Does it make you crazy when people are late?

[YellowRubberDuckie]

Oh my god, it makes me want to punch people. Especially when they're completely oblivious about it. My roommate will wait until 5 minutes before it's time to go to start getting ready to go. And she'll get up at 8 for class at 9, and spend 45 fucking minutes in the shower and then won't make it to class. It makes me insane. I won't go to class if I'm more than five minutes late. If I'm not ten minutes early, I'm late. Anyone else like me?
Duckie

[sir_captain]

1. Yes, yes it does.

And particularly when they're not apologetic about it...

[Cuban_Liberal]

2. It makes me crazy

:grr::nuke:

[skygazer]

3. Yep, me too

I'm never late, no matter what. And it drives me batty when other people are, especially when they don't let you know or they act like it's not a big deal. The worst is when they make YOU late. :grr:

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

4. Only when its like 7:59 pm and I have to stand outside in the cold ...

and the building is closed and I have no more to call because I gave my last dime to the person who is late picking me up ...

So yes it does make me crazy when people are late ?

[smbolisnch]

5. Yep

My MIL is ALWAYS at least 10 minutes late. I don't think I have ever witnessed her on time appearance for anything. We meet her for dinner a lot, and we never go when she says to meet her. We show up 15 minutes later than that and still beat her there, most of the time. She doesn't seem to have a clue. :eyes:

[Fleurs du Mal]

6. Yes!!!!

No damn excuse! :spank:

[Bleacher Creature]

7. As a perpetually late person

I apologize. I'm simply disorganized and I know it.

I'm still a good person -- aren't I???

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[Bleacher Creature]

24. You really need to relax

or at least confront the person who pisses you off so much about being late. Sorry if I struck a nerve, but attacking anonymous people on a discussion board is just lame.

[miss_kitty]

28. You asked

always being late is a passive aggressive action used by the late person to exert control over others. it is rude.

If you did not want a truthful answer to your question, you should have

A) Not asked it

2) Stated that it was rhetorical

See, being open about stuff is NOT passive aggressive. Trying to manipulate people into saying habitual rude behaviour is AOK, then getting worked up over a truthful answer is PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE.

You should meet my sister. Perhaps you two could manipulate each other to death.

[Bleacher Creature]

30. You've got to be kidding me.

Are you really trying to psychoanalyze me based on a post that was mostly facetious? I'm really not that interested in manipulating someone who I've never met. For the most part, I was kidding around, which seemed fairly appropriate considering that WE ARE IN THE DU LOUNGE. Had we been in a serious setting -- i.e. some sort of group counseling -- I would have emblazened the word "Rhetorical"

And by the way, when I forget my wallet and have to run home to get it, subsequently being late for a class, who am I trying to manipulate? I'm absent-minded and disorganized, but manipulative? Not remotely.

Again, I'm sorry for not spelling it out a bit more clearly as I merely assumed that we were still in the DU LOUNGE.

[miss_kitty]

31. no I am not trying to psychoanalyze you

I am not a mind reader either. You claim your post was facetious? Well then mine was too. Did you corner the market on that or something? Relax. It's the Lounge

[Demobrat]

33. Truth hurts, huh?

Tough.

[Bleacher Creature]

34. I'm crushed.

It's amazing how someone as talented as yourself can glean all there is to know about someone by a short post on a message board in the DU Lounge. So here's a lob back. If you've got a problem with someone who is stringing you along or manipulating you in any way, take it up with them. There's nothing more passive aggressive then finding a random person online -- in an extremely lighthearted thread to begin with -- and attacking them.

Now if you'll excuse me, I've wasted FAR too much time on someone who's trying awfully hard to justify their screen name. Welcome to my ignore list -- and I hope you figure out what's bothering you someday.

[Demobrat]

35. I don't know all there is to know about you.

Just that you think passive aggression is cute, and resent mightily being called on it.

[Bleacher Creature]

38. So every person who's late is passive aggressive???

I locked my keys in my office twice last month and had to call my building's security to let me back in. In both cases, I was late for something. But in neither case was anyone waiting for me.

I'm the kind of person who goes to the store for one thing, and comes back with 12 -- but never the original item. If I have to turn around and go back -- making me late for something else, how is that passive aggressive?

And I'm the kind of person who wastes time with petty little squabbles in what is SUPPOSED to be an easy going area of DU.

I've been called many things -- absent-minded, disorganized, etc. Any my time management skills SUCK. But passive aggressive, manipulative, etc. -- that's going a bit too far. So you have to excuse me if I get put off by someone who jumps to a conclusion by reading a post -- mostly in jest -- in the freakin DU Lounge. Good grief.

