I'm sad.....Will I ever find a liberal.........

[serryjw]

lifetime partner. I am on many singles websites BUT get no response because I stated "If you voted for W, please do not respond". I'm a cute 54 year woman, fun, smart and have a big heart, BUT all the men are republicans. Do I have to compromise on who I am to find a partner? I ahve no idea what to do? Any ideas? Spending another holiday with out a partner is just very sad.

[Gryffindor_Bookworm]

1. Tell me about it.

I'm 34, well-educated, reasonably attractive, *extremely* loyal, well-read, etc.

But I live in a red state. Every liberal male I know is gay, or is over 55 years old.

EVERY. SINGLE. ONE.

And yes, I did a lot of work with local Dems during this election.

Sigh.

[cavanaghjam]

6. Something wrong

with being a male over 55? Seriously. I have a vested interest in knowing. I'm 54, straight, and liberal. Should I turn gay for a year or right-wing?

[Gryffindor_Bookworm]

9. No, of course not. BUT

I am still thinking about adopting a child. If I married you and we adopted a toddler, you would be in your 70's before the child graduated high school. Is that fair to them?

I am sorry if this hurts your feelings, but I think wanting someone within five to eight years (or so) of my own age is just as reasonable as wanting someone who is liberal.

[cavanaghjam]

25. No you do not

hurt my feelings. Your attitude is very reasonable. But you should know that those of my planet age very slowly. I'm still not fully grown up.

[Gryffindor_Bookworm]

26. I'm glad you understand.

:D

[babylonsister]

45. And that planet would be...?

This lounge is Velly Interesting!

[NightTrain]

15. For god's sake, don't turn right wing! Become gay instead.

You want to keep your self-respect, don't you? :evilgrin:

[cavanaghjam]

22. now THAT'S funny n/t

[jdj]

31. it will definitely get you hit on by men.

the lure of the unattainable, works every time.

[BoX o BooX]

11. I'd marry you, GB...

But I suspect from your avatar that you're one of "them."

Your software would be incompatible with my hardware. :D




edited because I can't seem to spell tonight

[Gryffindor_Bookworm]

14. Tsk, tsk.

Your software is not incompatible with my hardware. That must be because, in addition to funding liberal causes, MY hardware company is tolerant of diversity in software!!! :evilgrin:

I want a UU minister to do a non-sectarian ceremony. Sound good? :D

[BoX o BooX]

17. I was hoping for something a little more pagan.

UU's are a little tame. The word "Bacchanalia" comes to mind.

[Gryffindor_Bookworm]

19. OMG

I have been exploring paganism for a while now. Very new at it. Have posted some questions in the new Group.

:D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D

[BoX o BooX]

27. I don't want to BE a pagan, you understand.

But they DO have GREAT parties.

[indigobusiness]

28. I'm not gay...But I'm no damn good.

You don't want me.

[Longgrain]

30. Hey....

I'm a 32-year-old, not very, but somewhat, pretty-boy. I'm a straight (but not narrow) liberal, male, looking for marriage aspirations...and hopefully, children.

But, I'm from a wicked blue state.

Hope from Underground...

[Vox_Reason]

2. Do a Google for "Democratic Singles"

There are lots of sites out there for singles who aren't interested in meeting any fascists.

Good luck!

[Deja Q]

10. Using those exact words, 'republican singles' came up BEFORE 'democratic

singles'.

:wow:

[jdj]

29. guess we all know what that means. dems are keepers.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

47. Yes, they seem to marry young and stay married

Which is great for them, but not so great for those of us who haven't found a special Dem of our own. :-)

[ClassWarrior]

3. There's your problem! The liberals are all dead.

FDR? Dead. Bob LaFollett? Dead. Adlai Stevenson? Dead. We're all Progressives here.

:7

NGU.

[meti57b]

4. regard them all as ...a "work in progress"

After you meet them and get to know them, sort of feed them progressive and liberal ideas a little at a time but don't call the ideas "progressive" or "liberal'. After a while they will start to see the good sense in your ideas.

[Longgrain]

5. I tried posting at a singles website once...

Had about fifty matches...that is until I updated my profile to include my political prefances.

I said "far left" on the little questionnaire they provided.

I lost thirty matches in an instant...

[cavanaghjam]

7. Sad

that what is considered "far left" today was once mainstream.

