Beat this for a pathetic date tonight

[Philosophy]

I get to go dancing tonight with this girl I like who I asked out last week but she stood me up and went partying with some other friends instead, one of whom she now calls her new "boyfriend", who she just called to tell me will also be with us on our makeup date tonight.

Now how embarrassing will it be if she stands us both up this time? :evilfrown:

[Taverner]

1. Get out of it!

If ever a situation called for a quick evacuation and a few wee drams tthis is it!

[EstimatedProphet]

2. Stand her up instead

She's clearly playing you. Tell her you'll meet her and go somewhere else.

[Guaranteed]

6. Yes. In fact, hire a REALLY hot prostitute to pose as YOUR

new girlfriend, and tell her that it's "just not going to work out tonight. I'll give you a call later."

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

3. You need to start looking for a woman

someone who understands how feelings can be hurt by such behavior. For what it's worth, this girl isn't worth your time. She's immature and not empathetic at all. Look around-some of the less popular girls may not look as pretty as girls like this one, but their hearts are often big, and they understand all too well what it means to be pushed aside for someone else. Someone like that is sitting in your town right now, wishing to be asked to go out dancing. Make her day-and yours-by finding her.

[tjdee]

15. Less popular girls can be pretty too!

I wasn't as popular as some in high school, but I was a damn sight better looking than at least two or three of them. I just didn't bother to spend an hour on clothes to make my boobs like good, a half hour to give my hair that "just out of bed" look, and another half hour on making my makeup look natural.

:shrug:

[Bunny]

4. Oh dear God, you're not actually going, are you?

She's bringing her NEW DATE? On YOUR makeup date? :crazy:

[Guaranteed]

7. He better not!

Dude, I swear I'll kick your ass, I'll be SO fucking embarassed for my gender!! :P

[Bunny]

11. I'll be right behind you for the ass-kickin', should you need it.

And I'm embarrassed for my gender, for pulling a stunt like this.

[tjdee]

30. I know, who IS this girl?

Who does that, anyway?

[Philosophy]

12. I'm thinking about going

It would be too easy to just ditch her in return. If I go theres a chance I can make the whole situation as complete disaster to teach her a lesson. Could be fun!

[EstimatedProphet]

13. Dude, how do you ditch her if SHE'S NOT WITH YOU?

Seriously, stand her up instead.

[Guaranteed]

16. Don't make excuses. Ditch her in the WORST POSSIBLE way

that you can think of.

Make it HURT.

[Bunny]

20. I'm curious as to what your plan is.

I can't see any way that you can make this a complete disaster for her. But, if you're going to go, make the best of it!!

[crispini]

5. Well, I don't HAVE a date tonight.

Instead, myself and one of my mother's friends (who is actually also one of my friends) are going to a Scottish dancing class because we are going to a wedding in New York in the spring of one of our mutual friends, who is a big fan of Scottish dancing, and will have only Scottish dancing at the reception, so we must learn Scottish dancing in order to enjoy ourselves at the wedding.

So is that more lame? Do I win? :7

and PS. you should definitely stand her up, as the other posters are saying.

[benny05]

8. Get on ABC's "the Bachelor "

You can find better dates there. This lady is not even willing to be a friend if this is her tactic.

[tjdee]

9. Why are you going? She obviously sees you as only a friend...?

If I was hot for some guy, I'd want to be alone with him...not bring another guy along.

Meanwhile, I bet there's some poor girl who really digs you, who you inadvertently snub so you can go out and be sloppy seconds with this girl who clearly loves being the center of everyone's attention.

:grr:

[Philosophy]

14. But if I go I can screw things up for that other guy too

It's time I use my powers for evil instead of good.

[Taverner]

17. Nah, trust me best to just get away

If you want revenge, do it at a later date.

[tjdee]

18. She obviously doesn't dig that other guy too hard either.

Is she really attractive?

I can't imagine you're going through with this for someone who looks like Whoopi Goldberg, for example.

Maybe when she goes to the bathroom you can both look at each other and go "What the fuck?"?

[Guaranteed]

22. Don't say that.

Now he's going to latch onto it and go out with her anyway.

Dude- she's abusing you. She's obviously not diggin' ya. She's using you to make herself look good to the other guy. (Sorry to be nasty- this is for your own good, seriously).

The best thing you can do is make her look bad by turning her down and telling her you're going out with someone else.

[tjdee]

23. Of course she's using him. And the other guy.

This is all about her.

And obviously some guys put up with that, and wonder why "all women are bitches". Philosophy, even if you "win" her, she's shown herself here to be self-centered and insensitive. She must be really hot.

I too am curious what exactly the plan is here, to "teach her a lesson". Seems she's teaching both of them a lesson already.

