/your $$$. Married couples are notorious for fighting over $$$$. It is CRITICAL that $$$ issues are discussed prior to a serious commitment.

If you are thinking about her seriously, why have an issue w/it?

If she's just a 'warm bod', who cares?

[hunter]

56. Um, we're not done knocking him around yet.

When he's good and drunk and ready to sing, we'll hand him a Hustler and drop him off at his girlfriend's parents' house.

[alittlelark]

64. LOL... have fun!

[JVS]

65. What am I supposed to sing

[Jose Diablo]

53. Does the turkey dinner

Include mashed potatoes and gravy? And what kind of pie is included?

[JVS]

54. Yes. There will be pumpkin pie. Stuffing is also included

[Jose Diablo]

57. I would definately wait until after the dinner then.

You stuck it out this long, just keep smiling and nodding your head like one of those dashboard dolls, get the dinner then move on. Thats the best way IMO.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

55. Hey there

I'm MARRIED and I don't ask my husband what he does with his money.

We have separate checking accounts, separate savings accounts. He has his bills, I have mine. As long as I pay mine and he pays his, I could give a RIP what he does with the rest of his money. Same goes for him to me.

It's nice that way.

This is not even a marriage. If she doesn't stop asking after you nicely tell her you'd rather not discuss your finances, you might want to erm....look elsewhere.

The turkey dinner thing is up to you.

[RPM]

58. Hey JVS....

... where you goin' with that gun in your hand?

(to the tune of Hey, Joe)

ON EDIT: Not an endorsement of JVS - or anyone - shooting their GF

[JVS]

60. Going to the pawn shop to get some money!

[salin]

67. perhaps she could kiss you

before you turn into a toad? A reverse prince charming sorta act? ;-)

[2bfree]

71. Do a her a big favor and dump her now.

You smooth talker you!

[Guaranteed]

72. Dump her if you like, just don't lie.

No right to lie.

[GingerSnaps]

73. You can buy a pre-cooked dinner at the store

Wouldn't it be a little nicer to wait until after the holidays and then dump her?

[NickB79]

77. Dude, she's your girlfriend

EVERYTHING is her fucking business :-) Didn't you read the fine print before you signed the contract?

[fleabert]

80. It depends, does she smoke behind your back and then lie about it? n/t