My Partner And I Had Almost IDENTICAL Dreams On The Same Night...

[arwalden]

... we both dreamed that we had adopted (foster-parented) a troubled teen who had been abandoned by his parents, and had bounced around from home to home and consider to be "unplacable" simply because he was gay.

Other than those basic facts, the details of our dreams differed greatly. But it was still a remarkable coincidence that we both had such similar dreams.

We tried to figure out if we had recently seen anything or read anything that might have been the catalyst or seed of our similar dreams... but couldn't recall anything.

-- Allen

[Anarcho-Socialist]

1. Interesting n/t

[bettyellen]

whoa. synchronicity, huh? are you sure you hadn't sem any first season

Queer as Folk lately, read Dan Savages book about adopting? Hmmm. Sounds paranormal.

[arwalden]

10. Kind Of Like QAF... But The Kid In My Dream Was Not As Headstrong

... or as bitter and jaded and suspicious as the "Hunter" character is. Instead he was just a timid puppy who would seemd to be so emotionally fragile that he's cry if you looked at him the wrong way.

I haven't read the book you mentioned... but I'll see if I can find more about it. Thanks for mentioning it.

[bettyellen]

13. Savagelove is his sex column for the Villlage, and he is so funny and

smart and foulmouthed and political too. He's the guy who started "spreading Santorum(.com)" to give Rick's last name a really nasty second meaning.
He and his partner did an open adoption - the Mom was a streetkid with right wing freeper parents who liked the idea of having hip gays raise her kids. It's a great little book.
His column is sometimes profound, often kinda gross, too.
He just did a little book exploring the seven deadly sins in america. fun stuff.
i love him to death!

[sui generis]

2. that's okay - I had a Britney Spears dream

at some point last night I woke up laughing after remembering a snippet of a dream:

Was at a friend's house in LA and all were preparing to turn in for the evening. He happens to do marketing and showed me his good friend Britney's latest perfume called "Assflower". He showed me one of the sample foldover cards, and the printing on the inside said: "Assflower: you've never smelled a fragrance like this before."

Presently, there was a knock at the door and Ms. Britney herself staggered in, quite drunk, with her hair piled on her head wearing a pair of old sweats. She weaved toward the ottoman, plunked down on it, missed, collapsed behind it and farted noisily.

Assflower: You've never smelled a fragrance like this before!

What could it possibly mean?

[bettyellen]

4. no way !

[The Doctor.]

7. That you are aware that the whole of Britney is a facade, what's

inside is crap.

[sui generis]

12. probably nothing that deep - I often have humorous dreams

I've also been "behind the scenes" often enough with celebs to know exactly how ordinary they can be.

The funniest thing about that dream was the vivid detail of the sample card and glossy perfume counter printing; it wasn't "funny" in the dream, just hilarious after I woke up and "understood" that the name of the perfume was Assflower.

[The Doctor.]

8. That you are aware that the whole of Britney is a facade, what's

inside is crap.

[Liberal Veteran]

3. I consulted my dream interpreter....

...and he swears that means both of you will be having turkey in the not too distant future.

Of course, I am one of those people who thinks that maybe, just maybe, partners start to share a metaphysical connection after a while and it causes things like that to happen.

[The Doctor.]

5. Dreamwalking is real.

I used to do it quite a bit. (usually not on purpose)

The first time I knew for a fact it was real was after my friend and I had an Identical dream we were both in and from our individual perspectives.

We were careful to only share blocks of details so we could be certain we weren't influencing each-other.

I've met 3 girls while dreamwalking, 2 of whom I later met in the 'real' world.

I also had a dream with a girl I had a crush on from school, and several dreams with other classmates in them.

On two occasions I said something to them that was in 'their' dream the night before... one of them avoided me from then on.

Fun stuff.

Was there water involved?

[murray hill farm]

6. wow, i love that..same dream

sometimes people who are close, will share same dream..or move into the arena of the others dream..or the others mind during sleep..not as unusual as u might think. Another thought, is that you both have felt as though u did not belong for a lot of your lives..especially during the teen years..that u did not fit into your birth family..that you were outside of the family expectation..and that during your lives u attempted other connections to families..or a sense of family, but that it was painful, but now u have found each other..and feel that sense of belonging to each other as family that u always wanted and never had before..and u may have recently discussed this with each other..and this may have triggered the dream.

[The Doctor.]

11. We create subroutines of our friends in our vast psyche...

It's remakable how accurately our 'friend subroutine' can unconsciously predict behaviors and synchronize.

It's a small example of how Human Superconscious Mechanics works.

(Theory I'm working on - hopefully I'll have the book out in the next decade.)

[joeybee12]

9. Lies, lies, all lies--inside and out!

Never inside! I never lied in my heart!

Now that I've got that out of my system, did you both talk about adoption at some point during the day?

[arwalden]

15. Nope... but we had considered it about 4 years ago...

... my partner's uncle worked as a volunteer with troubled teens living in half-way houses or group-homes. Mike's uncle owns a campground and the kids he works with enjoy the fun of camping and the responsibility of doing chores and working as a group.

Anyway... we met Jeff while visiting Mike's uncle. It didn't occur to me at the time, but now I believe it was a planned meeting... a 'blind-date' (if you will)... that Mike's uncle planned to see how everyone got along.

Long story short: before Mike's uncle approached us with the idea of becoming foster parents (which was his intention anyway) we had a chance to talk about it ourselves and approached HIM to get his reaction to the possibility.

Unfortunately, Jeff died before we could even start the process. Officially the coroner said "heart failure"... but that's got to be the LAMEST conclusion ever. (Don't we ALL die from heart failure??) I'm a little suspicious, I know that Jeff had a previous history of abusing drugs and alcohol... so I wonder if that might have been a cause or contributing factor.

It was tragic that he died so young and a disappointment that we didn't have a chance to help him out... he was a sweet kid.

[joeybee12]

16. That's so sad!

I agree with other posters--it means you were meant to adopt!

[Placebo]

14. Well this is CLEARLY a sign that...

YOU ARE TO ADOPT A MALE CHILD IMMEDIATELY!

It can be read no other way. :hi:

[arwalden]

17. I Don't Think I Could Handle Adopting An Infant...

... and after reading NJLib's post about her daughter... I'm not certain that I'd be able to handle adopting (or fostering) a headstrong and rebellious teen.

-- Allen <--wimp