Fellow DU Ladies: Which men come on to you?

[jellybelly]

Sorry I couldn't word it better, me stoopid. And don't say 'the live ones':-)
Only repug-looking men (white, christian, business suits) ask me out on dates
And I went on one date with a man who worked at "The Village Voice". I doubt he was writer for the magazine but it was fun telling my liberal girlfriends about him.

[RevolutionaryActs]

1. No one has ever come on to me.

Maybe they find me oogly? :shrug:


Meh, oh well.

[Midlodemocrat]

41. Nor me. Sigh.

[RevolutionaryActs]

48. Wahhhhhhhhhhhhhh poor us...

want to have a pity party?

:nopity:

[Midlodemocrat]

51. That's okay. I am married in 'real life', so I am only playing on DU!!!

[RevolutionaryActs]

57. Oooooh! CHEATER!

I was serious, no male has ever come onto me in real life, on DU maybe a couple times, but thats just playing.


I'll just go have a one person pity party then...

:nopity:

[Midlodemocrat]

60. Me neither when I was young and single

...but now I am married to the most amazing guy. I think sometimes it doesn't hurt to wait. He is a God. He is kind, thoughtful, generous, etc. I just can't say enough about him, but I was not a 'playa' when I was single.

[RevolutionaryActs]

61. Hmmm, I'll hold out hope then!

hehe :7

[Modem Butterfly]

2. Black men dig me

I'm not sure why. But everytime I go out, I get hit on by black men. I've been in a relationship for ten years, otherwise, I'd take some of them up on the offers.

[jellybelly]

6. Black men are hot! You're lucky!

They barely look at me;( , only white men constantly annoy me, and A LOT of jewish men...some Israel men are so good-looking.

[RevolutionaryActs]

7. Ooooh...

There was this guy in the mall here once, he was from Israel, and he was here selling this stuff from the dead sea for a few weeks... anyway! He was honestly the best looking man I have seen in real life, I mean he was just GORGEOUS! It took all I had to keep from drolling and making an idiot out of myself!

[jellybelly]

8. lucky...

I think Israeli men are the most attractive in the world.
Black Men are next.:)

[RevolutionaryActs]

14. Yeah, there is something about Israeli men,

Oh man. That was the best day of my life though, because the stuff he was selling was this nail care stuff, and to show me what it did, he had to hold my hand.... *dreamy sigh*

OH and the accent, I'm a GIANT sucker for accents!

[KoKo]

17. Oh....I had a guy from Israel...btw from Yemen who was a Dumbek player

and Singer in a Cafe in NYC who was the light of my life...He was "earthy" and "sexy" and had a voice and fingers to "die for." He even made two record albums.

But that was way back for you guys in your 20's and 30's...but OMG talk about SEXY! His voice was enough to have you take your panties off and wave them in public places. :D If you didn't have "panties" he wouldn't have looked at you...he was a little "prim" even though he was a "wild guy." (Chuckles)

[jellybelly]

20. I know the jewish music scene in NYC!

I know the dumbek and tabla players...the jewish bellydancers, they are all amazing!

[KoKo]

33. There were Jews and Arabs at that Cafe and the music was fantastic....

but it's not the "current scene." Still...I wouldn't have missed it for anything....and was glad that I had that time with it!

Thanks!

[Modem Butterfly]

12. Trust me, they're not all hot

But some of these guys have been real keepers. Of course, many of them were definitely throw back.

[Must_B_Free]

22. race has nothing to do with it.

[short bus president]

3. honk! honk!

:D

[liberalhistorian]

4. For some ungodly,

godforsaken reason, I always seem to attract married men, which is an absolute no-no with me.

Now, there are a few DU gentlemen that I wish would come on to me, but I'll be a lady and not drop any names! :evilgrin:

[liberalhistorian]

5. For some ungodly,

godforsaken reason, I always seem to attract married men, which is an absolute no-no with me.

Now, there are a few DU gentlemen that I wish would come on to me, but I'll be a lady and not drop any names! :evilgrin:

[WoodrowFan]

13. I'm flattered, thanks.

:P

[liberalhistorian]

66. LOL!

Sorry, WF, you're my type, especially with the history interest and background, but you're happily married. And, like I said, that's a definite no-no with me! I do have SOME morals and principles, you know! Not many, but some, at least! :evilgrin: :bounce: :bounce:

[KoKo]

9. In NYC...a renowned Psychiatrist who showed up as a 50 Something

Guy...trying to be a Dude coming onto me..because he liked me from a class I audited at the "New School for Social Research" in NYC. The same College that hired former Senator Bob Kerry to be it's head.

Dude wanted to come up to my apartment and probably "rape me"...but I left him off on a street in Greenwich Village. I might have been young and innocent..but had enough "street smarts" to deal. :D

[Merlot]

10. I get the "suits" too

And I can't for the life of me figure out why they'd be attracted to me. On look at me should tell them we have nothing in common.

