I saw my sister-in-law naked...

[gtp1976]

...completely by accident the other day. Should I tell her or my wife? It would realy embarass her and even though my wife has no problem with porn or anything, the fact that it was her sister may make her feel weird.

She was taking a shower in our bedroom bathroom. I did not know. The door was open and she was getting out. I saw her in the bedroom mirror that sits on the wall opposite the bathroom. She did not know I saw her. I haven't said anything aboiut it.

Should I tell anyone or just keep it to myself? My initial reaction was no harm, no foul. What do you think?

[YellowRubberDuckie]

1. Keep it to yourself.

Wait about five years then it's ok to tell...but I don't think anything good would come of this.
Duckie

[trotsky]

2. If it's going to bother you, you'd better say something.

If not, I'd go with "no harm, no foul." Especially if you enjoyed the view. ;-)

[gtp1976]

4. it was quite nice.

I must admit. :-)

[SarahB]

3. Keep your mouth shut.

Sounds likes you wouldn't feel so bad if you didn't like what you saw, but still, suck it up and say nothing. It'll make everyone feel weird for no reason.

[calico1]

5. Keep your mouth shut!

Why risk starting anything if nobody knows about it?

[gtp1976]

7. that is my thinking...

...I just want to make sure I'm not just being a perv or something. :-)

[mseang]

11. You are a man...

They already think you are a perv. :evilgrin:

[redqueen]

23. Think?

No, know.

Not a perv. Just a guy.

[American Tragedy]

6. Why would you tell either of them at all?

What does anybody gain from hearing about it?

[gtp1976]

8. you're right...

...but like I said, I just want to do the "right thing" and wasn't sure.

[Beware the Beast Man]

9. Write a letter to Penthouse.

And embellish the story a bit.

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

24. BEAST, uh I mean BEST answer! (nt)

[trotsky]

30. "Dear Penthouse Magazine...

"I had always read your letters and never thought anything like that would ever happen to me. Well, one day, I came home from work early..."

It practically writes itself!

[mseang]

10. Big Deal...

It was just another human body. If you believe your wife or sister-in-law may be bothered by it I wouldn't tell, but otherwise tell. It it was more than 24 hours ago, you better keep it to yourself. Waiting longer than that may not look good.

Whose responsibility is it to close the bathroom door? The person that just happens to pass by, or the person in the bathroom. Of course there may be a problem if she intentionally left the door open for you to see. ;-)

Be glad she didn't look in the mirror at the same time you did. Than you would be in trouble to spying on her. :)

[matcom]

12. Dear Penthouse Forum,

I never thought I would ever write a letter like this.....

[name not needed]

13. Locking.

No sex threads.

:D

[demosincebirth]

14. Why would you want to tell anyone?

[brainshrub]

15. Did you get any pictures?

Post them here so we may see what she looks like and give you better advice.

If you don't have a picture, I suggest you install some cameras in her bedroom.

[blueknight]

16. invite me over,

next time she showers, i will observe, and make a rational decision:evilgrin:

[NJ_Lib]

17. Forgive me if I'm wrong but...

... I get the vibe that this incident triggered something in your head that you did not like... Opened the door to the "other side", if you will... If you can't get this vision out of your head, I would say you've got bigger problems than if to tell or not...

Do not tell your wife or her sister, at any cost... What for? What in the world would this accomplish? I get the feeling you WANT the sister to know what you saw... Ask yourself why this had such an impact on you...

If I'm wrong, please forgive me...

[Renew Deal]

18. Is she hot?

If yes, it's a happy memory and don't mention it.

If no, purge ti from your mind immediately. Either way, there's no reason to cause a stir.

[underpants]

22. See THAT is the question

:bounce:

[WildClarySage]

19. Good Goddess no!

Not unless you really want to hurt two women at one go.

And if you need "confession", go to a therapist. Especially if this innocent incident bothers you so much.

