This is the time of year I wish I had a guy and a fireplace

[supernova]

*sigh*

I mostly don't mind being single. I'm comfortable with my own company. But this time of year when the days are short, the skies gray and close, and the wind whips right through me, I wish I had someone to keep me warm.

Oh well.

edit: I think also part of it is just this time of year. The emphasis is on "togetherness", "closeness" , "family time", It tends contrast with the fact that I'm none of those things right now.

[LoZoccolo]

1. Locking.

No sex threads.

[supernova]

5. PPFFFFFFTHTHTHTTHTHT!

:P

Raspberries to you!

[LoZoccolo]

7. Ha ha ha ha!

:+

[RPM]

12. work for the FCC?

if this is a sex thread, then anything is

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

2. the lack of light

effects even those who have a mate. I find it is very difficult to feel good when days are short unless I stay focused on spiritual practices.

[supernova]

6. That's a good part of it

With the shorter days I feel less like getting out in the evenings.

[imax2268]

3. Well...

I'm single...I don't have a fireplace...will a space heater suffice...?

[supernova]

8. Space heaters are good

I have one of those.

[mhr]

4. "This is the time of year I wish I had a girl and a fireplace"

Been single for a long time now.

Pretty much given up on the couple thing.

[supernova]

9. It's been a while for me too

I don't really have any big expectations anymore. This just some residual wistfulness on my part.

[mhr]

11. I Can Understand - I get Wistful As Well - Then Reality Sets In

Really hate it when that happens.

[imax2268]

10. Well...

I haven't given up hope...there are many fish in the sea mhr...keep fishing...

[mhr]

13. At The Age Of 47, The Fishing Well Is Pretty Dry

Especially here in Texas.

Too many fundamentalist Christians to deal with.

[Kat45]

14. I'm a 49-year-old single woman and I haven't given up yet

But then again, I'm in Massachusetts. :-)

[mhr]

39. The First Question One Gets Asked Socially Is

What do you do for a living? It is the proverbial sizing up that each female does of a new prospect.

I have been unemployed now for 54 months. I have learned that in the pecking order of society I do not exist socially or economically. If one does not exist socially and economically, one does not attract potential mates.

That is why I have given up.

[DemocratSinceBirth]

46. Tell Them You're A Poet

Women dig the smart, sensitive type...

[woofless]

18. BULL! Never give up.

I met my SO online when I was 48. We have been together nearly four years and all is swell. Hang in there.

Woof

[supernova]

20. Congrats to you

Woofless.

That's a lovely story.

[SarahB]

15. Nice thing about New England is fireplaces.

They're almost everywhere. I get to finally go apartment hunting in another month or so and it's definitely something I'd like. As for the man, well that's always nice too. Hopefully, I'll have a bit of hooking up before the weather warms up again.

Should I look for the proverbial bearskin rug as well? :P

[supernova]

21. I prefer sheepskin myself

It's very soft and easy to take care of. :D

[Longgrain]

16. Here you go ladies...

Single guy and here's my fireplace...



Anybody want to join me...

[supernova]

17. Is that a wood stove?

:-)

[Longgrain]

27. Sorry to spoil the ambiance

It's not ventilated so it's for decoration only...

but since you seemed to like it so much, here's another view.

Should we play some records to get in the mood? (I know I'm so retro...)



I think I might have a bottle of champaign lying around somewhere...

[supernova]

28. Is that a Dusty Springfield record

on the bottom of the pile? I'd like that one.

I like Easy Rider too, but, it's a bit too raucous for my Sunday afternoons.

[Longgrain]

30. Maybe we could put on some Sinatra instead?

Or would you rather get introspective with Bob Dylan?

[supernova]

31. Oh Bob, definitely

He fits my mood right now.

Did you say something about champagne?

[Longgrain]

34. Well, since my usual girlfriend doesn't seem to be around right now

let me show you around the den some more...

Dylan huh, then you might be turned on by art types...

Here's a quite corner where I like to contemplate my lost Muse...

(sorry about the vintage Kodak ad on the wall, but us single guys need something for those lonely nights ya know)




Just be careful the Mods might be watching...:hi:

[supernova]

37. Are you slowly steering me

toward your etchings? ;-)

What kind of guitar/mandolin is that? Do you paint?

[Longgrain]

38. I'm an artist and a writer...

The mandolin is purely for decoration...I'm afraid i have no talent for music...

But I do paint and write, and I have a huge love for photography...