Oh, and I get the flakes, too. And flakes in suits.

[fluffernutter]

11. i'm sorry, jelly, that bites.

you poor thing, you need some hot hang-loose liberal dudes to hit on you. i wonder why you atract the straight-laced white guys, have they told you? do you dress conservatively for such a youngun?

anyway, you're a good flirt, get your cute butt out there, girl!

...oh, and i somehow atract all types. not sure how or why.

[jellybelly]

16. if you attract them all

it means your gorgeous. I'm jealous:cry:

I don't at all dress conservatively...some men told me I am very intimidating (aren't all liberal women intimidating?:) ) and only repug style men come on to me because they're arrogant.:shrug:

[fluffernutter]

23. huh. that is an interesting theory.

about you being intimidating. could be true. but it means you are seriously beautiful yourself!

and i am not that gorgeous, people tell me it is the way i carry myself, etc., that i am happy and "open" i guess. i'm pretty friendly and smile at people and say hi instead of looking away or whatever. i kinda look like the girl next door unless i get all gussied up ;)

[jellybelly]

25. nice...

you have got to be at least very attractive then...LOL! I am not at all friendly and don't really like talking to strangers so how in the world would any man would find me appealing? Maybe it's the 'hard to get' mentality.:shrug:

[GOPisEvil]

15. Hey!!! There are some liberal tie-wearing men!

Just because I look like a Republican doesn't mean I AM one. :P

[jellybelly]

26. I know...

but these are actual repugs...they think they're gods...They ask me to go out to dinner after 5 minutes of knowing me. Maybe I look slutty.:cry:

[GOPisEvil]

28. I'm sorry to hear that.

There are probably a lot of liberal guys who are too shy to ask you out because of self-esteem issues. </auto-biography>

[jellybelly]

31. no...

a very liberal guy (the one who worked at the 'Village Voice') came up to me at my job and placed a piece of paper in my hand with his number...I didn't call him and he came back the next day and asked me to go to Starbucks. If I told you how it ended you would die laughing.

[GOPisEvil]

34. Oh, I could use a good laugh.

:-)

[jellybelly]

37. it would get deleted...

I didn't 'do' anything. He suggested something and I burst out laughing. He got offended and never called me again. The details are BAD!:-)

[GOPisEvil]

40. I see...

...his loss, though, eh? ;-)

[jellybelly]

42. no

his suggestion wasn't what a normal man would want to do with a woman. Most men would want INTERcontinental...he wanted to have ORALcle...not ORALcle done on him but ORALcle for me...I died laughing....now delete me...sorry mods...:hug:

[GOPisEvil]

43. ooooooohhhhhh...no reciprocation is a HUGE no-no.

If one receives, one must also give.

And that's all I'm going to say about that!

[jellybelly]

44. I didn't give anything...

he wanted to do it for me only...that's why I laughed so much at him and then I said, "yucky, you like doing this to every woman you meet?" that pissed him off:grr:

[GOPisEvil]

45. Ooooooooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh....

I'm going to stop while I'm behind. :dunce:

[jellybelly]

46. and what was even funnier...

when I told my girlfriends, they called me stupid for not letting him do 'that thing' he wanted to do...everyone laughed at me. Every girl said she wished a guy would ask to do 'that' for her...LOL!

[GOPisEvil]

47. Well, it is a good thing for men to do to women...

...but his method for bringing the subject up wasn't a good one.

[jellybelly]

50. I agree. LOL!

especially don't suggest it to a woman after knowing her for 3 hours...she'll think you're a man-slut.

[JimmyJazz]

52. Holy Shit!

I need a cigarette and I don't even smoke! :hi:

[GOPisEvil]

53. I'm glad it was good for you.

:hi:

[jellybelly]

58. that's the end of my rant

thanks for reading:hi:

[GOPisEvil]

59. Any time.

:hi:

[AlienGirl]

18. Mostly 50-ish men in recovery

I seem to have great appeal to middle-aged men who are recovering addicts. :shrug:

Not that there's anything wrong with that.

Tucker

[noshenanigans]

19. Hipster Dorks

If they have shaggy 70s hair, worship the Shins and Franz Ferdinand, have retired their hornrimmed glasses because now they're too emo and passe, and have more than 3 tshirts that bear state mottos or things like "Pilots do it high", then they hit on me.

I'm not complaining, but that's pretty sexy, but it's the "egotism disquised as awareness and sensitivity" that always comes out to bite you in the ass with the hipster guys.

[jellybelly]

21. LOL!

[supernova]

24. Black guys

Seriously. I'm a white woman who is more attractive to african-american men. White guys don't know I exist, but A-A men, bless their hearts. :-) I have no idea why this is. :shrug: It's just something interesting I've noticed.

[Samurai_Writer]

55. Black guys are awesome!

White guys don't give me the time of day, but every black guy I meet hits on me. I have noticed black guys prefer women with some meat on their bones. That might be the reason for me, at least.