[Philosophy]

24. We've been good friends for 6 months

So obviously I do like something about her, and I thought she liked me too. It would be hard to just give all that up.

[Guaranteed]

25. Consider this a sharp reprimand, not the end (of the friendship).

I'm telling you, don't do it.

She had a date with you, and broke it. Now she's gone and done this. Tell her to forget it.

My girlfriend wants to add this:

This really isn't the kind of girl that you should consider for anything other than that friendship you enjoyed. If she can dismiss you so easily now don't feel that it will ever be any harder for her.

[bettyellen]

35. Listen to the Looney... You're never gonna get better treatment from this

chick.... she's showing you her colors.
Friends for six months? I've had guys hang out longer than that waiting to take a shot at me. And while I wish I coulda saved them the hangout w/ Betty time, but I don't like being presumptuous. But something nice woulda happened much earlier than six months if I was interested. She's an egomaniac, and possibly a drama queen. You can't trump a pro like that on a Saturday night in a public place. Dude, you are going to be squuashed.
Oh man. it's like watching a train wreck.

[Guaranteed]

40. Yup. Train wreck. 137 dead.

Brutal. :)

[Philosophy]

41. I know she's a drama queen

And perhaps a little bit insane. So am I. This is one of the reasons I am attracted to her. The unavoidable train wreck would almost be worth it just to experience that level of drama. My real life is so boring.

[bettyellen]

43. no babe, because you are the one tied to the tracks here....

please just get drunk and start your own drama.
at least it'll be all yours!

[Guaranteed]

45. Dude, can you at least tell us that you're not going?

Please?

This is really killing me. It's making me sick to think that you're actually going to let her do this to you.

[Philosophy]

58. I still haven't decided - here's my three best plans so far

A. Show up. Shake the "boyfriend"'s hand. Grab the girl and kiss her hello, using plenty of tongue. If the boyfriend objects, punch him in the head. Walk out.

B. Don't show up. Go to this other bar next door to my place. Get wasted. Pick up a one of the "regular" girls that hangs out there. If the girl calls my cell wondering where I am, let the girl I just picked up talk and tell her she's my new "girlfriend". Take my new girlfriend home and have some fun.

C. These aren't necessarily mutually exclusive, so first do plan A, followed by plan B.

What could go wrong?

[Guaranteed]

66. Plan B, definitely. And leave now.

Maybe you can be back at your place with another woman by the time she shows up! :)

[EstimatedProphet]

72. No, I disagree

It isn't fair to someone else to pick them up for the purpose of using them.
Dude, just don't go. Publicly tell everyone within earshot what a complete waste of time she is and how she uses everyone around her as furniture. You're not going to make an impression on her because she's the only one that makes an impression on her. Best you can do is wake up people around her.

[bettyellen]

67. she could shove you away and remind you that she just told ya, the other

guy is her boyfriend.
go for plan b. don't get so wasted that you can't remember if you actually liked the girl the next day.
and if you tell any girls this story, do not admit for a minute you were going to go on this "date" or whatever it might be. you might be able to parlay it into a little sympathy nookie, but not if you admit you were almost a doormat for the bitch from hell.

[Philosophy]

70. Parlay this sob story into sympathy nookie - awesome!

OK this is definitely my plan now. Gotta make something good out of this situation.

My "date" is supposed to call me in a couple of hours to finalize our meeting time. Should I even take the call?

[Guaranteed]

73. Absolutely not. Go get another chick at the bar, bring her home.

Don't even think about the Succubus, and maybe you'll get lucky and she'll show up at your place when you've got another chick with you.

[bettyellen]

89. I can twist any story into nookie bait.....

[Hissyspit]

51. Philo, Don't You Think...?

Don't you think standing her up and then seeing what happens later would be interesting? Yu get your self-respect and a learning experience, too. (See my posting #42)

[bettyellen]

68. Listen to Hissy... that's the only way to deal with this in a grown up

way, except i get the feeling it's a waste of time with this chick.
but if you want to still be friends/ give her the benefit of the doubt combine this with plan B!

[FizzFuzz]

86. hi there, I'll stick my nose in, and say abusive people can be soo allurin

g.

I've done it myself in the past. People that play emotional games with you can suck you in like a Hoover....and they'll do worse later. She's looking to see how much manipulation she can do on you. She's getting a buzz off of you. And you're getting a buzz off the manipulation, seeing if you can beat her at her game.

I second tjdee, Looney's and bettyellen's good advice here. Pay attention to the red flags now, or you will be sooooo freaking sorry later.

But dang, those abusive people, they're like crack for the lovelorn. I hope you can put the crackpipe down now before you
need an intervention......


