What do you make of this reaction by my fundy chorus director?

[Ladyhawk]

I skipped chorus last semester because I just couldn't face one more fundy who voted for the weed. I was going to try to find a different chorus, but decided 1) I didn't have the funds to make a two-hour drive every week, 2) my spine wouldn't like that kind of excitement.

So, I'm back in the fundy's chorus. We used to be good friends, but I've lost a helluva lot of respect for him. Big deal. There are some really good liberals in that chorus who go to the peace vigils and understand what's going on. (I'm also taking voice, which is a bit more personal, but I'm doing it for me. Spending so much time alone has made my voice lose its stamina.)

Anyway, he approached me and shook my hand really firmly. I shook back just as firmly then looked hard into his eyes. He looked hard into mine. I don't remember who broke eye contact first, but it was weird. In my mind I was thinking, "I'm not afraid of you crazy fundies, anymore. And I don't have to put up with your shit. You've probably heard all about how I've cut off family ties and you're checking me for weakness. I'm doing just fine, thank you."

What went on?

Was it a way of showing he cared? Or was he looking for weakness?

[candy]

1. Good Lord! I'm at a loss for words! n/t

[Straight Shooter]

2. He was glad to see you back.

Suppressing his emotions, but it came out in his handshake. I think he probably wanted to give you a big hug.

IMHO.

[Ladyhawk]

3. This is possible. He probably doesn't understand.

He broke a promise, though--an important promise. I told him up front: NO PROSELYTIZING! Fundies can't NOT proselytize. It's like a disease that self-propogates.

Kind of sad. :(

[LoZoccolo]

4. He was probably wondering why you were looking hard into his eyes.

After the "probably heard" part (he probably didn't), he probably thought you're crazy.

Hey, you asked.

[LoZoccolo]

5. Sorry, I didn't read hard enough.

I didn't see you were thinking those things. I guess that's better.

[AwakeAtLast]

6. I'll give you my husband's answer.

"He was trying not to stare at your boobs."

If he were my husband, that would be what happened. :shrug:

[hickman1937]

7. He believes that God has chosen *

He probably missed you, and is trying to see if you will settle down now and just do the music. Lies and betrayal mean nothing to them because their all going to heaven for being anti-abortion. Ethics, honesty, kindness, all signs of a baby killing liberal. Be proud of it, and never trust him.

[Ladyhawk]

8. I've felt a lot of sadness over some of my recent relationship adjustments

I've finally learned I can't be close to fundies. Maybe somebody else can talk to these fundies, but I dare not. They have no respect for me anyway.

Sad stuff, but my counselor told me, "You seem so much better since you told your mother goodbye." I think he's right.

When enough time elapses, I might be able to see her on a casual basis--as long as the boundaries are in place. :)

[hickman1937]

9. Good for you

My mom died before I could get the courage to ask her why my role in her life was to disappear. Funny thing was, once I carved out a life where I didn't need her for anything, she wanted to be my best friend. Go figure. I've got no answers.