Ok, So I'm married to an older blond air head!!!

[a kennedy]

It's going to be 25 years in April that I've been married to this guy, and he's a blond!!!!! He's actually a sterling silver headed guy, but d*mn, in his demeanor, attitude and presence he's a blond!! You'd think I would have caught on before, but nope, it took me all this time to finally realize he's a blond with no commitment, no brain, and only a desire to not piss anyone off except me. In discussions we've had with others, his statements, and non backing me up, has left me out to dry a LOT OF TIMES!! In discussions with friends, acquaintances and neighbors I'll say something along liberal lines, and when the others come up with some fundi attitudes, my husband will side with them, just because he doesn't want to make waves, or piss them off. I've had it, and I'm done trying to be Mrs. Nice Guy. Should I call it quits with my husband??? I'm this close to kicking him out.

[7th_Sephiroth]

1. the dwar

the gun is in the dwar

[DS1]

2. Give my regards to Teddy

:shrug:

[bobbobbins]

3. dump him...no excuse for stupidity

[hickman1937]

4. Sounds like a brunette to me.

Kick his butt.

[roguevalley]

6. 25 years is a long time. Ignore his shit. You have a soul. Its yours.

Can't lead a donkey to smarts.

[DemBones DemBones]

5. You're saying it's taken you 25 years to figure out HE has no brain?

:eyes:

Seriously, maybe if you talk to him, this marriage can be saved.

[amazona]

7. one of my closest friends lacks a brain

I can only imagine how tough it would be with a husband who lacks that particular organ.

Vent, get over it, love him for what he is. There are times when I feel like whapping my friend over the head and leaving him in the river. So I have a tiny clue of what you are feeling.

You probably didn't fall in love with his brain but with his body, his sexuality, and his "easy to get along with ness." There is a great deal to be said for a husband who is easy to get along with and who doesn't want to make waves. Don't kick him out. Sleep on it. In the morning, get up and inform him that you've quit your job and he is paying for your round-the-world backpacking trip to Australia and you'll see him in 3 months after you've got your head together.

If he puts up with that and pays for it, you have a keeper.

You can always get a divorce later if my idea doesn't work out.


P.S. My partner has a HUGE brain but is very easy-going so I really don't fully know what you are going through. It's great having a partner who is tolerant of one's foibles is really all I know.

The conservation movement is a breeding ground of communists
and other subversives. We intend to clean them out,
even if it means rounding up every birdwatcher in the country.
--John Mitchell, US Attorney General 1969-72

[a kennedy]

9. D*mn.

I do love him, and I can find others that stimulate me and my political ways, and, he does do the shopping, and cooks all our meals, so, I guess after almost 25 years, I'll still try, & try to tolerate his blondness.

[amazona]

10. you're making the right choice! NT

,

The conservation movement is a breeding ground of communists
and other subversives. We intend to clean them out,
even if it means rounding up every birdwatcher in the country.
--John Mitchell, US Attorney General 1969-72

[ocean girl]

8. Kick him out!

Life is too short to spend one single day with someone who doesn't treat you with respect.

You deserve better.

[amazona]

11. i think he respects her

It sounds like he is a very kind person but he just doesn't like to "make waves."

We all have imperfections.

He's cooking and shopping for her. I say vent a little on this board or with girlfriends or whatever and give him his chance.

The conservation movement is a breeding ground of communists
and other subversives. We intend to clean them out,
even if it means rounding up every birdwatcher in the country.
--John Mitchell, US Attorney General 1969-72

[Groggy]

12. Maybe he just doesn't like confrontation...

Some people feel uncomfortable talking politics to others.


Try to think of the things you love about him...nobody's perfect. :shrug:

[Richard Steele]

14. Yeah, she said he's BLONDE, not a JERK...

And she sounds like a pretty smart person.
So if it took her this long to notice his FAULTS, how big could they be?

And as far as the "faults" mentioned, they sound more like OPPORTUNITIES to me.

So he isn't some stupid macho moron (MORAN) who wants to challenge everyone all the time?
Wow, does she know how many MILLIONS of women would be happy to TRADE?

Here at my house, my girlfriend used to have the same complaints...I hate confrontation, because I have NEVER been able to change the mind of anyone who actually challenged me.

But my girlfriend of 5 years (who just happens to be BLONDE all over) has found ways to encourage me to ACTION!

I am not good at one-on-one confrontations, but she has hooked me up with so many other situations where I can participate and make a difference!

So, she should play to his strengths: Decide what he is GOOD at; then light a fire under his ass to _DO_ those things somewhere where he can actually make a DIFFERENCE!

[RagingInMiami]

13. If it took you 25 years to realize he's an airhead

Then maybe you're a blonde as well.