NightTrain
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:01 PM
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For the 8th year in a row, I've no one for whom to buy Christmas presents. |
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I don't know whether to celebrate or burst out crying....
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:04 PM
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Go to www.refugeesinternational.org Click on donations. Give whatever you can, even if it is only a couple of bucks. These folks are advocates for refugees throughout the world. They are a small organization and appreciate any help they can get, and would appreciate a present!
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:07 PM
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there's plenty of needy people
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:05 PM
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:07 PM
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3. Don't Feel Bad - I Am In The Same Boat As Well |
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Edited on Tue Nov-23-04 07:07 PM by mhr
What Makes It Worse, I Have No Money So It Does Not Matter Anyway.
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:07 PM
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4. Why and are you going to be alone for Christmas? |
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:11 PM
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7. Why? Because I'm all alone in the world. |
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I'm an only child, my parents are both dead, I've never been married, no kids (at least that I know of), and I haven't had a non-inflatable woman in my life in quite a while.
Most of the time, I really enjoy the freedom that my situation affords me, but during the holiday season, it can be a bit much.
Oh, well. Whatcha gonna do? :shrug:
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:21 PM
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10. I wish I could do something I feel so bad. |
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this is only a suggestion, but how about volunteering at say the Salvation Army. Find out what kids really need help.And do something special for them. Gosh but there has to be someone for you to spend Christmas with. I'd invite you here but we plan to be at my folks. It would be a long drive too. No Aunts or Uncles either?
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Tue Nov-23-04 11:01 PM
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except something other than the homophobic Salvation Army.
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:21 PM
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11. Come on over for the Holidays |
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We'll play cool music and make top 5 lists.
Top 5 Holiday Songs: etc.
RL
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:36 PM
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You can buy *me* a present, if it'll make you feel better. :-)
Seriously, though, I'm sorry. No friends to get together with and maybe spend a few bucks on?
I always enjoy getting together with friends rather than family over the holidays. Family get-togethers are either boring or tense. Friends make me feel warm and happy.
Maybe we should gather a group of DUers in similar situations, who can draw names out of a hat and buy gifts for one another!
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:33 PM
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20. Send me a PM with your address and I will send you a present. |
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Seriously. I think we share a similar taste in music, and I'd love to send you a Christmas gift.
(I know that's not what you were saying, but what you said made me want to do it)
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:46 PM
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21. On one condition: that you give me your address in return. |
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And for the record: I honestly didn't start this thread because I was hoping that folks would buy me gifts. I swear I didn't!
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Tue Nov-23-04 11:00 PM
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Tue Nov-23-04 11:01 PM
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23. I wish you lived closer. |
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We are just the three of us and we celebrate the holidays with friends, no extended family.
:hug:
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Wed Nov-24-04 01:23 PM
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38. and we have a huge open house for friends on |
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Xmas eve.....
My family has either died or are far away...there is me and the hubby and the kids and anyone who wants to show up.
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:09 PM
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6. Don't they have those giving trees |
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in your area? Some are for children and others for people in nursing homes. They have cards that specify what the person needs or wants. You buy it, wrap it and put it back under the tree with the card so they know who it goes to. Try bank lobbies. Gee - lots of kids won't get any Christmas presents because their parents do not have the money. Lot of elderly have no one left. No need to cry - give it a try.
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:26 PM
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18. Yes, those are great. |
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And on Christmas, you get a nice warm glow thinking of all those kids opening up your wonderful presents. Believe me, it helps!
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:17 PM
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contact a local community service agency and adopt a family, NightTrain. I did this with my kids one year when I was a struggling single parent. No batter how rough we may think we have it, there's always someone worse off, and it really feels great to make a difference for someone in need.
Holidays can be a downer, eh? Hang in there.
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:18 PM
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9. Adopt an "old folk" who has nobody. |
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I enjoy giving presents to friends more than family anyway. You don't have to give them something, but you do it cause you want to, whereas family is a obligation to give presents!
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:23 PM
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The money you save by not buying anyone presents you can spend on yourself. Actually, there are a lot of people out there in the same boat as you. Most of my relatives are dead or distant and only see them at weddings or funerals. My wife and I go out together and buy gifts before Xmas for each other. We know what we are getting....no surprises and no exchanges. We buy maybe $20 worth of gag gifts to exchange and the large ticket items we pick out together.
