Got Dumped

[Jack_Dawson]

via Email. She didn't like the way the "relationship was going" (i.e. I haven't bought a ring yet). I hadn't ruled out marriage, but had concerns about the fighting vs. sex ratio. This was our 3rd run. Three strikes and I'm out. Someone buy me a drink.

:(

[DoNotRefill]

1. How long had you been dating?

:toast:

Pros't!!!

[fluffernutter]

2. via email? ack, that's cold.

i'm sorry.
:hug: here's a hug and a drink :toast:

[kedrys]

3. Hand Grenade or Stiletto?

New Orleans has some imaginatively named drinks...sorry about the breakup... :(

[mr_hat]

4. Sorry to hear that. May I recommend

combining the sex with the fighting next time?

[RagingInMiami]

5. Bartender, two shots of Irish whiskey

[sir_captain]

6. That's fucking horrible

sorry man...

[flamingyouth]

7. I'm sorry

I know how that feels. Yes, these holidays are wonderful, aren't they?:hug:

[spooky3]

8. You're better off without her. You'll find someone with whom you

won't have to fight all the time.

[Jack_Dawson]

10. It's become so normal...

I almost think I wouldn't be into someone agreeable. Hope I'm not that far gone.

[spooky3]

33. You just need a little time to yourself. If after you've had some

time just to grieve, regroup, and enjoy life again, you are still finding yourself attracted to drama, there's no reason why you can't talk to a good counselor about it. They can do a world of good.

Now's not the time to beat yourself up in any case. And you have all your DU friends!!!!

[Jack_Dawson]

34. Thx Spoox

I'll need them. :toast:

[Phillycat]

77. I hope so, too, for the sake of the next girl you date.

My recent experience: I was dating a guy. His previous relationship was 10 years, on and off, and was horribly violent and awful between the two of them--she threatened his life many times, etc (with a knife). He says she's the only girl he's ever loved.

He met me a year after they broke up. We started dating, he told me I was sweet, wonderful, the nicest girl he's ever dated, as well as the smartest, best-looking, and best in bed.

He broke up with me 2 weeks ago because he doesn't love me. I think his feeling of "love" is so fucked up because of his ex that he doesn't even know what it's supposed to feel like. (By the way, I was totally in love with this guy and I am hurting bad.)

Sorry to hear about your troubles. I hope this hasn't fucked you up for good. :(

[Feathered Fish]

9. Tech breakups

stink. Sorry to hear it.

[bearfan454]

11. Here you go

:toast: :toast: :toast: :toast: :beer: :beer: :beer: :beer: :beer:

Maybe it's better now than later. Know what I mean ? $$$$$$$$$ ?

[enigmatic]

12. Ugh.

Sorry to hear about this: have some of my moonshine..

[Jack_Dawson]

14. I've never had moonshine,

but I'll try anything at this point. Thx. :beer:

[enigmatic]

No prob

no open flames while you're drinking it though, please:)

[enigami]

17. you got moonshine?

All I got is this store bought Wild Turkey 101..........er sorry about the breakup dude, happens to us all

[enigmatic]

29. moonshine washes away all the sins...

and everything else that's not attached. Heh...

[Dr Fate]

13. I hate to be that guy but: "Fish in the sea" my friend,...

..."Fish in the sea."

Have a virtual glass on this red cab on me!!!!

[donco6]

15. Ouch.

Sorry man. :(

[katinmn]

16. your concerns were valid.

If you were fighting more often than not, take comfort knowing that you were in the honeymoon period.

:)

[Jack_Dawson]

18. Honeymoon Period?

Isn't that when you're not fighting. I know there's sarcasm there that I'm just not getting on this mentally handicapped day for me. Please elabourate.

[Buddhakitty]

32. That SUCKS Jack ... and I don't mean that in a *good way*

[katinmn]

51. Yes. Believe it or not, early on is when most people get

along the best, hence it's called "the honeymoon period." First couple years are pretty good. Next 5-10 suck if you make it that long. After 10 you sort of settle in and things can be good.


Again, I'm sorry. It hurts to end a relationship. I just think if you're not getting along now, the future would be bleak should you stay together.

[Thor_MN]

19. Sorry to hear that, hope you didn't already give the Xmas present to her

Maybe my situation will help cheer you up - I have a female room mate/tennant (it's my house)

All the fun of fighting and none of the nasty complications of make-up sex!!!!

