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Sun Jan-09-05 03:25 PM
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What vital traits do you look for in a mate? |
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My top 2: Compassion, and a sense of humor.
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Sun Jan-09-05 03:26 PM
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1. She needs to be able to laugh at the world |
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Sun Jan-09-05 03:28 PM
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2. Eccentric, fearless, a grasp of the absurd, and a large nose. |
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Sun Jan-09-05 03:29 PM
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Sun Jan-09-05 03:31 PM
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4. Anyone who can tolerate me. |
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Oh, "eternally single" is more than just a cute comment.
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Sun Jan-09-05 03:31 PM
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though I'll take a vegetarian :)
And I need a person that can laugh at pretty much everything. A bit of wide-eyed wonder and awe at the world helps, but I provide enough to warm even the most cynical of hearts ;)
I like a "thinker," too. Doesn't have to be a genius, but someone who lets those gears in their head turn a few cranks a day.
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Sun Jan-09-05 03:33 PM
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My number is 555-1212. Call me. ;)
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Sun Jan-09-05 03:36 PM
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but I'm afraid I'd just get a whole lotta information, and not a lot of substance. On the plus side, I could get the phone number to that restaurant down the road. ;)
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Sun Jan-09-05 03:33 PM
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j/k
Liberal, kind, activist, artistic, approx the same age-range.
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Sun Jan-09-05 03:57 PM
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Liberal, kind, activist, artistic, approx the same age-range.
How old are you? 54 here!
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Mon Jan-10-05 09:54 AM
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Edited on Mon Jan-10-05 09:54 AM by brainshrub
Sorry.
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:03 PM
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19. Oh a reptiphobe, huh? |
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Until you've dated someone with a forked tongue, you don't know what you're missing :P
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Sun Jan-09-05 03:35 PM
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8. funny, sexual, a reader, likes wine, non whiney voice, likes spending |
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Sun Jan-09-05 03:36 PM
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9. Hmm. Is this a dating thread in disguise? |
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Sun Jan-09-05 03:42 PM
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11. Yes, i'm making notes. |
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Sun Jan-09-05 03:45 PM
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1. Smart (progressive thinker along with that) and funny (but not in a loud, obnoxious way) 2. Non substance user (I can take occasional drinker, that's it.) and preferably not someone in recovery- just someone for whom that isn't an issue period 3. Compassionate and ethical 4. Feminist 5. Physically and emotionally strong 6. Male (since I'm heterosexual) 7. Willing to explore things in a monogamous sense
Maybe a lot to ask for, but it's not anymore than I can give myself, so I think it's fair. I suppose I have physical preferences too, but those are negotiable. The other stuff isn't.
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:10 PM
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22. Is your nose larger than normal? |
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:18 PM
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28. Oh well. Can't have everything, I suppose. |
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(that was sarcasm and not meant to dismissive or arrogant)
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Mon Jan-10-05 10:18 AM
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58. You, sir, are guilty of bigotry towards necrophiliacs. (nt) |
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Sun Jan-09-05 03:59 PM
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:00 PM
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well letsee...Sense of humour. Sense of what is truth. Not a projector. Fit. Non-smoker (tobacco). Little or no meat eating. Usually younger than me. Not super sports oriented. Herb-friendly, little drink OK. Not an egomaniacal assclown. Not the seething anger type, nor the type to demand for others what he does not even remotely offer himself. Not a project. Taller than me. A lefty-politically-handedness no matter, and long as he's good with 'em:evilgrin:
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:00 PM
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17. If you "get" me, then you've got me |
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Being cute really helps things move along
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Sun Jan-09-05 05:28 PM
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45. Are you complex, like quantum physics or differential calculus? |
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Sun Jan-09-05 07:54 PM
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50. I dunno, I'll get back to you on that one |
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:02 PM
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2-Sense of humor 3-Intelligent 4- Someone who is comfortable with themselves, doesn't feel the need to follow the pack, independent. 5- Sensitive and able to show emotions.
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:14 PM
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24. empathy? What's that? |
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:16 PM
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Edited on Sun Jan-09-05 04:22 PM by buddhamama
with you, you cold hearted mean SOB :-)
I'd like find someone who is capable of empathy toward others.
definition: Identification with and understanding of another's situation, feelings, and motives.
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:06 PM
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20. chemistry, intelligence, innate compassion, good sense of humor, |
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Edited on Sun Jan-09-05 04:07 PM by fluffernutter
ambition, good sense of self, open-minded and a quiet strength.
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:09 PM
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21. Money...Money...Money... |
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and moe Money and when he leaves, don't get mad, get it all...
Ivana Trump.
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:12 PM
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23. Intelligence is a must... |
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As is a sense of humor...
An appreciation for art/ creativeness is also gladly welcome...
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:16 PM
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26. A huge sense of humor |
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doesn't mind getting teased is very relaxed not weird mean and rude (sometimes those traits are necessary:shrug: )
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:47 PM
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Edited on Sun Jan-09-05 04:47 PM by Longgrain
Except I'm weird...:P
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:50 PM
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:P I like men who pick fights over nothing. It's very entertaining:silly:
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:53 PM
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35. Truthfully...I'm very slow to anger. |
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I'm usually a very calm and patient person...
