Need input re: loud neighbor . . .

[ET Awful]

Okay, now this neighbor is very friendly on her face, but . . .

She has parties. Not parties with loud music, but parties with a dozen family members and friends all talking over each other and echoing into my apartment so loudly that it seems like I'm in the same room with them.

She does this at a minimum of once a month.

So, last night, she does it again, so I bang on the wall to get her to quiet down. What does she do? She sends her fricking son (who is apparently one of the guests) over to ask me what the problem is. So, I politely explain to the son that this is an apartment complex, not a college dorm, and he starts bitching at me for being upset about how obnoxious and loud his mother is. Then he goes back next door, and the volume of the bickering, yelling and out-talking each other increases. This goes on until damned near midnight.

So tell me, what would you do? Does it sound insane to go to a landlord and complain about a neighbor that is making too much noise when they don't even have a stereo or TV on?

[Darth_Kitten]

1. Cripes, NO!!!!

They seem to deliberately get louder, too....I have neighbours that have people over and then seem to congregate in the halls and yak yak yak...noise is NOISE, complain.

I don't like that "intimidation" factor either, the cowardly @#$@# sends her son over?

It doesn't sound insane, very normal.

YOU are paying the rent, not the idiots she calls family.

[Guaranteed]

2. Your neighbors give us loud people a bad name.

I'd never had a problem with my neighbor before last weekend, and without even asking us to quiet down they called the cops on us.

If they'd just told us we were being loud, we would most definitely had quieted down. I'm sorry your neighbors are dicks.

[Cuban_Liberal]

3. Talk to your landlord,and if that doesn't work, call the police.

The legal term for what she is doing is called 'disorderly conduct'; you, as a tenant, have an enforcable legal right to the 'quiet use and enjoyment' of your premises, and your neighbor is violating that right.

You have tried the 'neighbor to neighbor' approach, and that hasn't worked; it's now time to assert your right--- and don't back down.

[wicket]

12. I second this...

[Book Lover]

22. I third it

Worked for me....

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

29. Did you just take Property, perchance?

Good job!

[gonefishing]

4. Move to a house!

[ET Awful]

11. Gee, that was helpful.

Not possible, sorry.

[gonefishing]

16. Sorry if the truth hurts...

Half of my adult life I have lived in apartments and the other half I have been lived in houses. The only way I was able to solve my problems was to move to a house. IMHO, stopping noisy neighbors and living in an apartment are diametrically opposed forces. You will someday learn this.

[ET Awful]

18. And perhaps someday you will realize that living in a house

isn't an option for everyone, especially when you live in an area where rent is prohibitively expensive for an apartment, let alone a house. It would cost 3 times as much to rent a house, if not more.

So, when my income triples, or I'm in a position to purchase a home, which is out of the question at this time, I might consider it, until then, your reply is pretty much worthless.

And, by the way, I've lived in apartments for over 15 years, and this is the first time I've had a neigbhor that was exceedingly noisy. So give your preaching a rest, I don't want to hear it and it doesn't help.

[gonefishing]

20. Sorry Again...

Since you allocated time to respond to both of my replies I will take that as an invitation to preach again. You totally missed my point. You can't fix it. Banging on the walls will not work (A fifteen year veteran should know that already). Calling the police will make it worse and getting them evicted might get you someone a lot worse (been there). Your 15 years of luck has run out bud. If you can't move to a house deal with it and stop whinning...

[ET Awful]

21. LOL . . . you certainly are a sanctimonious little thing aren't ya?

Odd that you're the only one here making ignorant suggestions with no possibility of working.

Actually, it's probably more that you're a person like my neigbhor who thinks that being an incosiderate ass is acceptable?

[gonefishing]

26. I agree

My suggestion was a lot worse than the voodoo or turning up the stereo!

BTW: I am not like your neighbor. I live in a house!