[Demobrat]

39. No. Just those who think it's fine to be chronically late

just so long as they have a good, self-effacing excuse. Look, you asked a question. You didn't get the answer you wanted. Deal with it.

[Alleycat]

8. It doesn't bother me

because I'm one of those people who are consistently late. I was late for class, work, appointments, my wedding and divorce hearing, parties, funerals etc. For some reason it is usually about 20 mins. I haven't been on time for work in over four years!! Finally after 4 months of the boss yelling at me he stopped me on my way in and said, "well I have to give you this, at least you are consistenly 20 min late everyday" He never said a word after that and was gone in another two months. The other 3 manager I've had since just don't care so it has never been a problem.

[miss_kitty]

9. Yes It makes me insane

I give people 15 minutes. Or 20. If I have something else to do, I'm gone. If I DON't have something to do, and the party is always late, I'm gone in 10-15.

But I go most insane when I'm late. If I am running late, I call. I generally aim to be somewhere early-ish in case something happens. And I try to have reading material with me.

[sbj405]

10. I am a punctual person, but I definitely know which of my friends aren't

I have learned to accept it with a few people in my life, but there are definitely times when it's not ok (ie I'm waiting on a corner in the rain for them).

PS When I TA'ed in grad school nothing would piss me off more than the disheveled student coming in late.

[jdots]

11. I HATE IT ! they have to make an entrance....

now people can be late because they have cell phones to tell you they are going to be late,thanks......When we had kids we noticed that going somewhere is 20 times the work than is was before,but damn it Duckie you are right.Late people are a pain in the butt..........Show up early and you don't miss the good food and drinks,you even get a seat sometimes.

[GingerSnaps]

12. It sure does

:grr:

[Liberaltarian]

13. my absolute NUMBER ONE pet peeve.

I find it incredibly inconsiderate.

my wife was ALWAYS late when we were dating (often 45min. to an hour).

i cured her of it by leaving and going out without her one time when she was about 45 minutes late for a friday night dinner/movie date. after that, she was never more than 5 minutes late...(5 minutes i can live with).

[GoddessOfGuinness]

15. It only bugs me if they make me late...

or if I end up wasting time because of them.

[Champ]

16. Or when they say they'll show up somewhere and never do

Even worse they don't call or anything to explain why they didn't make it. :argh:

[Scrooge]

17. YES

I have a sister that was like that all the time!! Drove me NUTS!! Me, Im always early. It sucks sometimes though because I am always the first to be at a party. I cannot STAND being late though.

[greatauntoftriplets]

18. Yes.

Drives me nuts.

[Demobrat]

19. If someone is perpetually late they're off my list.

I've learned my lesson about people like that, and can't be bothered anymore. If you want to keep somebody waiting, get a dog. I'm always on time. It's a matter of respect.

[Blue Gardener]

20. Absolutely

I have better things to do than wait around for people who are perpetually late. It's rude, inconsiderate, obnoxious and arrogant. Do these people really think you enjoy sitting around twiddling your thumbs while you wait for them?

[Demobrat]

21. No. But it's not about you or what you enjoy.

It's about them and what they enjoy, and what they enjoy is the feeling of importance they get from having people wait on them, and making an entrance.

[Blue Gardener]

22. I don't wait for long

Then I leave. Let them think they're waiting on ME.

[miss_kitty]

29. I had one ex-friend actually ATTEMPT to rip me a new one

for not waiting long enough for her. Because she arrived 15 minutes after I left making her 30 minutes late and waited for me for an hour. Hahahaha! "How did you like that? That is a FRACTION of the time you make everyone wait for you, all the time." Not really a friend, was she?

[Lilith Velkor]

23. No

But that's only because I'm already crazy.

[huellewig]

25. I don't mind anymore.

My sister always offers to drive me to work. I know that will make me late. I always refuse. If friends don't show up I don't really care. It isn't that difficult to find something else to do. And, when I can't make it I don't worry about them waiting. The circle of life I suppose.

If we are all assholes it can appear that we are all perfect gentleman.

[Forkboy]

26. Sorry I'm late to the thread

Hell yeah,it pisses me off! :)

[Elidor]

27. I only care if my girlfriend is late

My biological clock says it's time to sleep in.

[Baja Margie]

32. Yes

It's RUDE and it also can be an attention getting device. I say fuck 'em, if they're late, I'm leaving without them.

[Nikia]

36. I hate it when my husband makes us late

My mother was a freak about being on time and leaving on time. When I am not leaving on time my nerves go into overdrive while my husband is relaxed ad taking his time. Neither one of us seems to understand each other on this.

[Midlodemocrat]

37. My sister in law is perpetually late

...it drives the rest of us crazy. She is late to everything, holidays, wakes, funerals, you name it. Coming from a punctual bunch, it is almost too much to bear sometimes.