HELP Please!

[bush_is_wacko]

I have posted this in the parenting forum but no one seems to be home. I need an answer and you are just as reasonable here as anywhere else on this website. Here's the problem...

Hi everyone, I normally don't post here but you guys seem to have such good ideas I thought I'd ask an opinion. My son (11) had a friend ride home on the bus with him today. I have never met, nor spoken to this kids Mom. The kid has given me no instructions with regards to time when his Mom wants him home and the mother NEVER called me. He is asking me to drop him off at another kid from my son's schools house so he can go out with this kid. I have told him to call his mother and that I will ONLY bring him to his house, not this other kids house. He is now obviously stalling me and says his mother is not home. I REFUSE to drop him anywhere but HOME. Am I CRAZY?

[auntAgonist]

1. you are NOT crazy.

Stick to your 'gut feeling'.


Kid call home, talk to mom. Drive him to mom's only.

[redqueen]

2. No, you're not crazy.

I'd do the same...

[HEAVYHEART]

3. No you're not crazy

You're doing the right thing. If the mother is not home, tough titties. I would do the same with my 11 yr old.

[alittlelark]

4. Weird situation - home only...

have him dial up his mom.

[greatauntoftriplets]

5. Agree with the two posters above me....

and I suspect the kid might be trying to pull a fast one on his mother. His whole story sounds a bit weird.

[bigwillq]

6. I would only take him home

Wait until you get in touch with the Mom.


BTW, you are not crzy!:)

[mojavekid]

7. You did the right thing.

Ask him for his number and call his Mother if this makes you uncomfortable.

[OhioBlue]

8. absolutely not crazy.

sounds like he's playing you. Find out his mom's number and call her. If she is not home, find out where she is and try to contact her there. Also, find out what time she will be home. Last resort may be to call the child's parents where the kid wants to be dropped off next. Maybe they have a good relationship with this kid's parents and can shed some light on the situation for you.

[Bouncy Ball]

9. I'd feel the same as you.

I'd have to talk to mom first. Absolutely. I wouldn't drop him at ANOTHER kid's house, either.

[bush_is_wacko]

15. THANK YOU EVERYBODY!

I have been accused of being a little overprotective at times, but I cannot believe people parent this way. BTW, just spoke to Mom, she is coming here to pick him up. My son is going to have a HUGE lecture about this. Mom claims he kid does this kind of stuff all the time. Apparently, it is okay with her. I am virtually speechless!

[politicaholic]

10. Yup, this kid is hiding something, question him, but don't scare him.

The best thing to do is wait him out and take him directly home if he tries to leave alone.

[Mabus]

11. You're not crazy

You sound like you're doing a good job.

[Megahurtz]

12. Hell no

don't take him where he wants to go!

It's home only.

[Groggy]

13. No

You are absolutely right!

[sandnsea]

14. The concensus is

you're not crazy. Home he goes.

[Book Lover]

16. You are the sane one

and the kids the nut for thinking he'd get you to fall for this. Good luck.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

17. Talk with him...

No, I don't think you're crazy; but it'd be a good idea to make sure he isn't in some kind of abusive situation at home, if possible.

It's more likely that he's trying to pull the wool over his mom's eyes, but it can't hurt to talk with him and find out what's up.

[Rabrrrrrr]

18. Keep him with you until you can contact his mom or dad

Feed him, love him, make your home his home.

Who the hell knows what's really up? He might need a real parent for an evening.

Bizarre.

[Pithlet]

19. No, you aren't crazy.

Stick to your guns on this one. Either his mother is crazy with worry, or is the type that doesn't keep close tabs on her kids. Either way, you don't know. 11 years old is too young to be out and about and your parents not knowing where you are. Yikes!

Edit: I just saw your update. I'm glad things worked out. I can't imagine a parent being okay with that kind of thing. My kids are still little, so it's hard for me to imagine anyway, but I can't imagine not knowing where my kids are.

[bush_is_wacko]

20. MET MOM...It gets weirder...

Mom is a single mother of IDENTICAL TWIN BOYS. Apparently, these boys do this kind of stuff all the time. I feel really bad that she has to endure this kind of stuff. Her "boys are a little out of hand." Mom would have been okay with it "if his grades weren't down." I feel stupid for not realizing this a long time ago. One of the boys, I'm not sure which one at this point, tried to convince me his mom was taking my son her son and one other boy to the movies. Because I hadn't spoken with Mom, my husband and I decided we wanted to go to the movies. No happy faces when my son showed up with Mom and Dad. My son is now officially allowed playtime with THIS/THESE friends at school only. He's not very happy with me about this, but I guess he'll have to get over it.

[auntAgonist]

21. you did the right thing!

Glad it worked out. We truly can't be too careful when it comes to 'our' kids.

aA