[Enraged_Ape]

28. I gotta back up gonefishing on this one. Get some sort of "house".

Even the cheapest, shittiest freestanding trailer is better than the best apartment, particularly if you value your rest, sanity, and paycheck (you can build up equity and get a tax deduction for the interest on your mortgage).

I suffered from terrible sleeping problems for years while I lived in apartments in L.A. and Dallas. I never thought I'd sleep a wink, until I sucked up the expense and bought myself a humble little place on the edge of town. It is so quiet at night you could hear a leaf fall here, and I sleep like a baby.

As long as you live in an apartment, you will be doomed to noise. Unless your apartment's in a monastery, there just ain't no gettin' around it.

[tsakshaug]

5. Invite landlord over

next time she has a "get together"
You won't be believed otherwise.

Get invited to the get togethers?

[BBradley]

6. Have you considered voodoo?

[BiggJawn]

7. Call the Cops.

Hopefully, they'll quiet things down instead of Tasing you for disturbing their donut break.

[GOPisEvil]

8. One of the things you pay rent for is to have your landlord deal

with this kind of thing. That's their job. Let them handle it.

[sniffa]

9. i usuaLLy skip the LandLord

and go straight to the poLice.

otherwise, i suggest Lighting a bag of poop on fire in front of her door. that'LL teach her!

[ET Awful]

10. The flaming poop, while tempting, is not practical, the entrances

to the apartments are inside, thus flaming feces runs the risk of burning the whole building down, a decidedly undesirable result :)

[sniffa]

13. and worse

you'd be probabLy charged with acts of terror under the patriot act.

so yeah, probabLy not a good idea.

[Enraged_Ape]

14. Call the cops. I'm serious about this. Read my story.

I had this same problem in Dallas. I had noisy neighbors like you wouldn't believe. It seemed like their parties always lasted from dusk all the way through dawn, and repeated pleadings from me accomplished jack. As I was a physical therapy student at the time, I really was in no mood for that shit.

"Somebody" eventually called the cops. Imagine my surprise the next day when I came home from class and found three cop cars outside my apartment. Some Asian gang was running a BROTHEL in that apartment next door!

Needless to say, I didn't have noise problems from then on. Even other noisy neighbors quieted down after that.

[z-man]

25. Wow. That's an incredible story!

:wow:

[shesemsmom]

15. I had a paid visit with my attorney/ friend yesterday for this very same

problem. We live in a mobile home in a park so we rent the lot. We have a lease. We have had an on going problem with one neighbor and his family for noise, trash piled up literally 16 feet wide and 6 feet high. No joking I have pictures. This man has felony charges for threats and intimidations, and concealed weapons, yet after a criminal back ground check was allowed to move in. He has threatened each of us with a ass kicking, this also includes our then 15 year old Daughter. We have made numerous complaints to the police and filed reports. We have also made written complaints to the manager to which we received a letter from her stating that she is not the mayor here and she had no intention of doing anything. We have a lease that states that all the above violations including intimidation and threats would not be tolerated. The attorney says that state law says the lease is just as binding to us as well as her. That the law also states that we are entitled to reasonable enjoyment of our premises without interference from the neighbors and she must enforce it.She also invited us to leave if not happy and she made a BIG mistake there. Good luck, check into it. It might be worth your while.

[bif]

17. I'd give them one warning

and tell them they have to keep it quiet after say 10:30 on a weeknight or you'll call the cops. If they do it aqgain, call the cops and let them deal with it. They'll hate you but who cares.

[Arkana]

19. Shit no

I'd have complained the first time it happened.

[warrens]

23. You have a stereo

Use it

[ET Awful]

24. Not that I haven't been tempted, but . . .

That would piss of the neighbor on the other side, and I don't want to do that, he's been pretty cool.

[skygazer]

27. I would first complain to the landlord

You did the right thing by trying to solve the problem directly but that obviously didn't work. Next step is to involve the landlord and if that doesn't make any impact, the police are next in line.

Inconsiderate people really annoy me.