When I Die...I hope people will be honest about it.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

i dont do the "respect her cos shes dead even though you hated her when she was alive" thing very well. i dont understand it.

when i die, i hope people wont be obligated to say nice things about me while secretly thinking "glad the bitch is gone"....i just hope they say whatever it is that they feel.

the tsunami is making me morbid...not being able to say i hate homophobes even dead ones is making me feel icky...

rant over!

[bobbobbins]

1. when i die i hope to be the next jesus, whether i deserve it or not

[La Lioness Priyanka]

2. umm are you willing to be crusified...cos i bet thats painful!

[bobbobbins]

6. sure...cuz i'll come back in a few months

[Midlodemocrat]

3. But, you don't want people to say mean/bad things about

you when you die....because your family will overhear/see and they will just be sadder. That is the reason for eulogies. To speak well of the deceased and try to ease the family's suffering. IMO.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

dont care...just dont want anyone to fake anything.

also so long as someone is not saying it to my family which is tacky i feel like they should be able to saying it to other people without having to hear "respect the dead".

respect the living and chances are when you are dead people will respect you.

[Midlodemocrat]

11. But, lioness, you will be DEAD

...so it is really for your family. Must you be so selfish? :evilgrin:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

13. i must be selfish...its just who i am

:P

[La Lioness Priyanka]

7. dont care...just dont want anyone to fake anything.

[JanMichael]

4. Funny, I just walked in the door from a funeral

and am going to just stay dressed to go to another one this evening.

I want people to talk about how wonderful I am, and how great I look in the casket.

I want people to lie-

Stephanie

[Midlodemocrat]

10. Right there with you

...I want people to lie, lie, lie about how much they loved me and how much I will be missed.


Although, that will all be TRUE:evilgrin:

[BigBigBear]

5. Someone who knew my wife

came up to me a couple of weeks ago, and started out by saying "Y'know, I never really liked your wife..." and proceeded to indicate that he thought she was a bitch.

Not that I care what this bottom feeder thinks, but saying nothing would have been preferable.

[johnnie]

8. WTF?

Tell me that isn't true. Could someone really be that low class?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

9. i didnt say people should be tacky...

which is what that bottom feeder was being

[Midlodemocrat]

12. If you had been thinking more quickly

...and for God's sake why would you have been... you could have said...Really? Funny, she always hated you as well and thought you were stupid.


JMO, but I am often mean.

[BigBigBear]

18. I can't really explain it

Normally, I'm fairly quick on my feet, but that took me by surprise, and it sort of deep-sixed me for a few days. We'd both known this guy for almost 15 years, too.

[JanMichael]

19. Your answer should have been, "That's odd...I don't remember her

ever even mentioning you----"

That said, how are you holding up?

Steph

[BigBigBear]

21. Short answer

Not very well.

I'll spare the long answer, but you're very kind to ask. Thank you.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

23. i am very sorry bigbigbear. i hope you feel better soon.

:hug:

and i really didnt mean to imply that its ok to tell a husband that you didnt like his wife.

[BigBigBear]

24. I know

no apology necessary...except for my coming in and hijacking this thread. I didn't mean to.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

25. dont apologize...you have real problems...i am just pissed off

:hug:

feel free to hijack any thread of mine :)

[neuvocat]

14. I agree.

I don't think anyone's memory deserves any sort of special treatment just because they have passed away. What people truly feel about someone who dies is a reflection mostly of how that someone lived before they died.

Homophobia and racism are merely forms of hate that breed more hate. Anyone who indulges in either or both deserves contempt, for that is how they will be remembered regardless.

However in your case, Lioness, may there be cheerful, kind things that are said to preserve your memory-as long as they are truly sincere.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

16. i think if one respects the living chances are when they die

people will still respect them.

[sniffa]

15. that girL had the biggest ass!!!

can we give you a compLex from beyond the grave? :P

[La Lioness Priyanka]

17. the girl will come back from the dead and bite your ass for that

:P

[Rob H.]

20. I've told my friends for years that I don't want a funeral

I want something like an Irish wake--people can cry, sure, but tell some funny stories, things I said that made them laugh, goofy things I did by accident (or even on purpose), quirks that I had (even if those quirks made them crazy), and get good and liquored up.

I'd also prefer that they spend money on donations to the American Humane Association, or Amnesty International, or Habitat for Humanity instead of buying a bunch of flowers that I'll never see, anyway. It's like George Carlin said in his act years ago: "The flowers all come at once--too late."

[neuvocat]

22. Kind of reminds me of a comedian one time

said for his funeral he wanted to have his body swinging around on chains while they had a strobelight and techno music.

[txaslftist]

26. I don't want 'em to say anything...

Just sing ALL SIX verses of amazing grace very slowly, play a bagpipe like a twelve year old and get drunker'n skunks.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

27. i would like bellydancers for mine...and no praying for my soul

[Rob H.]

33. No praying! I forgot about that

Anyone who prays gets NO BOOZE!

As for the bellydancers, well, if someone wants to hire some, I won't exactly be in any shape to stop them, will I? ;)

[jonnyblitz]

28. I agree!

and no amount of christian cliches flung at me ( love thy neighbor, let ye without sin etc etc etc)will make me change how i feel towards dead, bigoted pieces of shit. :thumbsup:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

29. i think you and i understand that its ok to hate bad people

and its right to hate people who deny poor people health insurance.

and wasting our sympathy on them is well, a fucking waste

[jonnyblitz]

30. well...i actually am not as strident as I appear when I post

I wasn't giving this REggie White asshole too much thought until all these others started posting their self rigteous hatred breeds hatred crap and saying we were like freepers and THAT just set me off. People forget that we are just posting THOUGHTS on a freakin discussion board. Its not like we are outside his house with megaphones. Seems like people of "certain religions" just can't help but feel the need to preach to others. All I can say is that these DUers who are so full of love for assholes better not be posting anything negative or nasty about anybody because I will be watching these hypocrites.

[Patiod]

31. I want people to speak well of me while I'm alive...

I was helping out with a Quaker funeral, where anyone who wants to can stand up and talk about the deceased. Normally, it works pretty well, especially if those present know the drill.

People were all pretty good about the deceased - the stories they told summed him up pretty well.

Where I thought I was going to crawl under a pew was when a friend was talking about the widow. She addressed the deceased's mother, and said "M was a very special person, or J wouldn't have married him. I mean, she dated a lot of men before she met your son, I mean a lot of men, and she could have had anybody, but she chose M." It went over the heads of those who didn't know the widow, but those of us who were with her during wild times just put our heads in our hands.

Go ahead and trash me when I'm dead, but please dear god, don't tell any stories about me at someone else's funeral...

[arcane1]

32. this thread is making me morbid

:cry:

[Forkboy]

34. Dont worry...we will

:evilgrin:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

35. you should not have to feign sorrow if you hated me when i was alive

[Forkboy]

36. well I dont hate you personally

but I agree with the theory :)

[Wapsie B]

37. I agree.

Dying doesn't make a bad person good nor a good person bad. They were what they were.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

38. i have never understood the hypocrisy over death