[gtp1976]

20. No offense to anyone...

...but why is everyone assuming that seeing her naked bothers me? I was just wondering out loud if I should mention it. The reason I am reluctant to say anything is that I'm worried it might bother them. I got a kick out of it myself. Perhaps it was a dumb (ala obvious answer) question.

Did I get a cheap thrill out of it? Hell yes. Would I ever cheat on my wife? Absolutely not. Well, only with myself. LOL

Now if it had been my mother-in-law, I would probably need professional help. :-)

[Doctor_J]

25. Depends - will you be lurking around the bathroom for

the next few days, hoping for a, um, curtain call? If not, just leave it be.

[gtp1976]

27. no need to...

...the cat's already out of the bag so to speak. :-)

[leftofthedial]

34. I saw my mother in law half naked once by accident

still gives me chills.

[Cadence]

49. I saw my Great Grandmother naked once by accident

and I'm scarred for life. :scared:
See just typing that brought the visual up and I gagged a little.
:puke:

On the other hand if I were married and my brother in law was hot and I had the opportunity to see him naked and nobody know I would probably take it. Of course that's a totally made up scenario.

Darn it why can't I evolve and get over my base instincts!

[tigereye]

43. oh for god's sake -

people are naked all the time. I wouldn't worry about it. ;)

[NashVegas]

80. And That's WHY You Should Not Say a Damn Thing

Because if you do, the question that will be on their minds is 'did he like what he saw?' You do NOT want to start that kind of game between sisters, not unless they are very broadminded.

What you ought to do is just not say anything; save it for some day, many years from now, when your sister-in-law needs a little boost and/or your wife needs a laugh.

[noshenanigans]

21. Not worth mentioning..

I mean, if you accidently walked in on her while she was using the bathroom or something, it wouldn't be a matter of conversation later. Just one of those "Oops" kind of things that you laugh about or whatever for a minute and then move on with your life.

[redqueen]

26. I think it's sweet that you're worried about what to do.

Of course you shouldn't tell. Why should you? As another person said, she was the one who left the door open.

I kinda get a weird feeling about her not shutting it, actually. If I were taking a shower in someone else's house, I'd be darn sure to shut that door. Heck I never even leave it open when I'm at home.

[gtp1976]

28. it wasn't like that...

...I had just gotten home. My wife never closes the door either. Never did. She (the sister) probably didn't even think about it since as far as she knew it was only her and my wife at home at the time.

[gtp1976]

29. double post. n/t

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

31. Did you watch her for a while thinking how beautiful she looked or did you

turn away quickly?

[Phillycat]

32. Excellent question.

Also, this thread is useless with pics.

[gtp1976]

36. hmmm...

...I looked. I didn't stand there and watch or anything but I didn't immediately turn around when I saw. Maybe 3 seconds?

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

37. Enough to size her up see what was underneath? Seems like you saw what

you had wondered about. Did you get excited? Can you not get the image of her out of your mind?

[gtp1976]

39. no more or less

that when I see someone naked on the Internet or in a movie. It isn't consuming my thoughts.

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

41. Then why not just ignore it like it never happened? Why bring it up to

strangers - unless you're looking for someone to tell you that its really bad?

[leftofthedial]

33. don't say anything

Is she hot?

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

35. Thats the real question issn't it?

[amazona]

38. never tell anyone

No good can come of sharing this information. Let it be our dirty little secret. :-)

[ghostsofgiants]

40. THIS THREAD IS USELESS WITHOUT PICS

Carry on.

[Pacifist Patriot]

42. If the tables were turned and my brother-in-law accidentally

saw me naked getting out of the shower I don't think anything would need to be said. Sorry, but I've got to go with a big *shrug* on this one. It depends upon the individuals, but in my family we'd probably have a good deep blush, a chuckle, and forget about it. So why bother?

[pdx_prog]

44. Don't say a word about it!

My ex always accused me of having a thing for her sister. Her sister and I actually had more in common than she and I, but she was a little whacked out.