[Longgrain]

13. Yeah I know...

I'm not even that "Far Left". Compared to some of my friends, I'm considered "Moderate". But compared to most of the people I work with I'm the "Pinko-commie-scum"...

How am I ever going to attract a female.:shrug:

[Abelman]

8. The sad thing is

So many people who think they are "right" are not. A lot think the same way we do, but they have been so convinced otherwise and never actually been shown what is considered right or left that they feel they are right.

One of my Republican friends took one of those political test thingys once and it turned out he was almost as liberal as I was. Of course, the test was "flawed" because he had to be on the "Right." God forbid.

[NightTrain]

12. Here's a website you may wish to check out...

The Democratic Singles Network:

http://democraticmatch.com/home.php

This is a personals website exclusively for Democrats. Who knows, you may just meet your soulmate. Good luck!

[teach1st]

18. And it's free for a limited time...

[Longgrain]

34. Added it too my "Favorites" already...

Check it out fully later.

Thanks Night Train...

[NJCher]

16. posts 8 and 4 are on the money

It also might have something to do with where you live. I know dozens of liberal men in New Jersey but it's one of the bluest states in the union.

I do understand, however, why you wouldn't even want to waste your time unless the person is a self-described liberal.


Cher

[Tom Yossarian Joad]

20. I've never tried the singles websites, but I can tell you that being a

SWM 51 year old Liberal in Alabama makes life akin to monkhood.

Hang in there, kid!

[demnan]

21. You know

if you really want to meet someone who shares your politics, why not get involved with your local political party?

All those nights phone canvassing, walking precincts and the victory (or defeat) parties you will meet a number of interesting people. If you are so inclined, I'm sure you will accidently meet someone there. (And if not, at least you will be involved in politics on a local level).

[Robeson]

23. Are you rural or urban....

...even in the South, there are Liberals in urban areas. In fact, those are usually the only blue areas in the South. Also, see post #12, which exclusively deals with Democrats. Anybody you contact there would be a Democrat. And here are a few more:

http://www.agreaterdate.com/Categories/Democrat.htm

http://www.singledemocrats.com/

[rodeodrive1]

24. Cheer Up

Most Republican men DO NOT WANT REPUBLICAN WOMEN, so you still may get lucky. Look at Arnold. :-)

[DebJ]

32. try a teacher. Worked for me! Met him three years ago...history

teacher. We got married in June.
Hang out in Borders or Barnes and Noble in political and history sections.
PS he's 53. I'm going to be 49 the day after Christmas.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

33. Believe me, I feel your pain!

I've been in bluest Minnesota and bluest Oregon, and in both states, I met plenty of nice, liberal men, but they were invariably gay, married, in a relationship, young enough to be my son, or, in one particularly vexing case, about to move to Chicago (from Oregon) in three days.

There are plenty of loutish looking available single Republicanite men in my age group, but the personality factors that make them gravitate toward the Republicanites make them unattractive to me. Besides, there's something about being a Japanese-English translator with an Ivy League Ph.D. that makes me poison to the average middle-aged Republican male.

But that's fine. One of my non-negotiable demands is that the gentleman not be intimidated by me.

(The others are wicked glints in the eyes, liberal politics, and being able to talk about something besides work and sports. All else is negotiable.)

[Tom Yossarian Joad]

40. (In my best Slingblade voice) Dammit girl, why ain't you a redneck?

LOL :toast:

[Lydia Leftcoast]

41. Well, guldarnit, I shore tried, but

all of them good ol' boys done seen through my disguise!

[Tom Yossarian Joad]

42. (A for real) LOL!

Mmmm-Hmmm.

She-it, girl. You come on down to the land of Faulkner and we'll teach ya how to type like Twain! Heck with all them furrin langages, you need to learn how to talk Southern.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

46. Ya mean mah typin' with a Suthn accent didn't fool ya none?

See? I done told you them good ole boys spotted me for a Yankee! Ah cain't for the life of me figure out why.

But Ah'm gonna have to import one of them there Suthn genelman, Ah wanna git me one of them literary fellows, ya know, the kahnd that likes book learnin'.

[Tom Yossarian Joad]

49. Ya type like a Rastafarian, girl....

Typing like Scarlett O'Hara is a bit passe.

If'n you wanna type country Southern, you're on the right track, but Southern aristocracy accent (best example: in the Farden of Good and Evil) is still alive and well and sounds nearly British to an untrained ear (eye).