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:29 PM
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13. This should make you feel better...end world hunger, buy a gift animal |
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www.heifer.org
You'll have more friends than you could ever possibly believe.
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Tue Nov-23-04 11:52 PM
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30. I second the Heifer Int'l recommendation |
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My siblings and I are buying a "Milk Menagerie" through Heifer -- a heifer, two goats, and a water buffalo.
We're all kind of excited about it.
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Wed Nov-24-04 12:07 AM
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Edited on Wed Nov-24-04 12:24 AM by fortyfeetunder
I think I will donate some heifers (or some other animal) in honor of my mother in law and sister in law....LOL
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Wed Nov-24-04 12:19 AM
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:spank: :spank: :spank:
LOL
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Wed Nov-24-04 12:27 AM
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At least the (4-legged) heifers are useful....
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Tue Nov-23-04 07:38 PM
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15. Ever think about being a Big Brother? |
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It's not romantic, but it'll help fill the empty space in your heart.
You could also volunteer at the local soup kitchen over the holidays, and see the faces of those who truly know what it is to be thankful.
I'm sorry you feel lonely... :hug:
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Tue Nov-23-04 08:11 PM
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16. Mhr & NightTrain, where do you live? |
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Tue Nov-23-04 11:27 PM
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29. I'm a Connecticut Yankee. |
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Tolland County, to be exact.
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:23 PM
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17. But look at all the money you're saving! |
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Gosh, I must have blown at least $300 last year. Holidays ain't cheap.
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:30 PM
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19. $300 is a lot of money |
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Heavens, if I had that much money I'd certainly do something useful with it...wasting that kinda cash would just be...wrong.
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Tue Nov-23-04 11:15 PM
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It sucks to be alone on the holidays.
I do spend time at the nursing home. I buy gifts for needy children, like others suggested. I am spending Christmas day serving food at the shelter.
However at the end of the day, I am still alone. It sucks.
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Tue Nov-23-04 11:24 PM
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28. Here's what I've done every Christmas since 1998.... |
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I'm a volunteer D.J. at the University of Connecticut's radio station. Every year since 1998, I've done a fill-in on Christmas Day (or night) so some D.J. with a family can get the holiday off. The main thing my fill-ins have had in common is that I've never played a holiday song on any of them!
Why? Because I assume that just because it's Christmas Day, not everybody wants to hear exclusively Yuletide music, particularly not that white-bread shit they play on the so-called "Lite Rock" stations. So I offer an alternative to Manheim Steamroller. :puke:
That this year, Christmas falls on a Saturday, which is when my regular show broadcasts. True to form, I plan to air the SOUL EXPRESS HOLIDAY SPECIAL on December 18th, and will play my regular mix of classic R&B tunes on the holiday itself.
For information on the music I play on my show, check out its website: www.soulexpressradio.com
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Tue Nov-23-04 11:53 PM
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31. Sounds like a good way to spend the day |
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I wish some stations here played non Yuletide music on Christmas Day.
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Tue Nov-23-04 11:55 PM
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32. There's always my Internet radio station. |
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www.live365.com/stations/soulexpressradio
'60s and '70s soul music, 24/7!
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Tue Nov-23-04 11:18 PM
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26. I agree with the idea that you need to adopt someone for the season. :^) |
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Wed Nov-24-04 01:24 PM
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40. or be adopted by someone.. |
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Tue Nov-23-04 11:22 PM
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but know that your DU family loves and cares about you.
Excepting the small subgroup of turd burglars, there is an amazing number of wonderful people on this board.
:hug:
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Wed Nov-24-04 12:26 AM
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36. Perhaps a DU Holiday Card Exchange |
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Let's see Ramadan is over, but Hanukkah and Christmas, Winter Solstice is coming up. Night Train might have to eat his words, he could get a crapload of cards if anyone is interested....Anyone game for it? PM me...
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Wed Nov-24-04 01:24 PM
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39. You could buy them for my family |
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For more than the 8th year in a row, I'm too damn poor to afford it!
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Wed Nov-24-04 01:27 PM
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41. You can always pick an angel from those trees... |
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:hug: I am sorry that you don't have any one to share christmas presents with. If it would lift your spirits, you could find those angel trees, with kids who need things for christmas but who come from poor families. :hug:
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Wed Nov-24-04 02:53 PM
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42. So marry a fellow DUer and start cranking out babies. |
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