It's a BOY!!!

[MissMillie]

He weighs in at about 140 lbs, and he's 5'4".

One of my son's friends is moving in. His mother has been threatening to throw him out as long as I've known him (about a year) and I'm just tired of this poor kid feeling like he won't have a roof over his head if he forgets to take out the trash.

The mother has even gone as far as to tell him that she should have had an abortion when she got pregnant for him, and that he's lazy and stupid and will never amount to anything.

I really don't have room for this kid here, but he's such a good kid and I love him so much.

I hope I can be enough for both him and my son. I hope we can all co-exist.

Silly me, I thought when I got my tubes tied that I wouldn't be having any more kids.... lol

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

1. at least you won't have to hold him up to breast feed!

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

25. Much to the dude's disappointment. (nt)

[Rabrrrrrr]

2. Ya never know what life is gonna throw at ya

Good for you for taking the boy in.

It's reminding me of Stephen Sondheim's relationship with his mother, who even well into his adult years, she always told him "My biggest mistake was having you."

That's gotta frickin' hurt.

Just the act of letting the boy know that you care about him enough that you would ask him to come live with you will be an extraordinary help to him.

I hope it all works out in your new family!

[babylonsister]

3. Very cool of you, MsMillie.

I too was taken in by a friend's mom when I was young after my dad kicked me out. My situation wasn't as bad as your new baby's, but it was nice to find a port in the storm.

[underpants]

4. Good for you but that is sad

very sad.

Good for you

[Bronco69]

5. What a TERRIBLE thing to say to a kid!

"The mother has even gone as far as to tell him that she should have had an abortion when she got pregnant for him, and that he's lazy and stupid and will never amount to anything."

Anyone who thinks that saying things like that to a young mind won't scar them emotionally is just plain crazy. Bless you MissMillie for taking care of him.

[Left Is Write]

6. What a kind thing you are doing for this boy to take him in.

Thank you for giving him a safe environment away from a "mother" who would say such things to him.

[Wapsie B]

7. I'm in the same boat.

One of my son's friends is living with us. He was passed around from relative to relative. But thankfully he doesn't have a mother like that. Even though with him I didn't have room for an Xmas tree this year I didn't miss it. You'll find room in your house. It sounds like you've already made room in your heart.

[BigMcLargehuge]

8. Congratulations Miss Millie!

And he comes potty-trained too, which is always a plus!

[HEAVYHEART]

9. Wow

That is so very nice of you to do MissMillie. I lived with various familes from the time I was 13 through 18 yrs old. If it wasn't for those families who took me in, I'd probably be dead by now. Your son's friend is very lucky to have and know you.

:)

[Raven]

10. Happened to me years ago...

except this kid wasn't a bad kid at all...his mother just didn't want to bother with him one summer so he moved in with us. He fit right in and I enjoyed having him. BUT the kicker was that as a thank you to ME, the mother sent Will and this boy on a cruize!!! The key thing for you is to set the rules right out front and tell this boy what you expect of him...clean room, do dishes, etc. Knowing you Millie, you'll do just fine...this boy is lucky to have you!

[MissMillie]

12. This kid isn't a bad kid either

His mother is just overly critical.

[Bertha Venation]

11. You're a good woman.

:hug: The boy needs a good woman in his life.
:yourock:, MissMillie!

[MountainLaurel]

13. ((((MissMillie))))

You are doing such a good thing here. Several years ago my grandmother began the process of doing the same thing for a friend of my brother's whose father used to beat him bloody on a regular basis. Eventually, the court officially emancipated him and he went to live with an uncle. As for the father, he was murdered a couple years ago by his girlfriend's daughter, who claimed that he was raping her with her mother's consent and assistance and had started on her younger sister as well.

[Midlodemocrat]

14. When I was single

I had two, yes, two lost teenaged boys living with me. Very cramped apartment, but things worked out okay and they are doing fine now.

You have a big heart, Miss Millie, I wish you the best.

[Cuban_Liberal]

15. The world needs more people like you!

:hug:

[fluffernutter]

16. what a great mom you are! i hope it all works out too.

it makes my stomach hurt to think of a mother saying those things to her own child.

:hug: and good luck to you!

[txaslftist]

17. good luck and god bless you

[Debi]

18. You are a good person

and doing a wonderfull thing.

We almost had a college student move in w/us when she was pregnant until her folks came through for an apartment for her and new baby (would've been crowded, but she needed a real home, not apartment w/a bunch of roomates)

Mommy and baby do visit a lot still. Feels good to know we ALMOST had a bigger family

edited...can't spell worth beans today :)

[scarlett1]

19. Is this young man a minor

or an adult?

I ask because what his mother is doing is neglect.

[MissMillie]

24. He's a minor

but only for another 5 months.

The mother apparently threw out a 16 year old daughter a couple of years ago.

I don't really care if anything happens to the mother or not (though I do worry about the younger daughter still living at home). I just want to make sure the kid has a place where he feels safe and loved.

[ronnykmarshall]

20. Good for you Miss Mille!

You have a big heart!

[Solly Mack]

21. You are a wonderful person for doing this!!!!!

Thank you!!!!!!

I wish more families got involved this way. My mother did it for a troubled friend of mine with a horrible mother and it made all the difference.

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

:yourock:

[flamingyouth]

22. You are such a sweetheart

Bless you for taking care of this poor kid. His mother ... wow, that just makes me so sad. :cry:

What a great heart you have. :hug:

[fortyfeetunder]

23. You will make a difference in this kid's life

He needs someone to make him feel he's somebody after being torn down for probably years by his own bio mom. Thank you for your generosity and kindness!

Just be prepared if bio mom decides to pull some cr@p and say you've taken her boy away from her...you never know...