Now, as to book larnin' I would have you know that books is quote the thing here. About to reread Emmeron's essays again as puplished in a 1956 Heritage edition. Either that or the latest Grisham (I'm burned out on political books at the moment).

:toast:

[Lydia Leftcoast]

50. Wot then? You want me to type like a bloody Brit?

I'm actually a bit too knackered to type in British, but I could have done earlier in the day.

All those Thanksgiving festivities, don't you know?

Right! Well, it's off to bed with a good mystery!

[Tom Yossarian Joad]

51. Ciao!

Sleep tight and don't let the bedbugs bite!

Actually, I think that phrase is far more Midwestern than Southern. And even then, the roots most likely go back across the Atlantic.

[Digit]

35. Playing matchmaker here....

Perhaps if you said what state you were in and added a few particulars, some nice men would send you email.
You can even go back and edit your message.
It would be great to have a DU matchup!

PS, I will take what you don't want, k?

[greatauntoftriplets]

36. Don't look too hard.....

It sometimes happen when you are not looking. I am 55 and have met someone here on DU -- and you can't have him! LOL. It just happened. We still live in different states (due to job demands and elderly parent caregiving) but this is damn real.

Good luck.

[Longgrain]

37. Chime in one more time....

But what about us guys...

Some of us are gentle, understanding men, jus' trying to make inroads with women...

You know, trying just to get to know a lady, only to get hit with an "I'm not interested" or an "You're nice but, let's just be friends."

I'm not that unattractive either--could use a little grooming, but for the most part clean.

I just want to talk...

I'm Straight, Jus' not narrow...

[Lydia Leftcoast]

39. Then you're going after the wrong women

I'm serious.

Try some of the women who don't attract you right off the bat, the ones that you "just want to be friends" with. Love doesn't always happen at first sight. Sometimes it grows.

Some DU guys, especially the younger ones, will swear up and down that love has to happen immediately or not at all, but that's not true.

Don't go check out a new scene and immediately give up on it if you aren't immediately wildly infatuated with someone there. Your infatuations may not be trustworthy. Mine weren't until I figured out why I was continually being attracted to people who were not suitable for me.

Above all, don't act desperate. Act as if it's a matter of complete indifference to you whether the woman likes you or not. A man who approaches me with what I think of as the "whipped puppy look" immediately makes me think "Stalker!" because my senior year in college was marred by such a person.

[NJCher]

52. Lydia oh Lydia

Ms. Lydia, did you notice how subtly Mr. Jost corrected you when you Southern-typed "book learnin'?" (post 46) As soon as I saw that I said, "Oops big mistake in Southern type." Then Mr. Joad responded but with the ever-so-correct "larnin'." (post 49)

Somebody here was typing freeper the other day and I nearly fell out of my chair laughing. I wish I could remember who is was so I could search their posts for some more freeper-type talk.


Cher

[Baja Margie]

38. Maybe join

the local Demo's club in your area? I know a single man who lives in Sun City West, but that's too far from you. Wait, I know some people in Colorado, you would love them and they might know someone, he's a teacher and she tends bar. They are the most groovy people, we met them several years ago down in Mulege. PM me, if you want, I'll send Bill an e-mail, they know so many people. Silt, Colorado, ring a bell?

[C.C.D.]

43. Heh. Try finding a Democratic Vegetarian...in *Montana* (m)

I feel your pain!

[Robeson]

44. Wow! So your're the Democrat in Montana!!

[Shopaholic]

48. I feel your pain. . .

it's bad enough being over 40--it's worse if you're a Democrat living in South Carolina! Add college-educated to that and toss in the fact that I make more than most men I know and it doesn't make them want to beat my door to get to me.

[neebob]

53. I don't think they're all Republicans

but more than half of them are married. And most of them are lying about something, and you're primed for some creep who enjoys sweeping vulnerable women off their feet and leaving them unsatisfied or worse.

You're not likely to find a partner in time for the holidays on the internet. And if you do, you should seriously question whether what you've found is a partner.

I'm not saying you shouldn't try it - it does occasionally work out - but it takes patience and nerves of steel and, in the end, comes down to pure dumb luck. And if you believe it's so very sad to spend the holidays alone, you're that much more likely to be fooled into something regrettable.

My suggestion is you do a rethink on that last statement. And go here: http://www.saferdating.com or here: http://www.wildxangel.com. The woman who runs these sites is my friend. She says four to five percent of relationships that begin on the internet work out. I think that's a generous estimate.