Confessions of a stressed out wife

[magellan]

I'm sorry, but I'm an emotional wreck tonight. My husband is in the UK for a week (he's a Brit). I found out the day he left that one of our dogs has a large bladder stone and we can't afford the surgery, so she's on a strict Hills s/d diet and antibiotics to (hopefully) dissolve it...but she won't take her pills or eat the food. I was totally independent until I married at 31 and now I find I hate going without my husband's presence and emotional support...which is a good thing...but then he called tonight just as I was making dinner, and I wound up burning everything while we talked...and I just burst into tears and told him off. (Nice way to spend an international call!) I feel miserable about it. And underneath it all is the constant nightmare of watching my country go to hell in a handbasket at the hands of a jerk-off frat-cowboy who doesn't give a crap about anyone or anything but his neo-fascist corporate and "Christian" government croneys and what money they all can make off of us before they flush us down the crapper, while we're totally powerless to stop the insane direction he's taking this nation I love.

I know -- whine-whine, bitch-bitch. I'm sure I'll feel better tomorrow.

But is anyone else experiencing this kind of intermittent meltdown?

[Champ]

1. You're relatively new

But the lounge is one of the best places to find emotional support. :grouphug:

[magellan]

3. Thanks, Champ

I figured this was the place to angst a little. I'm not looking for an answer, but commiseration usually works a treat to turn misery back into constructive energy. And I'm in need of a serious recharge. :puffpiece:

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

2. We all experience this from time to time .

The first thing I have to do is to remind myself to " breathe " and take everything one at a time . Don't hold any of your emotion in , its alright to cry :) Make sure you hug your husband when he comes back , it should make you feel better . I hope everything gets better .

And Champ is right , the DU is the best place to come for emotional support .

[yorgatron]

4. go to this thread and let it all out

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x2074275

[magellan]

5. Thanks, I needed that! (nim)

[magellan]

7. You guys are the best

We share a common problem and cause here. As for the rest of my whinge, I know it's trivial compared to what a lot of people have to deal with, some of them every day of their lives. (My crying binge started while watching FSTV last night; there was a story about a young Filipino girl who lives in horrid conditions and makes fireworks for a living. It just broke my heart.) Reminding myself of the big picture puts things back into perspective. But sometimes you just gotta spew.

I appreciate the kind words and support. :)

[salinen]

6. if you place the pill

in the back of your dogs throat, he will have no choice but to swallow it. Worked for a Vet once.

[magellan]

8. I'll try that, many thanks! (nim)

[smurfygirl]

9. hahahaha

I don't mean to laugh at you but my god, I go through these melt downs all the time. Sometimes I do crazy things like go outside and rip the grass out. The neighbors get a real kick watching me and I just laugh my head off in the end. Hubby understands, they are good at that. Oh, the dog will eat eventually, they won't starve. Also, a pill trick I use is take the pill, stick it in the back of his throat hold his mouth closed and blow in his nose. He will swallow automatically. Also, check into wellness food. It's real good dog food. I had to switch our husky to it after health problems, now she's happy again. relax and take a hot bath. Enjoy some alone time. Read a book or something.

[jdots]

10. put your feet up and relax

It's the lounge where we get to be small,tasteless and vent.You are not alone. Try this call the bushagogs all the names you can real fast.....repeat and do it again....

[patinor4america]

11. I did the same thing.......

last week one evening. We were all getting ready to eat dinner, and I even forget what it was he did, probably moved something I'd left out for a reason (he always gets me mad doing that). I just screamed at him and ranted and raved, and ruined everybody's evening. He just ignored me as I stomped up the stairs and slammed the door, put on my nightgown and curled up in the fetal position.

Luckily, my 10-year-old son crawled in bed with me and let me know it was alright. I ended up apologizing as soon as hubby entered, but I'd ruined the evening. I decided not to blog and listen to airamerica so much after that. I find it makes me hateful, because I'm constantly thinking of how awful everything is.

But tonight I'm very worried about our future. Hubby has a job seminar at UBC in Vancouver the day after Thanksgiving. I was so angry at my family for voting for the chimp that we decided not to spend the holiday with them, and kind of set up this interview thing out of spite, I guess. But really, the prospects for academic science look far better in Canada, especially with the NIH cutting grants to only 2% increase instead of the 3% they had decided to stick with originally......(Sorry if I'm garbling that, I'm not a scientist myself, so it's a little nebulous. I just know it isn't good for hubby's future and therefore the family's).

Just know you're not alone in your melt-downs. :toast:

[NamVetsWeeLass]

12. Welcome to DU, and Yep, I am having Mini-Meltdowns a lot lately.

:hi: :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

13. Aww megellan. I am so sorry. Our Sheltie Jessie just went through

this. She had in excess of 30 bladder stones and we had to charge the surgery or lose our puppy. She is now on C/D dry to help keep them at bay because they grew so quickly. You will be in my thoughts. I hope the diet helps your dog, poor thing. And remember this, you are NOT alone. :hug:

Laura