I wouldn't say anything.....no need in it..:)

[CarbonDate]

45. Just have sex with her and get it over with.

Kidding. :evilgrin:

[Iris]

46. I don't understand what your wife's acceptance of porn has to do with

anything???? :shrug:



Flame away.

[gtp1976]

47. clarification

what I meant was that she's confident enough in our relationship that she doesn't care if I see other women naked. Some people do.

[Minimus]

48. My brother-in- law saw me topless

Back in my party years I was out drinking one night and way too drunk to drive home. A friend called my sister to come pick me up, but since she was 8 months pregnant she sent her husband.

My brother in law comes to get me so I can crash on their couch for the night and he said as soon as I got out of the car, as I'm walking up to the front door, I start taking of my shirt. He shouted "You're not wearing a bra!" and quickly got me inside their house. My sister helped me to the couch and I passed out.

I was so drunk but I vaguely remember the incident. I always slept in the nude so I guess I was just anxious to get to sleep (pass out) and decided to start getting undressed as soon as possible.

My sister thought it was hysterical. At first I was a little embarassed around my brother-in-law, but I got over it. My family laughs about it to this day.

So to you I say, no harm, no foul. You were not purposely trying to see her. It is just one of those things that happens along the journey of life.

[hunter]

50. I wouldn't tell any of my sisters-in-laws.

They would have WAY too much fun telling the story to everyone...

"Hah, hah! Hunter saw me naked!"

It would be the big family joke at Christmas.

[Yuugal]

51. She was taking a shower in our bedroom bathroom. I did not know.

LIAR LIAR LIAR! You didn't know? HA! Does the shower make less noise in your neck of the woods? Fess up, you just want a 3-some. hehehe just kidding.......

Seriously though, don't mention it. You are feeling guilty because you saw something you feel you shouldn't have. Telling your wife and sister in law will just make them feel guilty also. Your wife will feel bad she let her sis use the shower and the sis will feel bad she didn't close the door. Why stuff everyone in the guilt blender with you? And for God's sake please post photos next time so the rest of us can ummmm help you better next time. ;)

[neweurope]

52. Americans sure are different

*listens somewhat unbelievingly*

[tigereye]

54. yes we are a very strange culture sometimes

obsessed with sex (overtly) on one hand, but extremely puritanical on the other. :)


and welcome to DU.

[CarbonDate]

56. We're obsessed with sex because of our puritanicalism, IMO

The less you get it, the more you think about it. And I've been thinking about it a *lot* these past three months in Qatar....

[tigereye]

62. then you can analyze it more

from the aspect of the culture where you are now. ;)

I think we pretend to be interested in sex here in America - we think we are interested in it, but we are more interested in the idea of it ( fantasy vs reality) or how to repress it. Sort of like anti-Victorians or something. It's on display all the time, but we really are afraid of it on some level.

[neweurope]

66. It was also the reference to old/ugly bodies...

..that set me to thinking. So only the young and beautiful can one observe without damage? May I suggest a Burkha for the not-so-young-and-pretty...

Ah well. It's just that over here if you accidentally see somebody naked you pretend you didn't and that's it. It's the same thing as when somebody accidentally farts or otherwise slips in your presence.

That something this natural could be discussed at length - hm. Must study it some more.

[tigereye]

74. reminds me of a German housemate I had

she used to tell us stories about how relaxed her parents were about having bf's stay the night when she was in her mid teens... it seemed that some Europeans just have a more open attitude about sexuality.

also no one's body stays beautiful forever in the classical sense.

[Yuugal]

71. of course I'm afraid!