[artv28]

65. Black guys

prefer more meat in the booty area.

[supernova]

69. Well, that might be partly it

but I am not overweight. I'm very petite, though. I am, however, very well-puprportioned. Everything looks exactly the right size for my size. ;-)

[jellybelly]

70. lucky girl

I am also petite and if I don't want to put on weight I have to literally starve myself...bad metabolism I guess.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

27. When I was in grad school, I was a nerd magnet

If there was a guy completely lacking in social skills, he would come up and say things like (and I'm not making this up) "Excuse me, but what does the 'Wuthering' in Wuthering Heights mean?"

Now it's married men, especially married men who are married to airheads or to psycho shrews from hell, who come after me, and like liberalhistorian, I don't do adultery. Not even when it's very, very tempting.

[Zeke]

30. Yea, Verily...

A friend of mine if separated from her husband and now she's smooching on a husband separated from his wife.

I told her: that's adultery---quit it.

But my friend won't listen.

[KoKo]

36. ROFL, Lydia....says you are "Timeless".....I know what you say...

(chuckles)

[Left Is Write]

29. None of them.

[Kat45]

32. I can't remember the last time someone came on to me.

:shrug: I'm 49, but look about 10 years younger. But of course, I'm no longer hanging out like I used to. And I rarely even meet single people any more, men or women. Whenever I do meet a man I hit it off with, he's married--and I don't go there.

Actually, I was asked out by a couple of men this year: one was a repub, the other extremely homophobic with other gender issues. :shrug:

[Zeke]

35. Dude!!!!!!!!

The homophobe was probably gay and struggling with it.

Many Repukes are closet gays.

See "Blinded by The Right," by David Brock.

[Kat45]

39. Hey dude, don't call me dude. I ain't a dude. lol!

And I thought the same thing about the homophobe.

[KoKo]

38. Unfortuntately, "hetero females" ...do have to deal with the damned

"gender" issues, today. You meet a great guy...you have sooooooo much in common...a few drinks and whatever...and unless they are "Open/Out" you have to understand they are either a "Bi" or "Closet."

I've never understood why Gay Men can't just tell one "Up Front" about this...it's like they want "both sides," and forget that "gender differences" are very important in "mating."

:shrug: Sometimes DU'ers need to have a "knock down, drag out discussion about this...but with all that's going on with Kerry/Vote...I think it will never come..or have to wait.

I often get very angry at our DU Gays because much of the reality of their "interactions" with other folks gets swept away in the "Political Issues" of "Gay Survival" where the "hetero/gay/by-/ Issues are often fluffed over as if they don't exist in the realm of where they and we need to move ahead???

[LeftPeopleFinishFirst]

49. Short answer: They don't!

Long answer: They don't come on to me... at all.

[SarahB]

54. Let's see...

1. Today at work, a reasonably decent looking man with a medium build, dark hair who stared at me all through lunch, then followed me to the elevator to just say "hello". Nothing wrong with him, but he didn't really strike my fancy either, so a polite brush off.
2.Lots of Alpha male, slick types seem to come onto me a lot, especially married ones. :eyes:
3. Older men.
4. Younger men.
5. Men of various ethnic backgrounds.
6. Cyber men.

I really can't say any specific type of man comes on to me because many have. I'm not very good at flirting back. I can barely smile at anyone I find attractive. I have many walls up. For good reason. I don't think any man (especially ones I don't really know or know well) are flirting with me because they think I have a beautiful mind or soul. In fact, they generally don't even look into my eyes.

[Samurai_Writer]

71. OMG don't you just hate that?!?

Guys staring below the neck, never ONCE meeting your gaze. Like I'd be interested in any guy who objectifies me like that! UGH UGH UGH!

I usually put my hand on their chin and lift their head if they are standing right in front of me and talking to me, and say, "Hey, I'm up HERE!"

[u4ic]

56. I'm a wingnut magnet

Any sort of oddity or freakball and they're after me.

I love the look of guys in suits, but they don't love me.

[tjdee]

62. Overconfident guys who probably drool over Hummers.

The last guy that tried to pick me up, within five minutes had told me how he makes a lot of money, went to a private high school, went to Colgate.... He then pulled out his wallet to prove that he lived in a 'posh' area of Brooklyn.

I don't think I could have been turned off more. I appreciate success and some dollars as much as anyone, but I don't like to have it flaunted or thrown in my face. What kind of women is he meeting that find that attractive?

[jellybelly]

63. he had to have liked you

when a man tries to impress a woman it means he wants to keep her around...I think:shrug:

[tjdee]

67. I know...but he seemed desperate.

I'm not categorically against desperation...and I did talk to him for a while--he just seemed more about impressing me superficially than about trying to connect on a personal level. I felt like he wasn't talking to ME so much as 'this young lady who probably likes X, Y,Z'.

[jellybelly]

68. completely understandable

he had self-esteem issues.

[crispini]

64. Younger men.

I look younger than I am.