[Jack_Dawson]

21. LOL

Thanks for the laugh. I need one.

[KlatooBNikto]

20. Is this your first? That usually hurts a lot.But take it from me.There

is a lot more fish out in the sea. You can also thank your stars you got off easy.My first one, after nearly a year of going out, dumped me saying I was a creep! After fifteen more losing attempts, I developed such a rhino skin that every time I got dumped, it called for a celebration and I have been known to shout at a bar with my friends,
"Free at last, Free at last, thank God Almighty, I am free at last!"

[Jack_Dawson]

23. You've been dumped 15 times in a row?

That can't be right. You were being metaphorical, yes?

[DoNotRefill]

26. I've been dumped 15 times...

in less than ten days before.

On edit: Yes, all fifteen dumpings involved different women who I was simultaneously seeing. Somehow, they found out about it.

[BiggJawn]

28. He might not have been...

I've been dumped by every one but maybe 3...that doesn't count the 4-5 ONS's, so ........I figure I've been dumped maybe 30 times.

[KlatooBNikto]

72. Fifteen times over a five year period, yes.

[Lenape85]

22. At least it went better than mine

I had a real crazy one.

[Jack_Dawson]

25. Do go on...

[Wickerman]

24. Sorry man, let me pour you one

:beer:

Really sucks, here's to better days. :toast:

[DoNotRefill]

27. Could have been worse...

you could have married her!!!!

Have one on me. :beer:

[bettyellen]

30. breaking up by email fax or post it is despicable (done in daffy's voice)

here....
have a little whiskey with me...
smooth huh?

and you are sooooo money! and you don't even know it!

[Jack_Dawson]

31. LOL - love that flick

[noshenanigans]

35. Oh, man, I'm so sorry..

Please don't let her sour you on the whole of my gender. That it was over email's just... wow.

If it makes you feel any better (in a 'hey, it sucks for everyone' kind of way), my ex (well, *now* he's my ex) didn't come to see me in the hospital when I was in a near-death car accident and then he calls me *From Thailand* saying he moved (there. To Thailand.)

I'd get you a shot if I could :)

[Jack_Dawson]

36. You're under 21?

Awwww! That's so sweet...

That really sux about your ex. Bastards.

[noshenanigans]

37. Oh, no, Im 25.

But I've learned my lesson about dating guys about to turn 30. It's like I have a radar for men who are about to hit a pre-midlife crisis.

[Jack_Dawson]

38. Really? I thought chix dug older guys

Cannot BELIEVE your ex MOVED to Thailand! Visiting is one thing...

[noshenanigans]

I know! Moved.

He gave me this whole schpiel about how he loved it there because he wasn't all about the "buy a house, get a dog, blah blah blah" thing in America.

So, like a month later he emails me pictures of his house. And his dog. In Thailand.

[Jack_Dawson]

42. LOL! Fuck!

Why the fuck did he even email you the pic? He still likes you methinks. Those Thai hookers can't converse or challenge his mind like you. Just a guess. :shrug:

[noshenanigans]

44. I dunno, actually

His whole thing here was "showing me off". Wherever we went, it was like he was trying to prove to people he could "get a pretty girl". It doesn't matter what he likes or thinks now. The whole "not seeing me in the hospital" thing was a dealbreaker.

[Jack_Dawson]

47. Major fucking dealbreaker

If my S.O. didn't visit me in the hospital - and during a near death experience at that - C-YA! My (ex) gf was a looker too...a model actually which makes it a little harder, since I know there are 100 guys to leer at her now that I'm gone. But fuck I'm not going to ask some chick to marry me no matter how hot she is if we're fighting all the time! Arrrrrrgh. Chix.

[noshenanigans]

50. If there's fighting..

that's a sign, yknow? Believe me, I've fought with some men. Constantly. And that just means there's some kind of fundamental incompatibility. It just ain't meant to be all the time, y'know?