I like women who try to get me angry...it pisses me off! :mad:
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Sun Jan-09-05 05:17 PM
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38. hee hee ha ha ah ha *choking* ha hee hee |
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Well, you like to eat ice cream!:grr: I'm sure that pissed you off:grr:
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Sun Jan-09-05 05:18 PM
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39. I like anything smooth and creamy... |
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Sun Jan-09-05 05:19 PM
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41. that's sounds like kinky sex talk |
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:grr:
I mean
:scared:
oops...
:hi:
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Sun Jan-09-05 05:22 PM
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43. I'm choking on jellybeans now as I speak |
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ack-ack
:coughs out big mouthful of jelly:
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Sun Jan-09-05 05:29 PM
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:wow:
I never made anyone choke...(my imagination is running wild...GROSS!)
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:42 PM
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The size of their...................................
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:43 PM
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:45 PM
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31. respirations and a pulse |
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oh wait, those are vital signs not traits
:hurts:
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Sun Jan-09-05 04:48 PM
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33. I completely agree with your top two traits. |
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Sun Jan-09-05 05:13 PM
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36. I think I'm compiling a checklist: 10 points too many? |
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Edited on Sun Jan-09-05 05:20 PM by tjdee
on edit: Wow, I could see how this would read as really frightening!
I'll be thirty in a few years, and I have gone years figuring that it's pointless to have criteria because it's limiting, blah blah blah.
I was wrong.
So, besides the "has to like me and be nice";
1-Must be not even a little bit Republican, and must know enough to know why not.
2-Someone who is patient and considerate, who doesn't curse in his car/at waiters/when he's fixing something. Maybe he can even joke about it. I like funny.
3-Must like all kind of films, or at least be open to seeing different kinds. That includes the Spongebob film and Chicken Little.
4-Must like his mother and immediate family(unless he has a very good reason).
5-Must be reasonably healthy mentally. This also includes excessive drinking, drug usage, etc. Jury's still out on how I feel about depression meds, etc. I don't know.
6-Has to at least like kids and animals, even if he doesn't want to be around them every second (as I do have one of each).
7-Must be tolerant of my extremely liberal Christianity--he doesn't have to be one. Would be nice if he was spiritual in some way.
8-Must be tolerant of my talking about celebrities as if I knew them, and my dirty dirty old woman affection for Jamie Bell. Among others.
9-Has to be within 6-7 years of me either way. I have too much baggage for an 18 year old (unless he is Jamie Bell) and am too immature for someone over 40 (unless he is Bono).
10-Must be empathetic and want the best for people everywhere. Unless they do something horrible to me, in which case will stomp ass in a way that is deeply impressive to all present.
Bonus points for not caring about how long winded I am :scared:
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Sun Jan-09-05 05:15 PM
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37. A job, a phone and a checkbook |
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Sun Jan-09-05 05:19 PM
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they HAVE to have nipples
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Sun Jan-09-05 05:20 PM
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42. Luckily, 9 out of 10 people are born with them! |
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Sun Jan-09-05 05:41 PM
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49. I have nipples, big boy! |
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Edited on Sun Jan-09-05 05:42 PM by Gothic Sponge
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Sun Jan-09-05 05:33 PM
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Intelligence, a good sense of humor and a similar outlook on life in general as I. Basically, someone I simply enjoy being around, anytime or anywhere.
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Sun Jan-09-05 07:55 PM
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51. Intelligence and compassion. |
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There are more than two though.
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Sun Jan-09-05 08:03 PM
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...prioritized variously.
But I must add that he needs to have worked thru most of his adolescent issues and retained the childlike spontaneity. I met someone who could be perfect, but he's too irresponsible (and I don't just mean his job doesn't measure up or he doesn't own a villa.)
Being somewhat together does matter, my dears--something I didn't care so much about when I was younger. But after dealing with the roller coaster that was my ex-husband, I just can't muster that energy ever again!
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1. Ability to see me not as a work of art but a work in progress
2. Wanting to explore sexually
3. A woman who makes me feel that I'm the only one in the world
4. Someone who'll share her life with me, but not just dump her problems on my shoulders and leave.
I'm still waiting.......
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Sun Jan-09-05 09:52 PM
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54. Can't describe it--I know it when I see / experience it (nt) |
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Edited on Sun Jan-09-05 09:52 PM by jpgray
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Mon Jan-10-05 10:15 AM
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56. After 2 long, failed marriages, I'm pretty picky. |
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It's a good thing I'm fine on my own:
First trait, non-negotiable: honest and trustworthy
Other important traits:
*Intelligent, thinking, open-minded
*An environmental and social conscience
*Independent and good self-esteem; doesn't need a mommy, a maid, a cook, or an ego-booster
*strong, kind, and gentle; not aggressive; empathetic; peace loving
*not a "city" person; prefers quiet and wide-open spaces to crowds and noise and city entertainment
*able to give an introverted partner necessary space
*loyal, faithful, reliable
*values all living things/ecosystems
*non-aggressive experience with horses, or at least open to learning
*likes dogs, cats, etc.; not allergic to them
*doesn't need to establish himself as the "master" of people or pets
*will do the driving when we go places together
*can be patient and caring with my family, flawed as they are
I'm sure I could go on, but that's a good start.
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Mon Jan-10-05 10:17 AM
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57. I will share the characteristics of my mate |
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1) She is very hot
2) She is very smart
3) She has an eclectic personality.
4) She can kick my ass using ka-ra-te.
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