As for my etchings here's a portrait of my last Muse. She broke my heart earlier this summer. I hope she enjoyed the bloody ear i left in her mailbox. :cry:



But seriously, here's a detail of a more light-hearted painting I've always liked...




I'm thinking of using it as my avatar image...if I can figure out how...

[supernova]

42. Lovely paintings

You have a definite style, a little Gaugin-ish.

If you want to have that as an avatar, just use something like the Paint program or Paintshop pro to size it down to 48x48 (I think is the size for DU) then upload it in your personal profile.

I've only recently dabbled in paint. B & W acrylic so far.

[Longgrain]

44. Glad you noticed...

Gauguin has been a huge influence of mine as has been Rubens... and thanks for the avatar advise...:yourock:

Here's the entire painting, (I don't have a very good picture right now. This was scanned for a newspaper article) it's huge, about 5 foots besides 15 foots...



Here's a somewhat clearer image while it was still only a work in progress...




Now can we get back too that talk of champaign and fireplaces...

;-)

[NightTrain]

19. I know how you feel.

I've spent every Christmas alone since 1998, my first holiday season with both parents dead. Like you, I've no particular problem with being single, but the holidays can be a bit much.

[supernova]

22. Yes,

Sorry to hear about both your parents. Mine have been gone since 96.

I spend every year suspended between 1/2 liking the holidays and 1/2 wishing they were over with already. :P

[liberalhistorian]

23. I know what you mean, because

I feel exactly the same way. Normally, I don't mind being single either, but at this time of year.........I'll be forty two weeks from tomorrow, and it looks like the situation will never change. SIGH.

[blueknight]

24. dont give up!

my brother has a saying "every jar has a lid" i believe that:P

[supernova]

25. Well, let's see

I don't have any extra jars in the kitchen, but I do have quite a few lids in the drawer. :silly:

[Darth_Kitten]

26. Xmas is too expensive as it is.....

it's bad enough my credit cards are practically maxed out, I cannot afford a man this time of year. ;)

He'll want electronics or some manly gadget that is way over my budget. ;)

Right now I want peace and quiet, the laundry put away, the bathroom clean, and some petit fours to snack on. (I'm kind of hungry right now)

For warmth, I have my little babies. ;)

[supernova]

29. Oh, I don't overspend at xmas

and I don't have cc debt either. So I could afford a nice gadget for a male companion.

I do heartily agree with this:


Right now I want peace and quiet, the laundry put away, the bathroom clean


Hmmm. :think: Maybe what I really need is a Butler!

[Starlight]

36. "I cannot afford a man this time of year"

You can if he doesn't celebrate Christmas. You just need to confine your man-search to non-Christians. :thumbsup:

[Historic NY]

32. I have a fake one at home, but I could take you to a 18th century...

house that has six of them, and I'd light them all for you.

I'm single here too, have been for a while. Did have my uncle living here with me but he passed a week ago and it quiet now. I'm getting to the point that there seems to be no one for me either.

[supernova]

33. Sorry for your loss

The 18th Century house sounds lovely.

Though I do like modern fireplaces with switches. ;-)

[Starlight]

35. What a depressing thread!

No fireplace here, but I've been blessed with a very warm, cozy man. :pals:

[sundog]

40. you suck sn!

I already told you we're taking up a collection to have Johnny Depp kidnapped & shipped to you Fed-Ex.

Do you have any idea how many of us have been standing on the street corners of this rapidly disintegrating country in the freezing cold with our jingle bells & coffee cans... scraping every dime & nickel & penny up... scoffed by the passer-bys rushing home with their presents... just to get Johnny on your doorstep in time for Christmas!

You know how much black market fees are these days?? You have no idea how much the shipping is gonna cost me??

You ingrate!

:7

[supernova]

41. Sundog, my Hero!!

:7

LOL! You have my full attention now!

[Catchawave]

43. Super, honey, listen to me.....

I have the guy and the fireplace, wanna trade? :silly:

Seriously, the grass ain't always greener, any time of the year. The holidays can bum out even the most normal (?) people this time of year. Shorter days of light? Colder and gloomier? Maybe humans were meant to hibernate too !?! Of course, I think the pharmaceuticals and liquor industry tried to capitalize on this a long time ago, so now they give us reason to stay awake! Oy.

I know there's some wonderful discussions going on in the DU Group dedicated to Mental Health.

As for me, I go through the holiday motions for my family's sake, but what keeps me going is Florida in February and NYC in April. Works for me every year <wink>.

[supernova]

45. Hee

Speaking of liquor, I haven't had nearly enough eggnog.