It is scary! Here I am, a dyed in the wool atheist, and I'm pressed up against this crazy lady who is screaming , "OH GOD OH GOD OH GOD OH GODDDDDDDDDDDDD!" It can be very unnerving. ;)

[tigereye]

75. that's pretty good.

she has obviously transfigured you into some sort of deity during her ecstatic experience. ;)

[skygazer]

53. All depends upon your relationship

Last week my hubby was doing some work for our landlord - putting a set of outdoor stairs up on one of the other rentals. The gal who lives there is about 18 or 19, very cute. He was carrying some lumber around the house and caught a glimpse through the window of her in panties and bra - just a quick look. His first reaction was to run down here and tell me! I said, "oh, good for you, baby" and went back to whatever I was doing. He just had to share because he felt like he'd gotten a bonus on the job and he knew I wouldn't give a shit. Nor would I if it was my sister. If anything, I was happy for him because I knew it was a bit of a thrill. But that's us....

[donheld]

55. This time Silence is Golden

[rockymountaindem]

64. That is scary as hell.

You need a warning label or something...

[geomon666]

57. Get a few drinks in them.

Then offer to recreate the scene with a few...twists. :)

[FeelinGarfunkelly]

58. unless the sis-in-law says something, keep quiet

although if television has taught me anything you should tell your wife. But as a female, I think that would make me more uncomfortable..

i say you're right; no harm, no foul.

[Kiteflyer]

59. Our cat

was in our bedroom while my wife and I made love. The cat saw everything. Good thing we had her fixed.

[Mumble]

61. I saw the neighbor's cat

screw another cat in our backyard. Should I tell my neighbor or keep quiet?

[drdon326]

60. Offer to wash her back....

then see what she says.

[neoteric lefty]

63. wasn't this an episode of Home Improvement?

just wondering...


BTW, don't tell her if you can help it. May end up being nothing but telling her could really affect her. Just my thoughts.

[youthere]

65. If you are the only one who knows

then shut the heck up. All you stand to do is make your wife feel bad and embarass your sister-in-law. Take it to the grave.

[AlCzervik]

67. Say nothing-eom

[Aiptasia]

68. A closed mouth catches no feet

If nobody knows what happened and you can live with it, then shut your pie hole. No sense embarrassing the hell out of her or risk pissing off your wife for no reason. Besides, she's family, right?

Accidents are accidents. If your having some sort of weird guilt trip, like "I felt strangely attracted to her" or "I couldn't stop looking, am I a pervert?" then maybe you should talk to your wife about it.

But if it was purely accidental, just relax.

[MadAndy]

69. Go For it!

Definitely tell your wife. Also tell her that you are interested in a menage-a-troi with her sister. Who knows, they might be into it. :-)

[name not needed]

77. Hell. I like you.

You can come over to my house and fuck my sister. :P

Welcome to DU! :hi:

[PatriotGames]

70. Pictures? Just kidding. I think I would keep my mouth shut.

[derby378]

72. If you, personally, are not traumatized...

...then I'd keep mum about it. Probably nothing you haven't seen before, so take it easy.

[billyskank]

73. Forget about it

you know how important it is? Not at all.

[SoCalDem]

76. Don't ask...Don't tell..

Nothing to be gained by it for ANYONE..

She would be embarrassed
Your wife would be upset
and you might feel weird around her knowing that SHE knows YOU saw her naked :eyes:

[Champ]

78. That is how I handle situations if I can't decide whether to say or not to

If my SO asks me anything I will give her a straight foward answer, but if she doesn't ask there is no need to bring it up.

[Threedifferentones]

79. I wouldn't recommend mentiong it

[UdoKier]

81. What a silly question.

Keep it to yourself. Common sense. Even if you replay it in your mind while masturbating, so what? If you just caught a glimpse by accident.

Are you feeling guilty because you looked for a lot longer than you had to?

[guitar man]

82. don't say anything

especially if sis-in-law doesn't know you saw her. You might get a chance for a better look next time! :evilgrin:

[one_true_leroy]

83. My question... Wy was the door left open?....

*cue delivery man music* chikka chikka bow wow... :party: