What is it like, negotiating a pre-nup?

[LoZoccolo]

Everyone who's never gone through it thinks it would be so awkward, but it happens all the time so a lot of people must be cool with it on some level. Is it like, right after you're all happy you're gonna get married, you sit in a room with your lawyers and only speak through them and hammer out "I will agree to _____ if you take out _____. Otherwise, it's a deal-breaker."

[Floogeldy]

1. Generally speaking

Very broadly speaking. Okay.

[liberalhistorian]

2. As a paralegal, I've been privy to more

than a few of these negotiations, and my experience corroborates what you're saying. Most of the time, the parties already knew what they wanted, had agreed to it between themselves, and just needed the formalization of it. Very rarely did things get ugly, and there were rarely any "surprises" sprung on one of the parties.

[LoZoccolo]

3. I guess the part before that is curious to me as well.

It would actually be worse trying to agree on all this stuff between each other without lawyers beforehand.

[liberalhistorian]

4. Actually, most couples are

usually on the same wavelength when they start talking about it. If they aren't, and problems result, they often end up breaking off the engagement before ever going to lawyers.