[Buddhakitty]

39. If the fighting vs. sex ratio was bad BEFORE you were even married

Then you were just sparred a long painful marriage. It hurts now, but if you had gotten married, it sounds like it would have been painful for a looooooooooong time. Here's a martini

[Jack_Dawson]

41. Thanks BK!

I think I needed to hear that. :toast:

[Buddhakitty]

49. Sure ... the thing about advice though ...

It's much easier to give it out if your not the one in the situation. I'm currently married but seperated and even though I know it wasn't working and the seperation is the best thing, it still just sucks to be alone sometimes. It's like the victim mentality of 'being treated badly is better than not being treated at all'. It's not true (at least not when I'm thinking rationally) but I know when someone gives you advice when your shocked, hurting, whatever, it's almost empty because you are the one hurting. Good luck my friend.

[progmom]

40. that's cold

I'm sorry.

:hug:

[Wapsie B]

43. Sorry to hear that.

Toast to your new found freedom. Like several others here said you've probably been spared a bad marriage.

SKOAL!

:toast: :toast:

[WindRavenX]

45. I'm sorry dude

:hug:
It sucks, it hurts, and I know that's all that can be said right now.
:hug:

[slackmaster]

This may be the best thing that could have happened to you

Keep your chin up, Jack_Dawson!

I... ...had concerns about the fighting vs. sex ratio.

You deserve better, and you shall get it some day.

[I_like_chicken]

46. Fuck her

That bitch has the audacity to dump you via Email. You don't want this bitch, go get high and forget about her.

[corksean]

48. Fighting v Sex ratio? - I can't tell the difference any more

[Sparkle]

52. Was she a fellow DUer?

[Jack_Dawson]

53. Nai

Not a DU'er.

[Endangered Specie]

54. Now wouldn't that be interesting:

DU Soap Opera.

[Cadence]

55. Could be worse...it could have been on a post-it

did you see that Sex and the City episode? Berger broke up with Carrie on a post-it? The writers wrote that because it actually happened to one of them.

Sorry buddy ...hang in there.

[Jack_Dawson]

58. I've seen every Sex and the City

and so yes, I've seen that one. Fucking Berger was a loser. Too bad cause I liked him in Swingers.

[Cadence]

59. Right on me too!

He was also in Office Space right?

[Jack_Dawson]

61. Yup! He was the LEAD in O.S.

Good actor, actually.

When he was putting w/ Mikey in Swingers...classic.

[Cadence]

62. I love that movie..

when he kept leaving the phone messages for that girl I couldn't stop laughing.

[Jack_Dawson]

63. That was Painful to Watch

I saw that flick in the THEATER! I knew it would be a classic 20 minutes in.

[Cadence]

64. I know it was funny because I've been there

and I'm a girl... which in some ways I think is even worse because we're "supposed" to be the "chasees".

Boy I'm glad I've outgrown that unsure, insecure phase...(nervous laughter).

[Jack_Dawson]

68. "Hi Nikki? It's Mike. It's just not working out"

OMG the biggest trainwreck scene ever.

[Cadence]

71. LOL....ahhh God that's good stuff.

[Skittles]

56. f*** her

well I guess you can't now :o

move on Jack, she wasn't for you

[Jack_Dawson]

57. Thx Skit

You're probably right. :toast:

[Skittles]

66. of course I'm right

get high, get drunk, then get back in the game right away; you'll come out a winner, you'll see

[Cheswick2.0]

60. what kind of person breaks up in e-mail?

Consider yourself lucky. I know it doesn't feel that way now but one day you will find someone with a little bit more consideration.

[Jack_Dawson]

73. Hope so...

[AngryAmish]

65. I've never been dumped

But many times I wish I was.

[Jack_Dawson]

69. "I've never been dumped"

HUH?

:freak:

[babylonsister]

67. Mr. Jack (young) Dawson, you

are a very nice person as far as I"m concerned. It's weird for me to relay this at this late hour, but take heart. You rock, and you will meet many people and have many fun times, be very caring and serious, and it is all about "what's it all about"! I Bye bye.

[Jack_Dawson]

70. Thanks Baby

It's not that late...only 9:15 or so. For me, that is. :-)

[regularguy]

74. via e-mail? Sheesh!

AFAICT, I need 2 c other ppl. 2 bad 4 u. yrs, X.
:)

[Jack_Dawson]

75. Eagles Suck

Just kidding. :toast:

[mac56]

76. Sorry to hear it.

It may be impossible to realize this right now, but she did you a very big favor. Someday you'll reflect on this episode and realize it was one of the best things that could have happened. Life, of course, is meant to be lived forwards and understood backwards (to quote Kierkegaard, by way of Opus).