OK, that's my 2 cents. Hope it's alright with you all, me being a sort of stranger dropping in like this.

[tjdee]

28. But look at what her behavior is saying. And I feel bad saying that.

It makes more sense now (I read the original message as saying you casually knew her for a shorter period of time).

Yeah, it is hard to give all that up. You can still be friends with her, but her behavior is saying clear as day "I HAVE A NEW BOYFRIEND WHO IS NOT YOU, BUT WE CAN ALL GO OUT TOGETHER". Do you like how that sounds? How are you going to feel if she starts kissing this guy in front of you?

I know you hope anyway. Hope is a piece of shit emotion sometimes.

on edit: And what, you don't want to stay here with all of us?? What are you, crazy??

[Guaranteed]

29. Sometimes revenge is better.

This is one of those situations.

Philosophy, I have so much invested in you now, if you do this, you're really going to let me down. :)

[tjdee]

34. Well, if I knew more about this "PLAN", I might consider it.

I mean, what is he going to do? Get drunk and tell the other guy that they screw like rabbits? Tell the other guy she eats bugs?

The thing about revenge is that the perpetrator ends up spending MORE of his/her emotional capital on someone who doesn't really give a shit--or will end up hating you, which isn't what he's going for I don't think?

Man, I'm going to be thinking about this all night!

[Guaranteed]

36. Well, what I mean by revenge is embarassing her by not

even showing up.

No need for any kind of notice, either.

[bettyellen]

38. Best plan, listen to the Goose. Just don't show, don't call......nada.

[Philosophy]

44. If I don't show up she'll think I'm afraid of her boyfriend

I have a rep to keep up - I already scared her last boyfriend away a couple of months ago because he was jealous of our relationship.

[Guaranteed]

49. No, dude, they'll just think you have better things to do. nt

[bettyellen]

53. WTF??? Why does this have anything to do with any body scaring anyone??

is this 2,000 BC and somebody's going to drag her off by the hair? She bullying you in to watching her date someone else??
If you go, you have exactly five minutes to go talk to/ dance with another girl, do you understand???!! Five minutes and then you are gone. Just disappear.
Skittles and I are coming after you if you actually are nice to this chick!!

[Hissyspit]

55. Listen To Miss bettyellen, My Son...

She is the Font of Wisdom

[Guaranteed]

57. Philosophy, this is the crux of it:

If you go out with her, she will LOSE respect for you, and you will not have even the slightest chance of being with her.

If you WANT to be with her, turn her down. This is what you must do.

[bettyellen]

62. Exactly, it's possible that she may regain some respect for you, but not

you go out with them both tonight.
Why don't you counteroffer and make it clear the dude is not invited. No one will think you're scared of him then?

[bettyellen]

59. thank you, i try. i've been bitchy myself, but this girl has some stones.

her boyfriend is going to think he's scared, or she is?
who gives a fuck what they think! jeeze!

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

61. Do you care more about if she 'thinks you're afraid of her boyfriend' or

the way that you will feel if you are sitting there as a 3d wheel, jealous and humiliated if they are there making out or whatever right in front of you?

[bettyellen]

65. And you know that's going to happen.......

and that she's going to get off on it. Oh yuck!!

[Hissyspit]

42. Self-Respect

Well, she treated you like dirt and you still want to give her the benefit of the doubt. What makes you think that if you stand up for yourself, she won't do the same?

Don't know how old you are, but there'll be much more of this crap to come in your life. Stand up for YOURSELF.

[skygazer]

50. "Give all that up"?

Being ditched and humiliated and brought along like a lapdog on her date with another guy?

Yeah, that sounds like something that would be tough to give up, all right. :silly:

[Solly Mack]

10. You don't seriously plan to go do you?

[hickman1937]

19. Are you paying for this?

Even if you're not, this smacks of desperation. What kind of ego maniac brings another guy on a date? Why are you even considering this? Sorry. I was trying not to sound harsh, just stunned.:hi:

[jdonaldball]

21. Just tell the other guy to pay for you

[bettyellen]

26. DO NOT GO NO MATTER WHAT -- TRUST US ON THIS !!!

she's an asshole, this is a really lame power trip. Don't enable her bullshit.
Go someplace new, find somebody who's straight up nice for fuck sake. And have some fun.
There's always time for revenge later.....

[BlueJazz]

27. I'm going to go with the other people and KICK YOUR ASS!

Good God, Brother...Tell this manipulative, unfeeling childish Girl (She's not a Woman) to take her date, her "boyfriend" and herself and stick them all where the sun don't shine.

You're not acting like a Man....Please don't be a boyish doormat.

[hickman1937]

31. BTW, call her and tell her that

you can't make it because you have to be on a conference call tonight, issues having to do with your trust fund. Then lock your doors, and take turn off the phone. For awhile.

[Guaranteed]

32. ROFL

His MULTI-MILLION DOLLAR trust fund, even.

[hickman1937]

39. Unfortunatly, I just read that he's known her

for 6 months, so she might not buy it. But an inheritance, well those just come out of the blue, don't they?

[SOteric]

33. I can't think of a single thing that would make me go on such a date.

Nope, nope...not even chloroform.

Show some esteem, some pride, sweetie. And in my book you get bonus points if you've got enough class to call her up and tell her you're no longer interested in her company.

[SarahB]

37. Why would you put yourself through that?

Be a man and tell her you found something better to do (even if you just stay home). Someone who treats a person like that isn't worth your time and energy. You're better than that.

[Skittles]

46. take her to the dance and then ditch her

do it

[Guaranteed]

52. Nah, cuz that would actually look like he can't stand being

around her and her boyfriend.

If he just does something else, though....

[bettyellen]

54. If he goes... ugh, and it looks like he is... he cannot hang on the edge

of this date and be all pleasant.
That's too fucking sad, and it's just what this bitch wants. Men lined up for her.
If he goes he's just gotta chase other women.

[Guaranteed]

60. That's why he just can't go.

There's too much that WILL go wrong if he does. He looks reactionary at that point, and he's already screwed.

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

63. Agreed. The simple answer is, no way should he go.

[bettyellen]

64. I have never before seen a thread before where everybody agreed! LOL!!

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

47. Are you, like, a glutton for humiliation or something? You stand HER up

and never speak to her again, if you were smart.

You were probably going to pay their way too? :wtf:

[Liberal In Texas]

48. Good grief...If ANYBODY stands you up, that's it.-adios.

<Big red lights flashing and warning klaxons sounding>

I don't care how much you think you like this person, you obviously don't know her.

If she'll do that, who knows what else is in her low character. Ditch her, there are way too many other women in the world. You can do much better.

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

56. Also, consider that she may think you 'didn't get the message' that she

is not interested in you romantically by standing you up, and therefore is compounding the punishment by having you be the humiliated 3d wheel on this "date".

Doesn't make any of it right, I don't care how obtuse you might be about this, it's still a cruel thing to do.

I still think the best options for you are either to stand her up or just call up and say you can't make it without explanation.

I did mean what I posted earlier above about never speaking to her afterwards but it doesn't sound very likely that you will do this from what you have posted.

[hickman1937]

69. 20 bucks says you're going

no matter what anyone says. Have fun.

[Guaranteed]

71. I know. That's the worst of it.

I just know he's going to do it.

It's just the worst thing in the world.

PLEASE, Philosophy- do yourself a favor. Don't go.

Just don't.

Don't.

[Tweed]

87. Ahem

Can I have my twenty dollars?

[Philosophy]

74. Thanks all! I've decided I'm definitely NOT going.

I'll probably even go out somewhere else by myself and have even more fun anyway.

[Liberal In Texas]

75. Good idea. Go someplace where you might meet someone new n/t

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

76. YAY for you! I think even staying at home with a beer and a remote

control on your chest would be more fun than this date. Go do something, anything, and have a good time.

[EstimatedProphet]

78. Even better!

And if (ha ha) she calls to find out why you didn't show, turn the TV up really loud and munch corn chips while you say something more important came up.

[Tweed]

77. Smart move go somewhere WITH yourself

Go to a movie, get some pizza, treat yourself.

[Guaranteed]

79. That is SO AWESOME, Philosophy.

You're a STRONG man. :)

You're gonna have a great time tonight without her. Just watch. ;)

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

80. DU brothers and sisters taking care of each other! (snif)

:cry:

[Guaranteed]

81. It's beautiful, isn't it?

This is a GREAT VICTORY for justice!!!

WHOOHOO!! :toast:

[bettyellen]

82. i'm going to have to call on you guys when i have weak moment!

hey y'all, talk me outta doing_________!
we did good, Goose!

[Guaranteed]

84. Hee hee...yeah- call on me when you have a weak moment.

;)

Maybe I'll talk ya INTO somethin'....

[bettyellen]

88. LOL, not that hard to do...........

[bettyellen]

83. you can come over and play poker w/ me and the boys.......

[Fleshdancer]

85. I'm SO glad you reconsidered

real women are out there. no reason to hang out in the sand box with the little girls...life is too damn short to deal with the selfish. :)

[tjdee]

90. So glad you didn't go!!

Only hope you didn't change your mind after a couple drinks got in ya!!